Unpopular take: all "bullying" isn't bad.
It helps to establish and reinforce a social order. It teaches children that there will always be someone bigger and badder than you that wants what you have more than you do.
Overcoming bullying builds self esteem. This is the real world analog of facing a video game "boss", maybe losing a few times, and eventually learning how to beat them.
It helps to put a stop to a sense of entitlement, that the world owes you something. Instead, you learn that you only have what you're willing to fight for, and you'll choose better opsec to prevent fighting, because fighting sucks.
I hope my kids (and most kids) get punched in the face at least once, even if it is only emotionally. Obviously there should be some guardrails around this, and that is where parenting steps in. But a punch to the face from your peers will be far more effective than any punishment a parent can give.
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