Hudlemel

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2025-03-29 11:18:23 GMT

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i don't think staying underground does any favors other than make people more uneducated about MAP rights and youth rights overall and view the whole community as abusive freaks
There needs to be more discussion among people and not more hiding than we already have been doing, we should take more disciplinary discussions with people trying to stay as civil as possible while not wasting time behind trolls or other people who aren't willing to engage in discussions and understanding both sides

2025-03-29 11:15:47 GMT

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i believe erotica based servers can be a good place for education for the people who wish to express their actual feelings about the things they wanted to do in life but are unable to do so cause of stigmatization and the abusive culture which indoctrinates people into taking reckless approaches and lack of understanding with social based erotism which often gets ignored as commodification is normalised
People can be allowed to express themselves but more social contact between people is what would help them alleviate their irl controlled lifestyle they live which mentally and physically harms them and these servers can be a good way to express themselves
I don't get the servers names sometimes tho as some servers like rape.net sounds abusive as hell and i wish they changed their name soon as it encourages violence

2025-03-29 11:10:30 GMT

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yeah i agree, i don't plan on leaving this server unless there is literally no one active here
I mean really an active server is required for the MAP movement to move forward instead of remaining in stagnancy is what I believe

2025-03-29 10:58:55 GMT

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i think PCMA is a good server until it recently got attacked
The other forums although they are active they don't discuss topics seperately and have more of an informal take on things I argue
I haven't been much active overall but I'll see how it goes, PCMA is better overall i argue but the others are pretty well too

2025-03-29 09:02:03 GMT

Can I ask something to the people in the server? Are there only like 10 members in yesmap? Cause there is almost no one who puts out any posts and it goes deaf ears
I'll be eventually moving to the mapsupport server as this one seems dead, i do wish there were more active people as pro-cs maps also need more recognition i believe

2025-03-26 07:34:32 GMT

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well that's the issue, the practices that you mentioned were not adult specific but was made to be such by adults as underage youths did not have the physical and mental capabilities to challenge such adults as from a biological standpoint one is weaker than the other from a general sense

2025-03-25 15:26:41 GMT

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well like social relationships, sexual relationships and other things that adults normally do like work, having complex conversations etc and overall having an understanding of the world around them which lets be honest toddlers do not have unlike youths at certain ages where they develop speech and intelligence enough to understand such practices

2025-03-25 14:57:32 GMT

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age of consent should not exist as people who can consent are barred from doing so, it should be an basic understanding that at certain ages people naturally choose to gravitate towards adult practices

2025-03-23 18:40:51 GMT

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again man i don't try to change their minds on anything, i only try to educate those who are new and often are misguided about pro cs and what it could actually be instead of what it actually is currently, that's what I proposed the idea of ethical pedophilia as it helps understand the problems that both pro cs and anti cs have and provide solutions to it
I don't seek to make any discussions with the admin here but only educate those who need an understanding over things, whether it's for them to listen or dismiss my ideas is all upto them here
Please don't think I'm wasting my time as education for people who are new to the servers isn't something that should be discouraged

2025-03-23 18:27:08 GMT

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we will see what happens, i would prefer to have a neutral stance as i respect their contact stances whatever it may be and i believe we pro cs should look to improve our own flaws instead of judging them
They may have some legitimate criticisms towards pro cs MAPs who don't consider their critiques sometimes and it's something that does need to change for sure

2025-03-23 08:46:05 GMT

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all of these statements really speak of how they push for propaganda against pedos as animals similar to how they used to portray in war times about Germans being seen as barbarians who would come to rape British women
The same thing is seen as throughout history it's been the same tactics employed by all sided who are anti pedophilic

2025-03-23 07:36:26 GMT

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well I'm not sticking around trying to change their minds here, I'm only trying to convince the pro cs people present in that server to consider their positions with staying on that server and in fact help them educate about the misconceptions that they have around pro cs which leads them to stay on that server
I believe they should be allowed to have their anti cs positions the way they like it but they should not try to indoctrinate more pro cs MAPs into being anti cs as we should be helping pro cs people and also anti cs people have a mutual respect amongst each other instead of fighting each other as in the long term antis hate both sides regardless of how much concessions they try to make
Anti cs have legitimate reasonings as to why they hate pro cs as in terms of ethical perspectives as pro cs MAPs let's be honest some MAPs here lean towards far right or center right ideas which I do see an issue in this server too as they push for harmful adult practices like sex work, underage pregnancy and many other practices which lets be honest even if we do abolish the AoC it would still lead to abuse among people
I believe there should be proper discussions between pro cs and anti cs on their stances from an ethical perspective as the idea of ethical pedophilia should be considered more as adult culture is leading way too many risks for underage youths to have a positive life experience which adults themselves are failing with and don't seem to fix their current issues
It's the same reason why many adults are hesitant to seek underage relationships as they fear the same problems that adults face would be faced by underage youths too something that I believe pro cs MAPs should look to provide solutions for in the long term and introduce better laws which replace the AoC and prevents abuse overall

2025-03-22 18:05:17 GMT

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I'm against abuse but I do acknowledge that both contact stances have their own flaws which isn't being addressed very well

2025-03-16 07:52:40 GMT

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well it may not be the case but I do see a lot of people who seem to dismiss any other maps aside from males, trans MAPs and women MAPs are not considered at all sometimes and it's a shame considering that our community should be open for all people (not for bigots from all sides including misogynistic and misandric, transphobic and other kinds of people)

2025-03-15 19:13:16 GMT

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regardless i do believe we should be more aware of such people entering our servers and radicalizing our audiences

2025-03-14 10:00:01 GMT

You know lately there has been a rise of conservativism and far right ideas in this server and many people have been known to be directly involved in it, so obviously for those pro-cs maps who are trans, women and other marginalized MAPs, for them i would only say that they must fight against such bigotry and conservativism for good
Expose those who are far right fascist MAPs and embarrass them and it they fight back then fight against them harder and make sure they don't show up back again
I probably don't see any other pro-cs server being around so i expect people to understand and get rid of such far right ideas for good as radicalism needs to be stopped
and in fact those ideas which actually help those marginalized should be promoted for underage youths to have a better relationship with adults instead of living in the same anti pedophilic environment which always oppresses MAPs of all differences and tries to label pedophilia as a mental disorder further censoring any legitimate scientific studies and research that MAPs have done for a long time
I do not believe mainstream maps would try to save us as really they are going with the "mental disorder" route more than providing better ways to implement ethical pedophilia

2025-03-14 04:15:26 GMT

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i still do think that it would have been a better move to expose such people and call them out on their bigotry,t hen censoring them for it for proection of the community, i do believe u should have showcased the evidence for it i say as these bigots go around spreading misinformation on their accounts to get more people in hate towards the server
I did see him showcasing hateful speech towards others in a twitter post and archiving it so i guess he got banned for that or something else related to ethnonationalism which u stated
I have seen many of their kind using the rhetoric of censorship to try to justify their actions really and get a huge following of people who justify their actions cause of the actions taken against them

2025-03-13 19:05:32 GMT

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yeah I can certainly understand that but the issue lies in how many people will read this article and then you know what happens, they take inspiration and push the agenda further for such treatments
I just hope someone edits this out for sure but I do believe it's a wakeup call for MAPs especially when people would be willing to consider such treatments as a normal thing and someone should probably make a video regarding this topic in fstube or somewhere similar

2025-03-13 18:13:36 GMT

Recent news: the MAP flag is used in the wikipedia article regarding pedophilia and the worst part is that they promote a drug named Depo-Provera which is not even FDA approved and is completely unethical with severe side effects with growth and development for young people and women and is promoted as a treatment for sex offenders and even underage MAP youths
Here are the links to the topics and this does need serious attention for all MAPs as they would surely promote and normalized this barbaric treatment
The second link is regarding the drug Depo-Provera which has been known to be behind developing brain tumors in people btw and also has shown to decrease bone density in women as a contraceptive
https://simple.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pedophilia
https://www.accessdata.fda.gov/drugsatfda_docs/label/2010/020246s036lbl.pdf

2025-03-13 16:37:31 GMT

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he even favorited my posts for some reason

2025-03-13 15:09:47 GMT

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even had one guy being blatantly racist here too

2025-03-13 15:08:43 GMT

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haven't we already have enough of national socialists here, some people have been blatant about it for a while now, we even have people talking about Eugenics and other far right ideas around here
I have been stating this issue for a while now and it seems a lot of people are pushing for such bigoted ideas sadly, I would be careful to where the MAP community is headed now with such people around

2025-03-13 14:36:23 GMT

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what happened exactly?

2025-03-02 04:27:09 GMT

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if it's like a fetish/kink thing then they should keep it separate and maybe potray their claims in the server itself for people to understand that their paraphilias can be acceptable irl
Honestly i wish they made it more transparent instead of having this debate of paraphillias having scientific basis vs being a kink
Cause if it was a kink I'm pretty sure necrophilia, rape and murder fetishes would be considered acceptable in such paraphilias too, something which is a fantasy but never something that one would do outright
But if people try to have a scientific basis on their beliefs if they don't consider it as a kink then they should make it transparent and provide a basis on the fact that they are trying to justify their paraphilias

2025-03-02 04:22:08 GMT

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i honestly do not understand why paraphilias can't have a scientific basis behind their understandings
I'm pretty sure most paraphilias can be considered acceptable if there were enough research on them
currently pedophilia has much more research and development to justify their reasonings not to mention there is input from the underage youths to participate contact with adults too
So if other people with their paraphilias believe that maybe they can do the same then they should go for it and develop their own research and studies towards the ideas they fall in attraction towards like with zoophilia which again i expect zoophiles to involve in study and research about their attractions and see how they can implement it
For us pedos we obviously have a better stance and are recognised even if with scrutiny, but again with more underage youths coming forward and the internet helping them escape the old century ideals of the world we would see more people being brave enough to accept themselves as pedos instead of living in fear

2025-02-13 18:22:46 GMT

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well i can agree on that aspect as i only wanted to provide like an example but not as a literary ofc as I do agree it has serious flaws especially with the way they implemented
but again that's exactly why i did say I don't consider China a socialist state as their state is run by the bourgeois elite and bureaucrats than having a state which fulfills the needs of their working class, and the way they implemented it itself was reckless and with no concern for the average public as profits are obviously the main goal for any capitalist system whether it's the state or the private entity running the systems that people live in
In fact they seem to introduce three child policy which doesn't seem to offset any excess damages done but

2025-02-13 18:17:57 GMT

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in regards to sexual rights, the time period they were really in wasn't the most ideal as it was the same period where people were selling their kids to earn a living as it was ofc during the great depression, not to mention subsequent famines and the great war
So life was much rough for us to expect modern standards on situations which required people to focus on their survival and sustenance more than look for their sexual rights or other progressive ideas which again was not something that would have been present at least with the situation they were provided with

2025-02-13 18:15:04 GMT

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well the social conservativism that people claim around Stalin would ironically have been removed eventually, these were just one of the few policies Stalin had made back in 1950 as the subsequent great war with Nazi Germany more than 20 million people died and to keep the number of population stable they had introduced pro natalist policies which turned out to be conservative in nature
Soviet conservatism wasn't based on the old century ideas of Tsarist Russia where women had no participation in the war effort, women had to undertake efforts like with administrative work and also had to care of their kids while some also provides for the war effort via taking on previous roles related to industrial production or agricultural jobs in their younger years depending upon their situation
So it was a far cry from the stereotypical conservative ideas that are present in today's society where women are only encouraged to be the housewife for others conveniences
there was some significant freedom of expression for women even with conservative ideas around and changes were already been made in late 1940s where they enjoyed more administrative jobs while men were busy with the war effort as to well save their country from the Nazis
I suggest checking out this vid for better understanding as it does explain the roles that were present and honestly i could see underage youths also having similar roles if they were provided more access to opportunities and education on topics which they want to learn from
https://youtu.be/ASbnlcb2xWc?si=CAD67e-RBdUuE8cv

2025-02-13 15:46:49 GMT

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Kruschsevs era was a revisionist overthrow of the socialist Soviet Union and replaced it with the Soviet bureaucracy similar to current imperialist China which carries out similar policies
And Kruschsevs era in 1960s also was way past the inhuman conditions of WW2 and the past famine which the Soviets were yet to recover from and only subsequently did so in the 1950s

2025-02-13 15:44:19 GMT

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well if you consider the impossible environment they were in where more than 20 million people a fifth of their population died fighting Nazi Germany and other imperialist regimes and even more from natural famines died then they were surely stuck with traditional ideas especially when to recover the lost population they had to push for anti abortion laws
It's the same concept behind China's one child policy which although was draconian still stopped their population from expanding any further and in fact encouraged stable numbers amongst their population and this is China which is not even a socialist country and is more state capitalist imperialist country
socialists understand that some strict measures have to be taken or the whole country could collapse like how we seen with many nations affected by wars

2025-02-13 15:34:06 GMT

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it was very early and they still didn't have a established government by that time, they also were pushed to the extreme by the capitalists too and the occurring civil war didn't help things either so prostitution was a requirement for the people to survive instead of something being seen as a positive thing here

2025-02-13 15:19:28 GMT

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well his ideas of conservative patriarchal culture and racial superiority complex is considered as more acceptable than say the inverse
He proposes that we should allow the patriarchal culture and racial superiority among people and taking it away means that it is "policing" by his logic
But again the patriarchal culture and racial superiority itself is policing over women's rights and minorities rights too so his logic falls over his head as the so called "policing" that he claims that we do can be applied to his type too as they are far more oppressive than so called "liberals" who i myself hate too but again i would gladly choose them over than fascists

2025-02-13 14:52:26 GMT

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well isn't that ironic that you are the ones policing our thoughts here by pushing for eugenics and other far right conservative ideas, we don't want to have our ideas controlled just as you don't want to have you ideas controlled too
And then you complain about policing as if ur not doing the same thing here 🤷

2025-02-12 17:04:00 GMT

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well your argument of competition isn't completely true, sure most people on average would be more attracted towards those young and often would prefer staying young than growing older and weaker as they rather prefer to stay in a good physical condition
but overall people have their different views on beauty and don't just bind to the same stereotypical thinking of beauty that is patriarchal in nature
The fact is that our view of women is based on a patriarchal sense where we view the woman as a product and like a product which needs to be fresh we put those standards that we normally do on products but with living human beings who do not want to be viewed as a product and in fact most want to express their own identity which is dismissed as their body becomes their identity instead of what thoughts or personality they have
So this view of commodifying women has been overall a negative traits which only has led to exploitation of such women and especially those underage youths too, as they live by the demands of others instead of living for their own self

2025-02-11 14:29:02 GMT

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well then if commies and leftists do not support MAPs then we create our own beliefs where we justify the existence of MAPs independent from those mainstream leftists and commies as you claim, and again i care less about leftists as they are mostly neoliberals really
the current commies that are around are phonies who rely on the old century beliefs of socialism without updating it in any manner, that's were some ancoms differentiate from them as we believe in encouraging youth rights more in the lines of the ideas that Soviets had and in fact update it to suit the material conditions and disregard the legal barrier that was around Soviet times and not just believe in the same systems that Soviets have which some of them aren't progressive enough for MAPs
The current socialists are western based and adopt western ideas of exploitation theory and all the nonsense that is justified by opportunists
the age of consent was created in the US and other western countries, not in the Soviets where the consent age depended upon what was possible from the underage youth
even if the Soviets were antis as they claim we do not disregard the rest of their ideas which are far more progressive especially towards women and can be applied to underage youths than anything Nazism can do

2025-02-11 10:49:49 GMT

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that's because they believe in the old century patriarchal culture of child marriage and other anti feminist ideas where women do not have their rights established, the same concept also applied to trans people and other marginalized people too
In fact if pedophila was legalized with the idea of Nazism around then we would be seeing the same situation that we see in Iraq where child marriage and pregnancy is encouraged where the underage youth has no control or say over what they wan to do or who they want to be with, the underage youth is excluded from any parts of society other than being a sexual object for the adult and being controlled by the husband while in the current system we have the parents controlling the underage youth
Nazism and other fascistic ideals are capitalism at decay and it's a known fact

2025-02-11 04:56:34 GMT

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Hitler used to burn books and scriptures related to pedophilia btw and also used to execute pedophiles and put them in concentration camps too
The Nazis saw anyone who was immoral to society like lgbtq, pedos and other marginalized groups as lesser beings who needed to be gotten rid off and it's the same practice being seen by the current fascist US

2025-02-11 04:15:45 GMT

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and again i do stress a difference between pedos and predators
A pedo loves the underage youth and understand and cares for their feelings and respects them for who they are while providing them their rights which antis and the establishment does not do, a pedo also may have sexually repressive feelings but also deep down understands that there is a better way to approach a underage youth and not like a creep and in fact seeks to socialize with that youth while developing a positive relationship with them, a pedo also does not solely go after the underage youth for their body as they do understand that they should show the same care for such youths even after they become older and value them based on their identity instead of solely their age

2025-02-11 04:11:19 GMT

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but fr tho the difference is the conservative side surely are more oppressive and predatory, like you can already see Trump groping his own daughter like who holds their daughter in such a way lol 😂

2025-02-08 08:07:43 GMT

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i believe the idea of technocracy does have many flaws considering it follows a system which completely runs by logistics and there is no human input in such a system, sure the idea of professional engineers running the system does sound cool but a system is much more complex which requires all forms of science and not just related to tech, it includes social science, historical science, biology, economics, etc and many other fields which requires groups of elected officials who can consider all of these factors to develop a country
Technocracy can be much complex ofc but I do think it needs more study about its application and development of theories which are required to believe a technocratic society can be possible

2025-02-07 15:13:15 GMT

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again these are the opinions of women whom u people dismiss and find it frustrated that you can't have your patriarchal order like before lol, i mean sure man I can respect your desire for pedophila but if it is filled with patriarchal ideas and yall will have the same mentality towards underage girls then obviously it wouldn't be encouraged, in fact ur people end up dragging everyone under as we all will be seen as the abuser like yall do

2025-02-04 17:18:47 GMT

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man i just hope you socialize for once cause the ideas u share is unhealthy for sure

2025-02-04 16:09:12 GMT

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well man i don't see women going around cheating with multiple people unless they are from privileged middle class and have better physical features for sex appeal, you don't see the average woman always filing for divorce unless the person they married is actually abusive

2025-02-04 16:04:56 GMT

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honestly man it's better if you don't express your opinions if you only troll

2025-02-04 16:03:52 GMT

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well i say it's a bad take, by your logic men should not be trusted either as men are more likely to cheat on women as women often do get pregnant if they aren't careful unlike men who don't suffer any such consequences

2025-02-04 07:00:21 GMT

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well in that case idk what I can suggest really, things never work out the way we want for sure but i guess we can surely try as much smh, peoples minds change especially with the current culture they are around in so maybe that's a factor to be considered and other factors which may play in what they believe and their actions etc

2025-02-04 06:53:18 GMT

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well man nvm I did check but again I still do believe u should have checked the warning signs already as continuing the relationship would have been a gamble is what I believe, again no one's perfect ofc as people usually do not realise it sooner

2025-02-04 06:51:20 GMT

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idk i do feel the stigmatization is something that i personally face too, i don't think u should be honest with everyone but only those who maybe share those views, like say their reaction towards youth rights or relationships with adults
But idk the idea of facing off again stigmatization is something that i do agree is problematic and i certainly do take it back about being honest with everyone

2025-02-04 06:46:01 GMT

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well man i don't believe that to be the case, if u knew u were dating someone like that it would have been better off to leave than take risks fr unless you have other motives from the individual

2025-02-04 06:44:16 GMT

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well it just means u weren't truly honest with your partner with what you have, the idea of a relationship is to compromise and set aside biases to understand ones beliefs and if you wouldn't get a partner like that then obviously the relationship wouldn't end well, you kept secrets from your partner then it would have surely surfaced the more you involve them in your daily lives and i can certainly understand that it isn't easy but being honest at least sets the demons on your closet free
It applies to even friendship and enemies too lol, if a person isn't being honest about what their ideas are then they would have a fractured alliance which would eventually break when ideas clash

2025-02-04 06:39:35 GMT

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how is that false hope present if you should have been more clear with what your needs are instead of keeping it hidden
if it is financial then it should have been made clear is what I believe as i can certainly understand that life is tough in the current system that we have and let's be honest if I was in a place where i would require financial sustenance then there would be some wrongs committed as to keep the relationship afloat
What i do believe is that the idea of cheating is completely based on the individual needs
Whether it's for people to escape from a toxic relationship by people and to seek sexual pleasure and social relationship with people they truly like and
The needs for cheating would also come under those who are opportunistic and only seek sexual gratification from many people while keeping their partners as a trophy which usually what those with higher status people while having multiple partners in secret
Regardless the idea still remains that cheating could be avoided if there was more honesty amongst the partners and if it is done for a requirement like having a financially stable partner while seeking relationships with others which the partner does not provide
Anyways under the current system which has such wealth inequality cheating is to be expected from those who aren't financially independent so I don't blame them for what they do but I do think that those who are rich or opportunistic and do it for sole sexual gratification as they consider others as objects are the ones who deserve scrutiny

2025-02-04 06:18:44 GMT

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well in that case u should have made your thoughts and motives more clear enough as this lack of understanding between both parties is what led to the mess, the error falls on your part too as judging by what you say there isn't any financial motives for her to consider being in the relationship for long
If anything the inverse seems more true from what story you stated as you also seem to face financial issues too right?
If anything the motives should have been more clear on both sides and what they want

2025-02-04 06:14:10 GMT

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well it is wrong as you do provide a false hope to that person about your intentions, if you would have been frank about it then there would have been no need to cheat as the relationship would have been ended sooner
It is a problem that both men and women share and not just a biased view towards men only

2025-02-04 06:12:40 GMT

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well both misandry and misogyny are opportunistic in nature as it carries a general view of the opposite sex instead of considering them as different individuals with different goals

2025-02-04 06:11:01 GMT

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well fhat would mean u actively chose to do something wrong instead of breaking off with the relationship sooner which wouldn't have created the circumstances in the first place that you complain about

2025-02-04 06:09:48 GMT

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misandry isn't even the topic here lol, most people do not believe in the gender biases being the sole reason for their problems unless they are told by societal norms to be the case which is what I see here
Misandry in fact is equally as opportunistic as misogyny

2025-02-04 06:07:34 GMT

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lol how is this cuckery tho, people just don't want shit coming at them at all sides and if they wanted their needs then they would make it clear to that person before being in a relationship with them
In fact believing in intentional violence against people is just as worse which is what I believe u advocate for

2025-02-04 06:03:51 GMT

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well again man i don't bring the idea of gender biases at all, the biases are from what societal norms has dictated and i do consider it to be a problem too but it should not mean we ignore the problems that lead to those biases being considered

2025-02-04 06:02:39 GMT

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well man i can understand dark humour and all sorts of stuff but it does become a problem when people actually start believing the stuff
Hell i would joke around about sending women to the kitchen too or making me a sandwich but i never actually believe in the idea of it lol which again idk whether u do too but judging by your posts it does seem like it

2025-02-04 06:00:21 GMT

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well man i did say its for you to figure out what your relationship was based on, if it was for monetary purposes then obviously that relationship wouldn't have been healthy for long at least

2025-02-04 05:58:35 GMT

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i never did claim that you had committed any violence, but your actions of cheating and not being clear about what relationship you wanted to have is something that is what led to the circumstances
But I do believe this generalised view of basing things on gender is not helpful at all

2025-02-04 05:54:39 GMT

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and i didn't refer to enslavement and more like the wife does not share any mutual connection with their husbands in modern relationships, which if they did then that wouldn't be enslavement, but what would be enslavement is those relationships which are based on material requirements like we see with those sugar daddy relationships that we see around in modern culture which isn't as common in modern relationships but surely is considered as a normalcy

2025-02-04 05:50:43 GMT

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well in that case you should have kept your relationship and your wants clear with your partner instead of making them believe in something that they expected from you but got something different, it was surely an error from your part that you didn't communicate and express how you wanted the relationship to go which again she obviously didn't understand and if she would have did then there would have been no such escalation
Being frank about your needs and actually stating it is just as important as I do believe she would have thought the idea of marriage too, i mean why not just discuss that it is a open relationship or something which does not believe in ownership based relationship

2025-02-04 05:45:15 GMT

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lol i do believe ur a troll kid, i do hope you consider turning over a new leaf for sure lol as u sound surely racist af

2025-02-04 05:44:06 GMT

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well again man action and reaction is what I see here, you did something bad which was surely opportunistic she thought she should do something equally bad instead of considering that it isn't worth it and it only escalated
So it is better that it did end on a neutral stance than being in escalation but such behaviours which lead to the reaction obviously should be criticized

2025-02-04 05:26:26 GMT

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personally I seen both men and women being shitty and some justify their violence whether for one's gains or to let their frustrations our and although the woman is favoured more by societal norms the fact does remain that such behaviours like violence and the actions leading to it are the main core problems
the gender bias created by it surely is problematic and there's no denying it but it is not the main primary reason for the violence, it just happens to be a factor which people consider while dealing with the situations which creates abuse and the reactions from being abused and vice versa

2025-02-04 05:14:55 GMT

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well in that case u should have just not done the cheating in the first place, not that i say the violence is justified in any manner but the actions leading to that violence certainly can be stopped and that includes civil discussions which if the other person does not do then it's better off leaving than say escalating the situation

2025-02-03 20:36:32 GMT

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not exactly lol, the inverse is more true as is with the gerontocratic culture

2025-02-03 20:34:15 GMT

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there is certainly a gender bias but understandably for sure as there have been assholes who actually hit girls and get away with it while those who are not told to be as abusive as those bastards are picked off by those who then take advantage of their generosity
But again I do believe avoiding the fight altogether is the better option ofc

2025-02-03 20:16:25 GMT

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well man if you didn't know, Europe didn't escape socialism, it crushed and killed millions of communists with authoritarian Fascism as with the German revolution and the birth of the Nazi Germany
It was not because Europe escaped as they were colonialists in the past and still are colonizers looting foreign countries which the west does not acknowledge enough as they don't see themselves as authoritarian fascists, Trump just said the quiet part out loud for everyone to hear while the democrats were keeping quiet on their imperialist ways

2025-02-03 20:13:10 GMT

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i do think there should be more consideration of the material conditions for sure ofc probably a study based on it would be important

2025-02-03 20:07:11 GMT

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i mean personally i don't believe that to be the case as really to know about their story you would have to be on their shoes i say, people have their different views on how they want to be treated
Honestly i wouldn't want to be in the position of serious fent addicts as that shit does turn people into literal zombies ngl

2025-02-03 19:59:52 GMT

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personally i wouldn't say u should reveal too much information about yourself but hey I do wish you the best, all i can suggest is that you remain educated and knowledgeable as to avoid being taken advantage off by others

2025-02-03 19:57:40 GMT

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and from economic conditions i refer to places like seriously downtrodden places where there's constant homelessness and drug addiction on the streets, not average stable communities so STDs are far from the worry

2025-02-03 19:55:26 GMT

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Syphilis isn't exactly a problem unless your economic conditions are poor, for middle classes i never did deny that STDs would be much issues other than Herpes which is deadly especially when infected into the brain yikes

2025-02-03 19:54:09 GMT

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well really the idea of voting changing the political landscape is just bs
What people should instead do is organise labour unions and destroy the state created by the rich elites and replace it with the state owned by the working class cause that's exactly what socialism did
No matter what false hopes are provided the current state does not serve any interests of the people and is only made to serve the elites, and beliefs of trying to change the state is just wishful thinking and naive especially when no amount of small time concessions ever changed any Empire throughout history
Empires have only crumbled and replaced with the new as it happened with the Soviet Union

2025-02-03 19:50:29 GMT

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well sex work depends upon the fact that u don't need to have a qualification other than marketing which is essential but again there are other skills which may be useful, but again the harmful aspects sadly are downplayed by liberal feminists who prioritise their own opportunistic agendas than helping out every person of gender colour and ethnicity, regardless of who it is there is at least someone who is exploited while the other benefits and this relationship as proven by scientific research is only toxic and destructive to the people involved

2025-02-03 19:47:30 GMT

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lol he's a socdem who also advocates for war, I'm sorry but social democrats aren't going to save anyone, only socialism can as it has proven throughout history

2025-02-03 19:45:45 GMT

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well again u can point out which arguments do not have factual basis, I'm sure to listen to it and provide me the link to it

2025-02-03 19:44:31 GMT

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if im honest I can't say much for your personal life other than just hoping for the best, but I do believe that this idea of sex work being considered as a confirmed pay job is not true at least from what many peer review researchers state, again I'm always open for new research to come forward and provide a newer viewpoint but personally i would rather always have a critical viewpoint on any type of job as blindly trusting on things isn't what i personally do as i always remain in skepticism even about other facts like socialism too
Being skeptical is always a healthy thing as it does provide better understanding of the situation and in fact more vigilance on actual abuse which may come to people

2025-02-03 19:39:09 GMT

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well man i would argue that it is more opportunistic than say paying well, you aren't guaranteed anything here other than just taking a gamble which I did state that with socialism that guarantee is fulfilled and in that scenario sex work wouldn't be required
But I do think that the harmful aspects of sex work should not be ignored especially for those who do consider it as a job as making people always in a fairy tale view of the world is providing them falsehoods like liberal feminists often did while increasing their own class positions by being elected as the representatives for sex workers who trusted the individual

2025-02-03 19:28:06 GMT

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and also it pays well for the middle class or those who are privileged and can afford to keep themselves healthy unlike marginalized groups who are unable to fulfill basic health requirements and do sex work as it does not require much qualifications other than knowing base instincts that humans have

2025-02-03 19:26:30 GMT

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well again it pays well cause of its opportunistic nature which again with rising demand that payment slowly dwindles as competition arises, same concept with other forms of work and this form of nature is something that is always prevalent with Capitalism as the concept of competition is seen as a acceptable thing despite being more toxic and harmful to the people who are involved in such a system

2025-02-03 19:24:49 GMT

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what do you want me to say lol, that i oppose sex work?
Personally i am neutral towards it but again by observing various peer reviewed journals and articles obviously the stance of being anti abuse which is more healthier for people as also researched by experts is more beneficial for everyone, so thus such studies are put forth which you believe is morally based regardless of the fact that it's far from anything but moral

2025-02-03 19:21:47 GMT

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i did state my idea isn't moral but overall based on objective facts on what is currently possible, the current system does not allow women and other marginalized groups to have a functional job without being low on their wages so they resort to sex work as there are countless studies which do prove it
I also put forth the source which argued that such sex workers are blacklisted by companies and by societal norms as their brand would be at stake for hiring employees afflicted with sex work, but you believe that I take a moral stance on this despite the arguments being far away from morals and more strictly towards documenting the abusive practices of such jobs

2025-02-03 19:18:22 GMT

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again you miss the point completely with this one, my statements overall has never been moral in any way, all i have stated are just sources which do back up my arguments, that sex work is inherently predatory in nature as seen by the practices that take place in sex work
In fact dismissing peer review research is more morally based than say someone who does have legitimate arguments as seen by direct observations and studies about such topics

2025-02-03 19:15:38 GMT

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but then why do you believe on sex work being an instrumental positive job then? Her work clearly states that it is an oppressive work which does not contribute to any societal progress other than promoting anti social elements between men and women
The idea that sex work is marketed as a positive thing "expressing sexuality" as stated by opportunistic feminists instead of being only a monetary job is something that only forwards the gerontocratic culture that has been prevalent for most of humanity

2025-02-03 19:05:36 GMT

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the only major reason why socialism failed was due to the warmongering nature of the Western countries which waged war and invaded foreign lands and overthrew any successful socialist party being established in that nation
The constant war like state that socialist countries were put in is what lead to other opportunist elements gaining power and the so called "failure" being claimed argument was sprung up
There has been no denial that western countries have been against socialism and take any measures to prevent any successful socialist state from being created

2025-02-03 19:02:37 GMT

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and yet the treatment for severe cases is much more expensive than what is seen as the preventive measures which most people in marginalized groups wouldn't really believe in, again I'll provide the source to it ofc

2025-02-03 19:01:15 GMT

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well man idk what to say about this, u can let me know when my points were countered in any manner, please do refer to which arguments so that I can understand properly

2025-02-03 19:00:09 GMT

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again you don't provide any arguments for why the free market is better than socialism
Under socialist doctrine the belief of the free market is just a falsified idea which doesn't consider the material reality of the market itself, as the ones who have the largest ownership of that market are western countries with colonialist rule like the US and western Europe

2025-02-03 18:58:32 GMT

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i suggest reading Alexandra Kollantai's work on "prostitution and ways of ending it"
They are obviously socialists who have done many studies about the poor living conditions of sex workers in the past especially during the industrial revolution during Tsarist Era and had documented cases of sexual abuses on such jobs
It does not just extend to sex work but also other forms of labour which is exploited and the means of production owned by the rich CEOs and elites of the market who only added a few of their shares but the labour power of the worker is instead used by the rich instead of being used to develop the industry

2025-02-03 18:54:12 GMT

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well cause it is literally bad, there is objective studies based on it and I can even provide the sources to it, if you think that those objective facts are morally based then i can't help you after that

2025-02-03 18:53:23 GMT

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and providing more pills isn't fixing the fact that having these diseases create secondary infections and people often die from such complications than the diseases itself, so maybe the fact that the work which they do which gave them such life threatening diseases should be the goal and not just providing enough pills to temporarily fix a problem which is with the system itself, sex workers should be uniting on betterment of their conditions and other jobs not related to sex work, not ask for cheaper pills

2025-02-03 18:50:09 GMT

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that's cause I'm from a middle class family,the same thing can't be said for poorer communities who depending upon location can have exorbitant prices

2025-02-03 18:48:11 GMT

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I'm sorry but believing anything from the UN especially after their failures with the COVID pandemic is just wishful thinking even from an objective standpoint

2025-02-03 18:47:28 GMT

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well again it's on the basis that the middle class people benefit from it, the poor low income class who face poverty often do not have such opportunities in the current system that we have, and considering the big pharma corporations which seemingly pass off newer drugs without quality tests and long term side effects being studied, well for people it's usually not noticed until decades later

2025-02-03 18:45:18 GMT

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yet you don't even consider the US healthcare system which puts people more in debt than helping them escape it, also the draconian credit system does not help things either as black communities are discriminated against and encouraged to do more sex work than escaping it
same thing with EU countries with only the Nordic countries living off imperialist inequal exchange rates from third world nations while their middle class privileged people who engage in sex work have their social benefits met but with women the patriarchal culture still is more exploitative towards them as seen with the prostitution businesses in Amsterdam which have serious human trafficking cases especially of migrants

2025-02-03 18:35:41 GMT

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and unless you don't have an NGO outright working for peoples benefits it is unlikely that on average people get such cures if I'm honest, the WHO didn't even deal with the COVID pandemic properly so how are we to expect they handle these welfare programmes
in fact the opposite is even more true with sexual abuses being documented by the UN peacekeepers and NGO activists
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_abuse_by_UN_peacekeepers

2025-02-03 18:32:47 GMT

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i mean again man i do state that modern medicine has developed enough to cure even severe cases but the issue lies in affordability not on the treatment itself which was the issue in the past times