2026-07-21T05:06:46Z https://njump.me JB 🐎 :neuro: https://njump.me/npub15ursmaef8cjvyxn5dsrph2t78c7h3gwrg9dlyzhl208e7c0s4unsz7fxs2 https://media.beige.party/accounts/avatars/112/541/100/493/148/816/original/eff8e77e0ac52532.jpg https://media.beige.party/accounts/avatars/112/541/100/493/148/816/original/eff8e77e0ac52532.jpg https://njump.me/nevent1qqszufv4jd3lh3m57ztfwes0sxj6dr79zk22n5zf9dxsvgh6gmah8lgzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwe9c38w In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsf7z0w879pxmyzp9gnr5zrm2675zsl9et3s7rf5pgnqm955e6h8gg8na7sx'>nevent1q…a7sx</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Totally agree. It needs to be seen as a need, the same as heating in winter. Sure, some wonderfully fit and healthy people can live without either, but for the rest of us, we need it. Especially with weather extremes.<br/><br/>Would still vote for you. 😁 No pressure…. Ahem… 2026-06-30T08:48:52Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqstwa5m6yx5qd9tclrgy6fvy67cxhddp9czwgkvt00224qwq5aw93szyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwhzh7v5 Happy Autistic Pride Day!<br/><br/> :neuro: <br/><br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1pce2s47dfhdj4daddyext3lm0p0ceum57krzejtll7q2y3adpxmsdugeep" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Actually Autistics</span> (<span class="italic">npub1pce…geep</span>)</a></span> <br/>#AutisticPrideDay #AutisticPride 2026-06-18T08:17:48Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsp0sxm0hmksarkmh36mswhvseht9jkt5l9k088ckzsvag4qel5etqzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw9gt647 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsp32824uggz2y3uvp0756pdgh2dk7hnssy7n5k5dydvl7jvpdhnvccdqy59'>nevent1q…qy59</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Not strictly “bugs”, but if broader entomology is their thing…<br/><br/>CW: spiders<br/><br/>Jumping spiders are some of the most intelligent of all spiders, but sadly their lifespans are shorter than their less intelligent relatives. It is thought that it might be due to the energetic demands of not only jumping but their evolution in developing this intelligence.<br/><br/>Bold jumping spiders (Phidippus audax) are named because of how they will happily (and peacefully) investigate a human if the human offers out a hand or something to explore. Other species are usually more cautious. They also have absolutely stunning iridescent chelicerae. And the white marks on the upper side of some individuals’ abdomens can look like a happy face, like this: :D <br/><br/>These spiders can also be trained and learn quickly. This is probably due to their style of attacking prey by jumping being very risky, so they use all their eyes, each pair being adapted to take in different information like distance or movement, and calculate how, where and when to jump… and whether it is safe! Some of their prey species use Batesian mimicry - where a harmless species evolved to look like another species that has dangerous defences, without actually evolving the dangerous defences. <br/><br/>These spiders are adorable (this is coming from me, a lifelong arachnophobe), especially when they make hilariously bad errors in their jumps, or turn to look at you when you’re around and talk to them. They’re not always “bold” as their name suggests, but just curious, and can often be very cautious and even get scared by their prey!<br/><br/>Lucas the Spider is a cartoon spider based on jumping spiders and goes a long way to show the cuteness and the trials and tribulations of these smol but impressive spoods. 💚 2026-01-26T07:53:41Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsrg0xc6d5c4cvmsu5m6kv0d79jdy3wf2vs8l2pc9hgw30vn0w2pngzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwln6mtp In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsvnem3xx6kgg79h54jgc3v8yxf8e7z4tv9a27u2d7q9q05jzedvnghrh2y8'>nevent1q…h2y8</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Eek! VERY nervous to share this special and big piece of artwork. It is A3 size.<br/><br/>This was an act of love. A gift to my now-husband and my own composition. We are both yogis (hence the mandala), and he adores dragonflies (has a tattoo of one over his heart).<br/><br/>I drew this in secret while he was away at work or on trips and gave it to him on his birthday. He cried happy tears. 🥲<br/><br/>I have since entered it into a tiny local art competition where it won first prize. Yikes! I hated winning over other great and unique entries so much that I will never enter another art competition again.<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/751/958/689/447/724/original/28ffb49ea393a9c3.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-20T13:05:29Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsvnem3xx6kgg79h54jgc3v8yxf8e7z4tv9a27u2d7q9q05jzedvngzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwzahh50 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs07my57ex3yyqqjr269fhg3ym7egs8y43aqhmfca8fj4m5n94fzlcw4p0g3'>nevent1q…p0g3</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>This photo inspires hope in me. There may be better, brighter days ahead, just around the corner.<br/><br/>I have a huge landscape version of this scene printed and framed at home - it was included in the course to have one photo printed at the end.<br/><br/>(From the same woodland photography trip.)<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/745/626/206/756/924/original/1a221dea2bceec81.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-19T10:03:25Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqs07my57ex3yyqqjr269fhg3ym7egs8y43aqhmfca8fj4m5n94fzlczyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwu3tu3r In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsv6vxxfcwv9yqnav38amual75vuv60x3ap55p5s8jl7s55gwvhq0s8avd2t'>nevent1q…vd2t</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>More light and colour ✨<br/><br/>From the same photography trip as before 🧡<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/740/584/514/595/164/original/2837e0203ddc0e41.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-18T12:37:21Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsv6vxxfcwv9yqnav38amual75vuv60x3ap55p5s8jl7s55gwvhq0szyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwvz8wly In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs0xe8mrfwdfwp7zjf48hr9nhvqfqnp9z0zyvhau42zfuzwcfenlmcxw0vsg'>nevent1q…0vsg</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>More colour and light from the same photography practice trip in a wonderful woodland. 💛<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/734/739/236/045/902/original/a2a9a5e1ed3f58fa.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-17T11:50:03Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqs0xe8mrfwdfwp7zjf48hr9nhvqfqnp9z0zyvhau42zfuzwcfenlmczyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw94sqdl In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs0c7q963xxrq053430enwmwjqyez77ny42ss3uds7z99cvp8uq0ucudrvsz'>nevent1q…rvsz</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Colour!<br/><br/>Recently, I saw someone posting about how beneficial it is to look for colour during winter as a way to lift our spirits if the dark days are getting us down.<br/><br/>So, I dug out this photo from photography practice in 2019 from walking in one of my favourite types of places: a wild woodland.<br/><br/>Isn’t this fungi amazing?<br/>#ArtAdventCalendar #fungiverse #fungi<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/730/299/483/534/804/original/b62062ebe801f522.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-16T17:00:06Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqs0c7q963xxrq053430enwmwjqyez77ny42ss3uds7z99cvp8uq0uczyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw0mc2nx In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs2yaa3sprg743vkh2csnljs7us2wrgsvf22yx66ugj5m4c9qm5jgs34lzy5'>nevent1q…lzy5</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>A world within a puddle.<br/><br/>This one seems a good choice to share today due to the dark, grey, wet days here at the moment!<br/><br/>This was taken during some photography practice for a short evening course that I did back in 2019.<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/724/471/632/084/919/original/d599634d1f0f02a6.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-15T16:18:39Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqs2yaa3sprg743vkh2csnljs7us2wrgsvf22yx66ugj5m4c9qm5jgszyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwm0qt09 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsy3jfm03vm6aujuzypdw2nszrwagzl75du89dacv2274qx907vcpqzustx7'>nevent1q…stx7</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Just sharing some rough practice sketches and scribbles today. This was in preparation for the beaver drawing I shared yesterday. <br/><br/>I had never used those nifty pencil eraser pens before, and wanted to check I knew all the varieties of pencils that I had before I started. It had been a few years since my previous significant drawing, and many years before that… very glad I dusted off my skills beforehand.<br/><br/>I was certainly ready to procrastinate forevermore on drawing the final picture because it was so daunting due to relying on accurately drawn textures rather than easier-to-draw shading and outlines. I had never drawn detailed fur or water ripples before… this seems to be a theme for my art! Why do I do this to myself?! 🤣<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/717/369/965/565/906/original/23ec3d4608350814.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/717/371/547/493/744/original/a517ae0532ccee09.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/717/372/092/642/788/original/8c63c7f54764e81a.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-14T10:25:08Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsy3jfm03vm6aujuzypdw2nszrwagzl75du89dacv2274qx907vcpqzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwjgkygw In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsvudwgt2da4pkrxanffuq8prnzcrcs6ry5qt4nsuv58sdvsh4xl5gsyc0yd'>nevent1q…c0yd</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Eeek showing one of my bigger pieces of art today. A beaver!<br/><br/>The back story is my mum wanted a gift for her 70th and explicitly asked me for some art of mine. She didn’t even mind if it was ‘old’ art. But I couldn’t exactly give her a rough sketchbook page.<br/><br/>She had been such a great supporter of my undergrad zoology degree (2020-2024), even coming with me on a muddy December afternoon to traipse round a new local beaver enclosure. I had chosen to do a mini dissertation about beaver ecology and created my own field trip. My mum tried to memorise all the facts about beavers while we were there! Her enthusiasm fed into mine and I ended up doing some of my best work and winning an academic prize for it in the process. So I HAD to draw a beaver for her!<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/711/914/553/920/844/original/5c7686e03f0ce455.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-13T11:09:52Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsvudwgt2da4pkrxanffuq8prnzcrcs6ry5qt4nsuv58sdvsh4xl5gzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw7rl6u8 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqstr5ktwpqn99tsx83dqffee99c308aan5d2u5prn9rr5ygv48cucgqd97dm'>nevent1q…97dm</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Just a lil’ pyrography doodle!<br/><br/>Getting to know my pyrography tool in the early days. I’ve still got a LOT yet to learn! Really hope I can get back to it.<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/706/377/278/099/703/original/3c82a3528a013d42.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-12T11:36:08Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqs2grt8kp5en8trafe4xvdenh34y3n3543g9zw6cc09mqaqzt3na8szyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw29ymsu In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9yyt04dgcyl7l4yx277syartn3kyqcalrt6vjkgdpvjfmh5ypzzqkl7llp'>nevent1q…7llp</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>This is beautiful! Good morning 😊 2025-12-11T14:21:29Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqstr5ktwpqn99tsx83dqffee99c308aan5d2u5prn9rr5ygv48cucgzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw4zdq8z In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsrcg39s2d6e9gz4sv994207au6j3ncjv388hx3vfh8xasns7us7psc7crfe'>nevent1q…crfe</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Sketched this after meeting this short-eared owl on the coast path near St Davids in Pembrokeshire (Wales).<br/><br/>Was such a wonderful encounter!<br/><br/>Had to do the sketch after downloading photos of the owl from my ancient camera to my laptop later, though. There was no chance I could do this from memory 😅 Photos included below.<br/><br/>Also never drawn an owl before. As I mentioned yesterday, horses were my usual subjects so I’m very much learning all other subjects! I wish I rounded the wing tips better, they look too pointed in my sketch. They really do have long, rounded-rectangle-like wings! Quite thick and boxy looking. Drawing really helps me see details like these, even when I can’t quite depict them in my sketches.<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/700/471/703/046/456/original/425e365fece5ee39.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/700/492/182/392/851/original/76f7bd1794aa2750.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/700/498/710/762/539/original/5f84dee188d10f95.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/700/498/714/326/222/original/dce942dd972264f0.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-11T10:48:14Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsrcg39s2d6e9gz4sv994207au6j3ncjv388hx3vfh8xasns7us7pszyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw4k7l77 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqszzd3mve9wns7glecg52ng08pw8a2axh8770hj6x35z4msyfe487gsy9n44'>nevent1q…9n44</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Today’s #ArtAdventCalendar is going to break the pattern and, sadly, disappoint.<br/><br/>Today I wish I could share with you some of the literal-thousands of horse drawings, paintings, and other art in traditional and digital forms that I’ve done since I was tiny. But, I can’t.<br/><br/>I have an artist’s block that relates to the fact horses have and always will be my autistic special interest, and that I’ve been bullied and judged for it since I turned about 12 when I “should have grown out of it”. From then, I learned I must hide it to survive.<br/><br/>People who know me very well today often don’t realise just how deep my love of horses runs, how knowledgable I became, and how I miss time with horses like I miss a piece of my soul.<br/><br/>Here’s to every artist who has ever experienced a block. ❤️🐎 2025-12-10T13:20:16Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqszzd3mve9wns7glecg52ng08pw8a2axh8770hj6x35z4msyfe487gzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwz7tzkj In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsv4fh6lfqpjz9ksfdvxw5qrruj7cz8jfuq9tlmn34d05h0v3nemeq52jpre'>nevent1q…jpre</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I hereby name today Tiny Tree Tuesday! 🌳<br/><br/>Pyrography art of a smol tree from 2018 on a home-prepped slice of oak wood.<br/><br/>This is another one of those oak slices with the natural star in the centre, hence the gap in the tree’s trunk. The star might be a bit easier to see in this photo than my earlier art with the ocean wave.<br/><br/>I took these two with me on an epic trip around the USA. I believe this photo was taken at the beach at Crescent City, CA, not long after a wonderful trip into the redwoods at Jedediah Smith Redwoods State Park.<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/688/863/813/533/535/original/82a4efb9de23ff55.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-09T09:31:05Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsv4fh6lfqpjz9ksfdvxw5qrruj7cz8jfuq9tlmn34d05h0v3nemeqzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwzpm6uk In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsz7nhd25settmw2x84zrwmt55s79vh3m70apqrh4ne43pmjsaurhgxk3gw4'>nevent1q…3gw4</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I’ve always enjoyed studying how some artists create the impression of something without filling in all the details. Both approaches require skill.<br/><br/>I’d say sometimes I want to fill in all the details and create an accurate depiction of the subject (hello to my autistic side!) and other times I want the same quality of picture but faster and more fun (hello to my ADHD side!)<br/><br/>This sketch took just a few minutes of playing and looks quite different to my more detailed art. I dream of having a dedicated space for art one day where I can do similar with paint on a huge canvas, the space allowing me to use big gestures with my arms and not be confined to little movements of my hand.<br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/683/207/623/170/084/original/d9e024e21b07dc66.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-08T09:36:42Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsz7nhd25settmw2x84zrwmt55s79vh3m70apqrh4ne43pmjsaurhgzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw4xj89t In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsfp6l28cqzf79052vy94jwue4fvrmyj77hwhfx4st03zaykh7l2vczplv6d'>nevent1q…lv6d</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>A quick sketch of an enchanting wooden door in the Cotswolds back in 2019. <br/><br/>I sketched this from a photo since sketching on the street would be a bit of a challenge in such a touristy place! Even in February.<br/><br/>I can tell this is an unfinished sketch because of how light the pencil is - I usually go back over some details to help certain features stand out. But doors are not my passion and this was just practice.<br/><br/>I think next time I might even try using a bit of artistic licence to build out the sparse plant next to the door so that it frames the door a bit more. But sometimes, I will admit, I prefer to sketch an accurate “truth” of what I saw rather than aim for a pleasing result.<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/678/144/645/167/963/original/567719fee4ceea27.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-07T12:01:42Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsfp6l28cqzf79052vy94jwue4fvrmyj77hwhfx4st03zaykh7l2vczyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwm8zas5 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswlz9693lu8x0uhv7y396h5q2g7ztqytsvy8lu3kgx00ec0jklezs0swn35'>nevent1q…wn35</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Is photography art? I think so. And I find it incredibly challenging!<br/><br/>I find it hard to carry a larger camera with lenses, but enjoy playing when I have the chance or just using my phone most other times. I have one very old, very well travelled dSLR camera and that’s enough for me. But I do not have a steady hand, quick reactions nor a brain to decipher settings (despite several short courses, including in the last few years!) I used to love graphic design and editing but haven’t had the patience for a decade or more. I’m a point-and-click’er now! And that’s OK by me.<br/><br/>So here are some swallow fledglings from 2022. Perched on a glass wall between apartment balconies.<br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/672/440/742/843/905/original/d829d3cdfbf98dbd.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-06T11:50:01Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqswlz9693lu8x0uhv7y396h5q2g7ztqytsvy8lu3kgx00ec0jklezszyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwqca3pd In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsz2gwexync0xu4a8k2ppguuf3wcd9j20x2sf43vzrda0zrlunwetg2ma5nt'>nevent1q…a5nt</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>A surprise gift for a numismatist (coin collector) with a love of bison.<br/><br/>Pyrography on a wood slice that I collected locally from a dead branch, sanded and prepped.<br/><br/>Numismatists spend a lot of time looking through hand lenses to magnify tiny details on coins that reveal their story from the mint onwards. I was as careful as I could be to preserve important characteristics of this original coin, a Buffalo nickel (USA), but this mint (i.e. me, the artist, not an actual mint) is rather… ahem… imperfect! 😁 I adore animals and so the bison got most of my love and attention, and the lettering… well… was “creative”?!<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/666/574/495/033/396/original/92db4f33b02259bc.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/666/575/197/592/206/original/9800b2430bede4bd.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-05T11:00:15Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsz2gwexync0xu4a8k2ppguuf3wcd9j20x2sf43vzrda0zrlunwetgzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw95m5lv In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs2f7uw9j6czk0ef7cctu2v2c8rjpxgr962fe2cm8evgnunvuv5rhcvt897j'>nevent1q…897j</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>(Time to be brave and keep up the momentum in posting my art! 🫣 Thank you, everyone, for your very kind words, favourites and boosts.)<br/><br/>Here’s a timelapse video of me doodling!<br/><br/>You can get cheap off cuts of wood from home improvement places like B&amp;Q and these short pine panels were fab for letting me doodle using pyrography so I could practice. They’re not ideal for a finished piece due to the cut and lack of fine grain sanding, etc., but great for building skills since it will be tricker to work with it!<br/><br/>With pyrography, not only is your pen tethered by the cable that powers it, disturbing the weight distribution in your hand, but you also need to pay close attention to speed, pressure, temperature, draughts, and wood grains. The type of wood makes a big difference too: pine burns quickly!<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/><video controls width="100%" class="max-h-[90vh] bg-neutral-300 dark:bg-zinc-700"><source src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/661/002/285/134/138/original/476ebc1796b889e4.mp4"></video><br/> 2025-12-04T11:31:16Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqs2f7uw9j6czk0ef7cctu2v2c8rjpxgr962fe2cm8evgnunvuv5rhczyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwht3k9j In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdagh2m5a6hk920kncvtlzsd20t9rhcvtg0pdqruhpv3rf7z8e8wcf40jff'>nevent1q…0jff</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>This experimental piece ended up being a very special piece of artwork to me that I did in 2020. Part of my first ever commissioned artwork, so I was slightly sad to part with it but delighted it was received well.<br/><br/>I’ve done lots of detailed artwork in the past but never like this. It was my first time creating a miniature. It’s a partial copy of The Great Wave off Kanagawa by Katsushika Hokusai (1831).<br/><br/>I used a slice of oak branch that I sourced myself from a small dead branch off a local tree. Note the star in the centre of the wood and the natural ray-like lines in the wood around it. I didn’t want to hide these details so did not paint the sky, but instead left the wood behind visible.<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/655/810/996/400/364/original/0bd771f7df3cc010.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/655/811/081/289/615/original/8f38e0de804468c7.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/655/811/321/297/680/original/87269e32b8a3315e.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/655/811/379/475/411/original/fa480e44565d179f.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-03T13:33:36Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsdagh2m5a6hk920kncvtlzsd20t9rhcvtg0pdqruhpv3rf7z8e8wczyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwjnzeel In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqstcuwzfh9j0lrnt7ctdmxt9uw20hpt4w22jvwthd7az2mgc5259jgthyf5a'>nevent1q…yf5a</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I remember making this sketch and not really thinking about the composition since it was just a practice sketch. But afterwards, I noticed that it worked quite well. I just darkened some outlines to enhance the focal area (mainly around the lily flower and its one leaf) to give it a bit of interest.<br/><br/>To me, when I look closely, I see so many details missing that could be more interesting if I added them. But, when I take a step back I do see it works as it stands. I don’t think I’ll ever be satisfied with my art due to this type of conflict… and that’s OK. It’s fun to experiment.<br/><br/>#ArtAdventCalendar<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/651/893/963/950/736/original/9bd8efdd28a11ed2.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-02T20:42:02Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqstcuwzfh9j0lrnt7ctdmxt9uw20hpt4w22jvwthd7az2mgc5259jgzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw8ta5wt Not sure I’ll be able to post once a day for #ArtAdventCalendar but I’d like to join in as often as I can, regardless.<br/><br/>The purpose for me is to reconnect with art I have done in the past and perhaps inspire something new, and also connect with other creators. 💚<br/><br/>These are some quick pencil sketches from almost ten years ago.<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/644/798/381/848/734/original/b8a01fbce31b7e28.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-12-01T14:36:11Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsg8yfqga995ep83dcdvdt98ns9x60hy55en7dqkmhaejxmmz60dvszyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw08n2mn #SilentSunday<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/400/705/894/942/162/original/513e0501448bbe6a.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-10-19T11:58:58Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsgcq05prpu562wmtrjf9ncmemehnklrm4wu8r8uvlvaf93xsetcnczyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw8g87hs A personal share about some realisations I’ve had: I am taking stock of something that I’ve been told many times, but never actually believed…<br/><br/>I am apparently great at researching topics, I go very deep and even digest a lot of up-to-date scientific and technical information rather well.<br/><br/>I do this much more than the average person, and it is likely because I’m autistic, with a healthy dose of ADHD hyperfixation thrown into the mix!<br/><br/>What does being neurodivergent have to do with this? Well, I hate unexpected things because I cannot cope well with them so I research heavily in advance of something new to empower me. I also don’t fully understand superficial explanations of things like NT folk seem to. If anything, superficial explanations leave me much more confused than no explanations at all, so I go deep to learn about them instead. Oh, and I also find enjoyment in learning, generally, about science and technology, and it plays to my strengths.<br/><br/>However… there is a specific aspect to being like this that I hadn’t considered until now. <br/><br/>I think I intimidate some medical professionals. 😶 I do not mean to AT ALL. I actually assume they have at least the same knowledge if not much better because they’re the experts, not me. This assumption is part of the problem. I seem to get disappointed in conversations with them because I can’t understand why they would talk about out-of-date ideas or they wouldn’t know about and understand a major recent break through in something relevant. I think this is causing tension in my conversations with them.<br/><br/>What to do? I think I need to broach conversations like these with an open mind about the level of knowledge of the experts I speak with. I am holding them to a standard that they may not be able to achieve - e.g. why would a generalist like a GP spend their time researching one, single complex medical condition and know the latest published science about it? Some may know about it, sure, most would not. Also, when speaking with a non-medical member of staff who specialises in my medical condition, I need to remember they might not be able to read and digest the medical research like I seem to be able to. <br/><br/>I am not an expert like either of these people - but I seem to come with my own knowledge or skills that they do not, and that is REALLY surprising to me. <br/><br/>But I must remember this - for better conversations AND to give myself credit for all I do to seek a better quality of life for myself. I always assume that what I know will be out-of-date or incorrect in some way because these medical-related skills are only very recent skills for me, a forty-something-year-old person!<br/><br/>I hope I can keep sharing the benefits of these skills so that others with similar health challenges can benefit too. Without a doubt a lot of this came from doing my recent undergraduate degree that included many human biology topics. But I am still not an expert and not medically trained. So it is rather like all this is a special interest, except it’s driven more by necessity than joy… even if I do find enjoyment along the way, especially in the form of hope for my future. I’d much rather be doing other things with my time, but hope keeps me going while I have a chronic illness that holds me back.<br/><br/>Also: I HIGHLY suspect I’m not the only chronically ill person who has developed some great knowledge / skills in this way and experienced these challenges, neurodivergent or not. I’d be really interested to hear of others’ experiences and tips about how to navigate the disappointments and keep conversations tension-free! 😅 <br/><br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1pce2s47dfhdj4daddyext3lm0p0ceum57krzejtll7q2y3adpxmsdugeep" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Actually Autistics</span> (<span class="italic">npub1pce…geep</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1m6mtcka9csej8n6p4j5kut2clwawfdv3huqsagvw05zd9jt6ln0qszxked" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>ME/CFS</span> (<span class="italic">npub1m6m…xked</span>)</a></span><br/>#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD 2025-09-19T10:58:15Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsxenueeukrptylpp7gjr56m5e5w8qd9mz8zye6vf95kcujwajkl0qzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwye57vt Right. So. I went from zero walks in September to 3 in the previous 4 days. Only short, gentle ambles round the corner and back… but…<br/><br/>What changed?<br/><br/>Remembering how to *truly* rest.<br/><br/>Apparently my usual ways of winding down and switching off don’t work anywhere near as well for me as either reading a book or watching nature (in this case, just gazing out the window or at our little yarden is enough.)<br/><br/>The latter is “undirected attention”, and has been a MAJOR missing piece to my deliberate rest time most of my adult life (as a kid I would be in nature or with animals as much as I was allowed and did this loads!)<br/><br/>I discovered the idea thanks to stumbling across this article in The Conversation:<br/><br/><a href="https://theconversation.com/how-letting-your-mind-wander-can-reset-your-brain-259854">https://theconversation.com/how-letting-your-mind-wander-can-reset-your-brain-259854</a> 2025-09-14T10:20:03Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqs8d8u3hkkgy7meekwtua0ykr8zs3gdhz4rrcj9e44ernqc38x0ctszyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwmg95fl #SilentSunday<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/115/201/826/848/791/856/original/0319fc10924a69fc.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-09-14T09:02:02Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqs2mnee9ezcdp67gwt0jw4vnxnc3zr6p3kc85n2hm60zgw8tczvfzqzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwpmjc6g In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9kepzggfamqz555wmshxr4e3cjrg36qq6gteaz3cq5hqja2uckmq2fqd33'>nevent1q…qd33</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Wow! Incredible views of nature! Looks idyllic! 😍 2025-09-02T18:12:48Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsz3353pqwc6f0td5zj2yrgest4ns7y0qv656cna60kvgegdv5jnjszyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwjhcngf In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs2sc05e340kjaf269nd4nd47t89qraw8gw8fnr8gy9ax8dprdsutss0dq0h'>nevent1q…dq0h</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>This might be helpful:<br/><br/><a href="https://news.mit.edu/2022/neural-networks-brain-function-1102">https://news.mit.edu/2022/neural-networks-brain-function-1102</a> <br/><br/>And this:<br/><br/><a href="https://www.ox.ac.uk/news/2024-01-03-study-shows-way-brain-learns-different-way-artificial-intelligence-systems-learn">https://www.ox.ac.uk/news/2024-01-03-study-shows-way-brain-learns-different-way-artificial-intelligence-systems-learn</a><br/><br/>And this:<br/><br/><a href="https://www.quantamagazine.org/ai-is-nothing-like-a-brain-and-thats-ok-20250430/">https://www.quantamagazine.org/ai-is-nothing-like-a-brain-and-thats-ok-20250430/</a><br/><br/>Good luck! 2025-08-10T09:33:37Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsvgnv0d0el3jhd4v8328989jfs88j2k3sm6vm2fvs6j6n4w9rmljgzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwzjlxuf I found a wondrous Thing! <br/><br/>I have so my questions!<br/><br/>What is it?<br/>Where did it come from?<br/>Is it broken or is it meant to be like that?<br/><br/>Found it on the pavement outside my house. It is remarkably clean, which makes me even more curious!<br/><br/>Anyone have any ideas what it could be? Serious and comedy suggestions both welcome! (Yet I’d love to know what it actually is!)<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/114/833/415/441/753/383/original/da403db98cc7d1a3.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-07-11T07:34:15Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsgu4lvlzng9wfkj3sucllns0c0e3mjauadwfyk65ktcz0h06qe9sqzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwtcmq82 Many of you will know this already, but please share this information widely!<br/><br/>“If your dog will jump in the nearest river, pond or lake given half a chance, don’t use spot-on treatments for fleas and ticks, say researchers.”<br/><br/>Flea treatments on dogs are effective because they are extremely strong invertebrate killers in their tiny doses AND they are designed to last a long time. These same benefits are exactly what makes them a nature-killing nightmare for aquatic life and wildlife that eats them including birds. If you need to use topical flea treatment (preferably this is only if they currently have fleas, NOT as a year-round preventative which is an outdated practice now): keep your dog out of all wild water, even ephemeral ponds, for as many *months* as you can, and dispose of shedded dog hair in the bin (can kill chicks if used as nesting materials).<br/><br/><a href="https://www.newscientist.com/article/2482650-dogs-pollute-water-with-pesticides-even-weeks-after-flea-treatment/">https://www.newscientist.com/article/2482650-dogs-pollute-water-with-pesticides-even-weeks-after-flea-treatment/</a> #dogs #dogsofmastodon #dogstodon 2025-06-15T10:36:23Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsvxltadluf9v3h7wm9jknc4mzsx83s75d0e0vwh9pur584wpanmsszyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwh7js4n In case anyone wants to know my life philosophies… 💚<br/><br/>Charlie Mackesy is so talented. Love that this came out in 2019, and the gorgeous animated adaptation in December 2022. (Still available on BBC iPlayer.) <br/><br/>And yes, hell yes, Charlie can draw horses! So few famous artists and animators can! At least not well. (Horses are my lifelong SpIn, this is important haha!!)<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/114/641/234/307/831/733/original/caf8a262e1d13f55.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/114/641/235/344/179/087/original/5d86d43f061f94b4.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/114/641/235/695/792/112/original/0833501782a8171a.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-06-07T09:10:27Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsvhh74nf6wxz4spp3mq8xxp8zgauw64qyxn43sqddvwh944lt84vqzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwxef8nw 🤣<br/><br/>Reposting this with ALT text.<br/><br/>H/t <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1v7xvytpre2yxlmzwkxlp7uf4e8paxnrk5wkhtut2ujpm4fyymwsq2td4dm" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>spaf</span> (<span class="italic">npub1v7x…d4dm</span>)</a></span> <br/><br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub148jhm6u3tqxmufugd30tad52alndfsdv5el4fvz6pwagm7rpxlasrfucy6" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>actuallyadhd group</span> (<span class="italic">npub148j…ucy6</span>)</a></span> #ADHD <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub10v4vhs3yx0g5lyw7wjn3arkqdazna5v7p237m79wc9lk6d5r72lsnls27h" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>ActuallyAutistic group</span> (<span class="italic">npub10v4…s27h</span>)</a></span> #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/114/455/336/039/479/076/original/fcf92c7aba87ff6d.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-05-05T13:03:40Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsz5dtvh3mm79eetwfje3pezkjk7p8fchekaun6vyqcvkz7pctrtcczyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwgmjzhy In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9ssyhslwx9qkhjdxt0agj93ygg92859dk3rc279qwe90mrxce7ng8pu340'>nevent1q…u340</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>An update on my ADHD-fuelled, spontaneous spring bulb mass-purchase shenanigans!!! (See above post to catch up on the funny back story!)<br/><br/>They’re sprouting!! 🌱 I’m so excited!<br/><br/>Photo evidence attached!<br/><br/>Not yet got a plan for those extra seeds I forgot about - MUST remember that I seem to have seeds that need planting almost every month from now, but… I keep forgetting 😅<br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/114/115/665/606/873/515/original/df01007144faf8d6.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/114/115/665/870/620/003/original/0604e9916386889b.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/114/115/665/886/513/083/original/76dc819b5e8a20bc.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://media.beige.party/media_attachments/files/114/115/665/853/513/255/original/09388668d827d180.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-03-06T13:18:11Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsvmxqj8m82sg0gg0tsxl8zqhcvqmtyfg7q5wawcut02td2guagaygzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw0ljpmq I’m putting it out there: I really wish I knew some coding people who are not cis male that I could look up to, be inspired by. I am yet again surround by cis males in tech on my course - and they are truly brilliant and inspiring - but I feel like I don’t belong and shouldn’t be here.<br/><br/>The people I am seeking to follow and be inspired by are those who “code first” (not sure how to describe that, hence the quotes) and didn’t adopt more of a PR or front-facing role, mostly leaving coding behind as the vast majority of females I know in tech eventually did. (And a reason why I felt I also didn’t belong in tech or coding and should follow them, after I was told all I do as a web dev who directly helped my employer’s entire business scale up is “just pretty things up”).<br/><br/>So: who are some non cis males whose career is centred on coding excellence who I could follow online somehow? Really not sure of the right words to describe this, so please rephrase “coding excellence” if you need - I mean people who mostly just want to code, be great at code, inspire others to be great too, they could teach or not, lecture or not, just hang out online, whatever. Their actual job could be in almost ANY industry, not just software dev or similar.<br/><br/>#coding #softwaredevelopment #webdevelopment #coders #diversityintech 2025-01-09T09:08:17Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqs9ssyhslwx9qkhjdxt0agj93ygg92859dk3rc279qwe90mrxce7ngzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwxue65s Who wants an update on my ADHD-fuelled purchase of far too many bulbs for our tiny garden?! Yes, I know you do. 😆<br/><br/>Recap:<br/><br/>A few months ago, I got excited when I saw a deal online for 500 spring bulbs for £11.99, delivered. I bought them very quickly!! Thanks ADHD brain!<br/><br/>Then, that led to a purchase of a pyramid planter for more space to plant said bulbs, because of course we didn’t actually have space for 500 bulbs. We customised the planter by buying and attaching a trough on the back for water and adding some wicking ropes, drilled holes into the planter troughs for the ropes to lay in the bottom of the soil to keep plants hydrated in summer, save water, etc. Then needed to buy 4 x bags of compost!!<br/><br/>We managed to plant quite a lot of bulbs already a couple of weeks ago, but had more to go!<br/><br/>Since then:<br/><br/>A recent revelation is that I actually bought some wild flower seeds as a fun holiday gift for my partner and TOTALLY forgot, so we also have those to scatter in either spring or autumn! (Totally forgot I bought those because I hid them in a drawer!) So I’ll have to see where we are with space to scatter those in a few months! Maybe some bulbs won’t grow, maybe some plants will have gone over by autumn. Haha… hmm!! 🤣<br/><br/>And then, well… we just bought another two troughs. Not that big, but enough for about 30 small bulbs each, closely spaced.<br/><br/>So that £11.99 is now a LOT more than £11.99 hahaha! Probably coming close to spending £200 now LMAO! OOPS!<br/><br/>Today, we just planted the last bulbs that we could fit into the garden, new troughs and remaining pots!! Yay!!<br/><br/>There are maybe 100-150 spare bulbs of about 4 different types, so we did pretty well! We were definitely sent more bulbs than we bought, though, so it was more than 500 total. Hoping to be able to give away the rest and not waste them. Wish me luck!!<br/><br/>Omg this has been the most hilarious journey. But it’ll be the most bountiful floral display in spring if all goes to plan!! 🤣🤣<br/><br/>From: <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub15ursmaef8cjvyxn5dsrph2t78c7h3gwrg9dlyzhl208e7c0s4unsz7fxs2" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>JB 🐎 :neuro:</span> (<span class="italic">npub15ur…fxs2</span>)</a></span><br/><a href="https://beige.party/@AnAutieAtUni/113657694768620417">https://beige.party/@AnAutieAtUni/113657694768620417</a> 2024-12-28T16:42:23Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsfv5fg08tel6p66mv58evrxs4uln0kpzmu2mxah6t45a6gn3w9ftgzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwfqx064 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsza8z5p0rnafd064fdzt5hes0ftnmwmzjmg98p5wf00uevmyrslrqdze34x'>nevent1q…e34x</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Definitely. Every pain has different sensations so I don’t find them easy to put on a linear scale. Sometimes people say you can gauge pain by how much it hampers your life - that might be helpful, but it’s also quite vague. E.g. “does the pain keep you awake at night?” Well, for me, a cold breeze across my skin can wake me up, and while that’s extremely uncomfortable that doesn’t seem like pain, so how can I compare?! Hmm! 2024-10-07T09:25:18Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsvphm4ztkg2atem64tuut233v24hn6cnnd4w52qaqmlhcdmf3kruczyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwmxggge The autistic trait that is the most dangerous (to myself) is how naive I am.<br/><br/>I don’t deliberately choose to trust people, but apparently I do. I always think I’m being smart and checking for suspicious clues toward danger with other people, but this is not done using intuition. It is done based on learning from my past, or learning from a set of rules. I’m not good at extrapolating those rules to identify warning signs in new situations that differ from my past or the rules.<br/><br/>I tend to fall for things that make it seem like I intentionally use rose-tinted glasses - I.e. that I only want to see the good in people and things. But it’s not intentional. I don’t get those all-important signals when something isn’t right. I miss them.<br/><br/>I hate the feeling when I realise I’ve done it again and been blindsided for a long time by something that was dark or malicious and I didn’t have a clue. I can’t type out here the traumas that have occurred specifically with men. I don’t think I’ve ever had the equivalent happen with non-cis-het men. This means the patriarchal world, especially one where my bosses, tutors, lecturers, colleagues, peers, (some) family and more… dominate thanks to tradition. No, I don’t want to apply to work with yet another potential predator… but I need money.<br/><br/>[Edit to add:] <br/>The worst is that my naivety seems to ATTRACT men. I’ve even been told this. It’s apparently like a beacon of pure innocence. They’re drawn to me either to exploit me or occasionally rescue me in that deeply disempowering way.<br/>[/Edit]<br/><br/>I try to lean on people I trust and borrow their senses and intuition, but women generally don’t tolerate me, and least of all when I’m in need of support, and so I’m usually left to trusting men for this.<br/><br/>I have strong emotional empathy (I sense and feel the emotions of others, usually intensely) but I think I have little cognitive empathy (I rarely have a sense of why people do or feel what they do unless I’ve been told this or it’s a near-exact repeat of a past experience).<br/><br/>I often feel as socially vulnerable as a child. But I’m a 40-something. I want to have the autonomy and respect of my years, but I wish it was easier to get (safe) support for my child-like automatic trust system.<br/><br/>Can anyone relate?<br/><br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub10v4vhs3yx0g5lyw7wjn3arkqdazna5v7p237m79wc9lk6d5r72lsnls27h" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>ActuallyAutistic group</span> (<span class="italic">npub10v4…s27h</span>)</a></span> 2024-09-27T15:10:32Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsfeeru85hsyw5pmxxkz0nazzptu03ujzksm3jmt8wyfukwsnh6argzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjw0u9zt4 I FINALLY OFFICIALLY GRADUATED!!! 🎉<br/><br/>Oh my goodness, what an absolute relief. Got official documents in digital form (and shareable) so I can begin next steps with my next uni.<br/><br/>And now the deep exhaustion that follows that immense relief. Aaaaahhhhh I am so relieved. Almost 2 months since my course ended. I’ve kept myself very busy to try to keep my mind busy during that time, but it means I’ve also been making myself exhausted in other ways.<br/><br/>Noticing that the mental processing of this massive life milestone is humongous! Been needing naps and sleep like never before. Nice to feel “normal” tiredness for a change, though, rather than usual ME/CFS fatigue that doesn’t reduce with sleep. I forgot how peaceful normal tiredness feels. <br/><br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub10v4vhs3yx0g5lyw7wjn3arkqdazna5v7p237m79wc9lk6d5r72lsnls27h" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>ActuallyAutistic group</span> (<span class="italic">npub10v4…s27h</span>)</a></span> <br/><br/>From: <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub15ursmaef8cjvyxn5dsrph2t78c7h3gwrg9dlyzhl208e7c0s4unsz7fxs2" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>JB 🐎 :neuro:</span> (<span class="italic">npub15ur…fxs2</span>)</a></span><br/><a href="https://beige.party/@AnAutieAtUni/112796060148738661">https://beige.party/@AnAutieAtUni/112796060148738661</a> 2024-07-17T15:29:17Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsytdr0dya4m3w0tpr67sc66r6jvm6vrt0y07dpxljn6xpz0svdjaszyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwvffs27 Question for ADHD’ers:<br/><br/>Is anxiety a common thing to have alongside ADHD? And what do you think the reasons are behind that?<br/><br/>I’ve explored the link between my autistic challenges and anxiety before, but this is the first time exploring it related to ADHD. I feel like a total newbie on this!<br/><br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub148jhm6u3tqxmufugd30tad52alndfsdv5el4fvz6pwagm7rpxlasrfucy6" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>actuallyadhd group</span> (<span class="italic">npub148j…ucy6</span>)</a></span> #ADHD 2024-07-06T09:24:34Z https://njump.me/nevent1qqsrrlvz46u2cz24nhq0ls5gdx6d09m4afd0ddd9aushmx3ds668klgzyznswr0h9ylzfss6w3kqvxaf0clr679pcdq4hus2laful8mp7zhjwr3awv3 Question for ADHD’ers:<br/><br/>(Trying to be smart and ask this question now, not after struggling for months like I did after my autism assessment.)<br/><br/>What helped support you most to process everything after you received a diagnosis of ADHD?<br/><br/>I’m talking about after having had an assessment with a clinician and receiving an official diagnosis of ADHD. (Self diagnosis is valid, etc etc. See my quoted post below. My experience of self-dx has been generally easier, so I’m asking specifically about after an assessment, which is more like an event in itself.)<br/><br/>Obviously, there’s nothing available for me from the place I got assessed, damnit. So I’m needing to figure out what to do myself. Realising I have many questions, doing a lot of questioning, too. Feeling the same as after the autism assessment a few years ago: my life has been assessed with all its challenges, I’ve been given a label and now I’m expected to just carry on. I’m massively grateful, but it’s a lot to take in. How do I begin to process it…<br/><br/><span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub148jhm6u3tqxmufugd30tad52alndfsdv5el4fvz6pwagm7rpxlasrfucy6" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>actuallyadhd group</span> (<span class="italic">npub148j…ucy6</span>)</a></span> <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub10v4vhs3yx0g5lyw7wjn3arkqdazna5v7p237m79wc9lk6d5r72lsnls27h" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>ActuallyAutistic group</span> (<span class="italic">npub10v4…s27h</span>)</a></span> <br/><br/>From: <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub15ursmaef8cjvyxn5dsrph2t78c7h3gwrg9dlyzhl208e7c0s4unsz7fxs2" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>JB 🐎 :neuro:</span> (<span class="italic">npub15ur…fxs2</span>)</a></span><br/><a href="https://beige.party/@AnAutieAtUni/112684117363810968">https://beige.party/@AnAutieAtUni/112684117363810968</a> 2024-06-27T07:14:32Z