Ah, if you're on Debian, can you try out the nostr-relay-tray implementation? I'm having trouble with it and want to exclude my Linux distro as a factor. It seems to work fine for everyone else.
Could you then report here, how it went? That would be a great help for the dev. 🫶
https://github.com/CodyTseng/nostr-relay-tray/issues/36