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The peer pressure element is real:
This is why my other half is actively seeking out new friends.
She sees that old group reinforcing the same behaviours which have led to them being single - like crabs in a bucket, as soon as one of them has some introspection and tries to deviate they all pile on with guilt trips and shaming to reinforce the group behaviour and pull the individual back into their line, it’s toxic AF.
She also tells me it wasn’t always this bad and that they’re getting worse as they get older, more aggressive about the reinforcement.
My missus had a lot of familial pressure, constant nagging by aunties and grannies and in-laws. From what I know her friends lacked that and got their behaviour reinforcement more from friends than family/community.
The lack of this dynamic certainly appears to be a major contributing factor.
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