Dikaios1517 on Nostr: I can only speak for myself whenI was a child, and my experience with my own ...

I can only speak for myself whenI was a child, and my experience with my own children.

It was effective and appropriate for me in the rare instances when it was implemented by my Mother. It was effective but inappropriate when implemented by my Father, who tended to do it in anger, which damaged my relatuonship with him until I was much older.

In my own household it has been effective and I believe appropriate when implemented. That has been rare and is now non-existent since my children are older. It was only ever used for willful defiance of previously established rules. I also have a fantastic relationship with my kids who are now in their teens.

The household is absolutely not a democracy or any kind of imagined ideal anarchy, particuarly when children are young. They must have strong authority at those ages for their own safety. As they get older, parents must use wisdom with each particular child to allow them more and more authority over themselves as they are ready for it. The parents' job is to raise children who are capable of being sovereign adults. Spanking is certainly not the only way, or even the primary way, to accomplish that, but it is a tool that can be applied properly, effectively, and sparingly.