On a side note, I will respect my neighbors choice and not refer to them as "trans". It seems much better, more fitting, to just call these people "women." And I really don't care if that pisses off someone wearing a red hat, and I suspect those are the only people offended by that term... This can be an issue like saying "I don't see color" can be an issue, I guess, but I suspect there is no 100% right answer.
I'm open to suggestions and thanks for teaching me something today.