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WITHHOLDING MARRIAGE SEX?
HERE is what the word of God says 1 Cor 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
DO NOT DEFRAUD ONE ANOTHER. GOD SAID WITHHOLDING SEX WILL CAUSE YOUR PARTNER TO BE TEMPTED BY SATAN. THAT IS UNLOVING AND HATEFUL. GOD CREATED MANKIND WITH A SEX DRIVE TO BE SATISFIED IN MARRIAGE.
{{{ I have yet to meet a man or woman who fasts - goes without food - for more than 40 days. That is the ONLY exception God gives for not having sex with your spouse. If you disagree, only provide the verse that says otherwise. God is NOT interested in your opinions and neither am I. }}}
Notice the two conditions........1 CONSENT 0F BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE.............2 PRAYER AND FASTING......IF THOSE 2 CONDITIONS ARE NOT MET, THEIR SHOULD BE NO WITHHOLDING OF SEX OR YOU ARE SINNING AGAINST GOD AND YOUR SPOUSE.
REPENT.
If you are unable (for some medical reason) to not have normal sex with your spouse, you should pursue another means to satisfy your spouse if possible. Your attitude of trying to please your spouse makes a difference. You may need counseling or medical help.
This is NOT a woman only issue ladies. I know of men who did not give their wives enough sex and they ended up in divorce and or cheating. Some men have Erectile Dysfunction , low testosterone, low libido, low sex drive. This can sometimes be due to side effects of medication or illness.
Ladies, I see many comments where there are complaints of no action for months or years. That is a problem. How many times have you tried to initiate sex? What are you doing ladies to correct the problem? Are you actively involved or lazy / PASSIVE when it comes to sex? Are you part of the solution or part of the problem?
Men and women, IF your focus is on you and not on pleasing your spouse, you have a sex problem. Examples of self centered problem - I am not interested, I am too tired, I do not feel like it, I have a headache. Do you see a pattern here? The selfish focus is me, me, me, me.
True love has a focus on the other :How can I please you? I am interested in what works for you? I want to rock your world! What can I do to improve our love making with you so you achieve orgasim? This is a focus on the other partner and their pleasure and satisfaction.
YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCE OR THE WAY YOU WERE RAISED HAS A BIG IMPACT. Some ladies were told by their parents NOT to let a man touch your body area that is covered by underwear. Touching these areas is sinful, wrong, dirty, and evil. But this is only true for dating or pre marriage. Touching private areas is foreplay. Foreplay can lead to intercourse for the unmarried which is the sin of fornication. Fornication will send you to hell and could result in an unplanned pregnancy with a bastard child. Once you are married, your body belongs to your spouse (and theirs belongs to you). For a married couple, intimate touching is normal and a natural part of foreplay. It is NOT sinful for married couples to have intimate touching. Yet some women have the idea that sexual touching is still sinful, wrong, dirty, and evil with their husbands. This is so wrong. Both the male and female body was designed by God to be INTENDED FOR PLEASURE in marriage. That is why Father God made us with nerve endings and arousal responses to stimulus (touching).
NOTE
Not everyone, but for some people, all they need is to cuddle, to be hugged, to have their back or feet massaged, their face stroked, their hands held or kissing. This is not sexual intercourse but that is all they need to be satisfied in a very few cases (male or female).But for those who need an orgazim , this will not satisfy them and if you think it will, you are only fooling yourself.
Do not think - Except this or what if that? I am not interested in your excuses, arguments, immaturity or negativity. Keep it to yourself.
IF you are upset or disagree, keep it to yourself. IF you want to argue or make excuses, keep it to yourself. Only positive comments allowed. All negative comments will be deleted and you will be muted for a month.
YOU CAN NOT SATISFY YOUR PARTNER MAKING EXCUSES OR FOCUSING ON EXCEPTIONS. YOU EITHER SATISFY YOUR PARTNER OR YOU MAKE EXCUSES.
WHY?
My experience is the ones that make excuses are the ones that wonder why their spouse divorced them or cheated on them.
A popular Christian marriage counselor said he has never had a couple see him who said they have a great sex life but want a divorce. This marriage counselor has successfully counseled thousands of couples and has written many marriage books.
NOTE TO ALL READERSI do not have any professional certifications, but I know what the bible says and I have years of life experience WITH THOUSANDS OF MARRIED COUPLES.
For many who are seeking the truth, this short message is exactly what they need. For others, they need to read books, seek counseling, and go to focused seminars for more details. This note is on a high level and not designed to deal with specifics or techniques.
Paul Robertson - a servant
Some people republish my work, but do not give me credit for being the author. God allows the one who wrote the scriptures (Paul, Moses, David, Daniel, Luke, Peter, James) to get recognition for holding a pen. Please follow God's example.

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