If users want privacy, they can enable this feature and then when the 'gossip model' wants to connect to a new relay they don't trust, the user gets a prompt and can say "NO". Then that relay is not connected to. How could a relay that you don't connect to get your IP address? I don't know, but apparently I'm obtuse and stupid and I still didn't do enough for you.
quotingI don't seek privacy.
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I know that some of you do, and I want to support that, but I don't need it. I have a DNS record that ties an IP address to my legal name. Anything done by that IP address is, well, obviously me. If relays on nostr can associate my public key with my IP address, I really don't give a flying fuck. I am not engaging in illegal behavior (at least not knowingly) and I will happily comply with law enforcement should they think that I am. Trying to protect myself from all possible outcomes is I think a sign of paranoia. YES the government is wrong sometimes and oppressive sometimes and who knows what might happen. The general trends are worrying. But I address that by pushing for change, and by producing legal technology that helps push for change.
I understand some of you are fighting against evil top down systems of oppression via fiat currencies, and in doing so you are making yourselves targets, and are being anonymous so you can fight harder. That's fine, and I'll support privacy where I can. But this is not my personal battle. My battle is for free speech, a battlefield on which I don't have to be anonymous to fight with full ferocity.
So please appreciate the work I put into helping you maintain your privacy (gossip security, gossip relay privacy controls, etc) because I didn't need any of that for myself, that was 100% for you guys. And in doing so, don't mock my opsec or belittle my client just because it doesn't do things exactly the way you think it should do things.