s3x_JAY
s3x_jay

I'm the guy behind https://s3x.social and a bunch of other sites. For ~15 years I've focused on building & running #gay sites. I'm also one of the Community Ambassadors at https://XBiz.net - the #porn industry's leading B2B discussion forum. #LGBT #NYC #Harlem

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2024-04-30 18:42:28

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USPS PO Box? They reject mail unless it’s to a verified name.

2024-04-07 15:43:10

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Having been immersed in Christianity as a kid, with exposure to many of its denominations, I generally agree.
But there are exceptions… I still very much respect many Episcopalians, Church of God and other liberal branches that truly follow the teachings of Jesus.
That said, when you look at the bulk of Christian history what stands out are the wars and the oppression carried out falsely in the name of Jesus. This is continues to be very true today with the Christian Nationalists trying to force their beliefs on others.

2024-04-06 18:10:23

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What’s your definition of “wokeism”? To me it’s the acknowledgement of uncomfortable truths. So I can’t quite wrap my head around equating it to communism.
I generally agree with you in relation to communism. Socialism is a really broad concept. On the more extreme bits we agree. On the more mild bits we disagree. I’d also say that Jesus was a socialist (far more so than me). So I’m surprised with you having an issue with it.
But basically I don’t see those 3 things as equivalents. Each is quite a distinct thing.

2024-04-04 09:38:25

The thread of continuity in my life… Fundamentalist Christian upbringing -> now working in gay porn… https://image.nostr.build/7cf97ec058f2c27c48a88bd856bb0918ce1391b7afc60dcfa07929dc012019b7.jpg

2024-04-03 23:53:26

I’m hoping this kind of thing will be repeated in the fall…
“Out of 13 right-wing school board candidates in the St. Louis area, zero won their races on Tuesday.
“Voters overwhelmingly rejected their far-right options this week…”
https://apple.news/A450OFXTlRPSiNW9TPeBJ9Q
#maga #woke #politics

2023-11-12 00:14:57

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Common carrier status for Internet service makes sense to me.
Getting people connected makes sense to me as well.
What doesn’t make sense IMHO is the emphasis on wired/cabled connections.

2023-11-09 23:39:27

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Read Reuters. Its roots are “just the facts” business news.
My favorite conservative news source is Deseret News - Mormon, out of Utah. I really respect them actually.

2023-11-09 23:33:46

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More top-down, but it enabled bottom-up.

2023-11-09 19:01:58

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Can you define what’s included under the term “pedophile” and point to an example of pedophiles agitating for freedom?
I’ve got my ear to the ground on this stuff and have never seen what you’re talking about - unless we have different definitions of the term. (The word is used rather broadly these days).

2023-11-09 16:38:26

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What issues are you having? What type of labeling are you trying to implement?

2023-10-10 22:20:17

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Since there’s no canonical website for Nostr all the various sites that make Nostr content crawlable for search engines will appear to be spammy to the search engines since would appear they’re copying each others’ content.
But that is what it is - it’s the nature of the beast. But it’s something to consider…

2023-10-10 19:11:53

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I like the idea, but as more sites use it it’s going to a duplicate content nightmare.

2023-09-27 14:23:38

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I’ve been using the beta for a few weeks and haven’t noticed much of a difference. What’s bugging you?

2023-08-02 15:20:53

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My response when this topic came up on XBiz.net…
Why? No children are harmed... It's the same reason anime with child-like characters is legal most places.
I could understand a mandatory disclaimer that no children where involved in the creation of the content, but more than that is just censorship. Our (porn) industry exists because the law says you need to meet a higher bar to censor.
I feel zero need to understand other people's sexual preferences - just as I don't need other people to understand mine. All I would like is for people to be good to each other. If someone can be sexually gratified without harming someone else - great.
We don't need to know the provenance of every image to fight abuse.

2023-07-05 23:19:30

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Thanks! That would be super!

2023-07-04 18:05:24

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Question: You store nsecs in the keychain, right? If my keychain is replicated to my Mac why doesn’t the Mac version see/use those nsecs?

2023-07-02 00:12:11

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Geez… there’s so much wrong with that reply…
1) Context - the need for a gun in Manhattan is very different than the need for a gun in the Alaska wilderness. I’ve lived in NYC for over 30 years there’s literally zero need for the average person to have a gun for defensive purposes here. If you scream for help someone will hear you and the NYPD will be there moments later. But in places like the Alaska wilderness you’re stupid to wander outdoors without a gun.
2) The type of gun - almost no one wants to outlaw regular shot guns or hunting rifles. The issue is guns that can be concealed and high capacity automatic weapons. Lumping them together muddles the discussion.
3) All sorts of aspects of your life are reasonably regulated already. Take cars - there are mandatory safety features. Speed limits. Seatbelt laws. Etc. The idea that we can’t discuss the equivalent for guns is absurd.

2023-06-30 16:03:45

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To a point, yes. But it’s complicated… Cars have a place, they have their uses, but too much of modern life requires a car. But cars are harmful in a myriad of ways. It will require restructuring our cities and towns to be more walkable and friendlier to micromobulity options (bikes, etc). And better mass transit is needed.
You may have heard NYC (where) I live will have congestion pricing soon. That’s huge and it’s part of the solution.

2023-06-30 15:56:34

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Simple answer - places with strict gun laws have far lower gun-related crimes.

2023-06-30 15:18:37

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Some of us see cars as a huge problem as well.

2023-06-23 01:06:49

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A post from the future!

2023-06-22 17:19:47

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There are SO many aspects to Nostr where a lawyer’s input would be interesting. That’s just one of them…

2023-06-22 15:46:47

Want a wife? Be more liberal...
From the Mormon newspaper...
> If single males highlight their conservative views on dating apps, a growing number of single women won’t swipe right. There’s a political gap growing between young men and women.
>
> ...shifting ideological trends pose real barriers to finding someone to date, impacting future family formation. Their research focused on opposite-sex couples and concluded that if they highly value political sameness as a crucial ingredient for cooking up a relationship, conservative men may not find a lot of conservative women. Liberal women may face the same challenge looking for liberal men.
>
> ...68% of unmarried women voted for Democrats in the last midterm elections, while 52% of unmarried men voted for Republicans.
https://apple.news/A88YZlVQJTS-HpKC7HNOpdQ

2023-06-20 00:14:03

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This aspect of banks was explained really clearly in the classic Christmas movie “It’s a Wonderful Life” (1946, with Jimmy Stewart).
Point being banks, unlike Bitcoin, reinvests dollars deposited back into the community. So the money isn’t all available for withdrawal at a moments notice. That’s a good thing, not a bad thing.

2023-06-17 17:22:31

There will be ads on Nostr, but the attention they get will be earned. This WSJ article explains how Duolingo takes this approach on TikTok.
https://apple.news/AWXQrsQSASE65iJw9N0Zxzw
(That will be my approach for ads as well - put out advertising content people like well enough to follow & share).

2023-06-15 13:50:59

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Isn’t it a “blaster” relay? So it would help with publishing events. No?
I first heard about it during Nostrica

2023-06-02 22:56:55

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“Woke” is simply trying to see the world through other people’s eyes. It’s totally positive.
#woke

2023-06-02 19:03:20

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Does #[1] have a logout button yet? Last I looked I’m stuck in some read-only mode and can’t login, since I can’t logout of the read-only mode.

2023-05-31 23:07:29

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I use the Yubico Authenticator and their hardware keys. Nothing is stored on my phone. In some cases I just insert the hardware key or hold it at the top of my iPhone.

2023-05-18 12:46:36

Misinformation can cause financial meltdowns…
https://www.reuters.com/business/finance/us-banks-rethink-social-media-threat-not-marketing-tool-2023-05-18/
Freedoms come at a price. The question is how to get the most freedom for the smallest price… (and not just have it be freedom for a few).
Obama used to say he tried to look two steps out at possible consequences… That’s probably a good thing. But it’s a balance - it’s about acknowledging the downside and saying the benefit is worth it.

2023-05-16 22:08:25

What’s with the idea around here that experts aren’t important and don’t need to be consulted?
If I wanted Amateur Night I’d walk 2 blocks and go to the Apollo…
SMH…
https://www.apollotheater.org/app/uploads/2021/11/2017_11_22_N_SuperTopDog_IP_original_1.jpg-1280x853.jpg

2023-05-16 12:21:56

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The current situation is making economists rethink the causes of inflation. They are seeing inflation being caused by the _expectation_ of inflation. So asking employers to slow down wage growth is to combat that dynamic.

2023-05-12 00:15:30

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> “Lastly, there is a lot of debate about reports and spam. Yet, no PRs and no bounties were created to elevate these solutions. It seems like people are not that interested in proposing solutions.”
Actually there has been discussion on this (first as an issue, then a PR) for over two months now. There are two pending PRs for content moderation.
#[5] & I proposed “NIP-69” which, after discussion spawned “NIP-68”. My memory is foggy but I remember pointing it out to you and you saying you didn’t like it because it used parameterized replaceable events (which you don’t like). But I’d really love it if you looked at it more closely.
A lot of people have a negative reaction when they first see it, but when they really start understanding it they warm up to it.
https://github.com/nostr-protocol/nips/pull/457

2023-05-11 21:17:18

WSJ: "Google Fined by Russia for Failing to Remove LGBT Content"
https://apple.news/ANkszuhITSN6UR9seTnOFBg
> "The $39,000 penalty also covers the search engine’s failure to take down material on Russia’s war effort in Ukraine…"
Who are they going to fine when Nostr fails remove pro-LGBT / pro-Ukraine content?

2023-05-11 18:38:18

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Whether it’s censoring topics or people, there’s a problem. Topics like that need to be able to be discussed on Nostr without the person being harassed. You can’t have free speech when it’s policed by bullies.
It’s not like the bullies can’t have their own space. But people need tools to protect themselves from harassment.
I was talking to an African-American friend the other night about what makes “black Twitter” special and what would be needed to get them to move to Nostr. The first thing he said was something along the lines of “black Twitter” is about black folks being able to talk freely amongst themselves without harassment by police or hate groups.
At the end of the day minority groups all need the same thing. They need safe spaces. And for the most part that’s defined by a lack of intolerance and hate.

2023-05-11 18:02:50

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Right. It's kinda circular. Marginalization is like that…

2023-05-11 16:33:35

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And yes, the same is true of other minority groups. You could substitute "black" or "Muslim" or a variety of minority groups and you'd probably find similar results. This study just happens to be about LGBTQ journalists.

2023-05-11 16:31:54

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I don't think you get the point. It's not about journalists getting harassed for covering LGBTQ topics. It's about the journalist covering a hurricane getting harassed because he's gay. It's not about the topic.
That said, there is a lived experience LGBTQ folks have that colors how they may cover a topic. So it's also about censoring certain points of view.

2023-05-11 16:15:25

Just wait until they hear about Nostr!
BBC: "Vietnam to crack down on anonymous social media accounts"
https://www.bbc.com/news/business-65529716
> "Unverified accounts on both local and foreign social media platforms such as Facebook must comply with the new regulations."
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> "It is unclear how the new measures, expected by end-2023, will be enforced."
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> "Laws requiring tech firms like Google and Facebook to store users' data locally were also passed in 2022."

2023-05-11 16:11:06

## "LGBTQ+ journalists face high levels of abuse in UK, study finds"
https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/life/lgbtq-journalists-face-high-levels-of-abuse-in-uk-study-finds/
> "The research … found that online abuse targeting the sexual orientation and gender identity of LGBTQ+ journalists is now commonplace."
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> "More than eight in 10 (82 per cent) respondents shared that they had faced online trolling, while over half (56 per cent) were subjected to homophobic harassment."
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> "Many also believe their role to be dangerous, with 76 per cent of those surveyed either disagreeing or strongly disagreeing that media organisations are adequately protecting them from harassment and abuse."
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> "Almost three quarters (74 per cent) of the professionals surveyed reported feeling anxiety over the abuse they received."
If Nostr really wants to be about free speech, then LGBTQ+ journalists need to feel safe enough to speak here. If bullies control Nostr then there is no free speech here.
#LGBT #journalists #FreeSpeech #gay #PressFreedom #harassment #LGBTQ

2023-05-11 02:35:45

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I love it when I see them say “good morning”…

2023-05-11 02:05:39

What I want to know is whether #[0] has gotten #[1] & #[2] onto Bluesky or whether they’re just on Nostr…

2023-05-11 01:34:39

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It’s not a binary choice.

2023-05-11 01:33:32

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I agree. I think Will needs to read that article and think about what motivates people to participate in social media.
Don’t ever kill anything that confers “status”.

2023-05-11 00:44:23

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…But people identify with communities and their community probably has a domain… So NIP-05 can signal community membership.
(You’re above this kind of issue. But it works for “real people”).

2023-05-11 00:23:46

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NIP-39 confirms your identity at other places (Twitter, GitHub, Mastodon & Telegram)…
https://github.com/nostr-protocol/nips/blob/master/39.md
But AFAIK none of the big clients support it. Yesterday I noticed it in action on #[5]‘s profile at nostr.build, but haven’t asked him how he set it up.
Badges could also be another status / credentialing tool depending on how they’re used. The issue is knowing which badges mean something significant.

2023-05-10 23:54:15

A gay webmaster was found murdered in his apartment recently - William Futral, the owner of TheGuySite.com - it is believed to be a targeted attack.
https://avn.com/business/articles/gay/theguysite-com-owner-william-futral-murdered-918439.html
> "I am absolutely gutted to hear of the murder of Bill, owner of TheGuySite. Bill was one of the kindest, gentlest people in our industry. He was always humble, appreciative, and soft-spoken. I've known him for 13 years. There was never a nicer man."

2023-05-10 23:48:15

I hate to use the phrase "…but think of the children!", but that's basically the point of this article…
"American Psychological Association Says Parents Should Screen Kids for 'Problematic Social Media Use'"
https://gizmodo.com/american-psychological-association-kids-social-media-1850424387
> "Right away, the APA acknowledges social media “is not inherently beneficial or harmful to young people,” but rather is highly variable depending on the personal and psychological characteristics of the user accessing the services. Young users already struggling with body image issues or depression, for example, may be more prone to experience negative outcomes on platforms than their peers. On the flip side, the report notes, young people struggling with mental health issues or others from marginalized groups may actually benefit from the support networks and advice they receive from other like-minded people on social media which may actually aid psychological development."
I guess my point in posting this is that it's something else to think about - and yet another reason why Nostr needs the ability to tailor content to users' needs and shield vulnerable folks from harm.

2023-05-10 22:11:14

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Have you considered adding the 'relays' option to your NIP-05 validation so the clients know to use (or at least suggest) that relay for your users without them having to add it themselves?
You don't list relays on your NIP-05 currently…
https://nostrplebs.com/.well-known/nostr.json?name=derekross
I feel like NIP-05 has a lot of power with the relay option - but hardly anyone is really taking advantage of it.

2023-05-10 22:07:01

Interesting story on the psychology of Bluesky…
https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2023/05/social-media-status-twitter-blue-checks-bluesky/673987/
> "Social media has always been, at heart, a big status game. The most successful social platforms are the ones that allow people to efficiently gain access to a larger network and accrue status inside it."
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>"…Bluesky is also an attempt at status migration. Currently, it is filled with former Twitter power users who are rightfully fed up with being on a platform whose official policies seem intended to troll them, open them up to harassment, and make their experience less enjoyable. Status is about respect, and it’s clear that most of Bluesky’s users have left a platform they feel does not respect them. It’s exciting to watch new status relationships evolve. "
It's an interesting way of looking at it. Nostr isn't so much about status - you can't even be sure how many followers someone has… I'm not sure I want Nostr to get focused on status, but status is also about reputation, and reputation does make sense in a lot of contexts… Can we take the good part from the idea of status and incorporate it somehow?

2023-05-10 13:34:01

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Nope. Not using nos2x…

2023-05-10 11:45:57

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Just tried (again) and no luck.
(Firefox Developer Edition on Mac)

2023-05-10 11:17:48

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I couldn’t find it either. I’m logged into some read-only account and basically can’t use Primal as a result.

2023-05-10 11:15:42

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Just pointing out inconvenient truths.
Both the LGBTQ community and the porn industry happen to be under attack by evangelical/fundamentalist Christians. Having been an evangelical myself in the past I see things pretty clearly.
This is highly personal for me on many levels.

2023-05-10 02:47:28

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Jesus was a leftist. Read your bible!

2023-05-10 01:05:56

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I’m a newb to all things crypto. Lightning channels sound complicated even though I have a server I could run one on. Can you point me to an explanation of an easy solution?

2023-05-10 00:56:39

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I’m shocked. You can’t bring yourself to call a death threat “hate speech”.
SMH…
#WWJD…

2023-05-10 00:38:32

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I have Cash App. There are fees (~2%) going USD to BTC.

2023-05-10 00:30:31

Is there a way to go USD -> Lightning (sats) without going through the pain of on-chain BTC?

2023-05-09 23:53:48

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Rephrased… “Bluesky becomes a client of Nostr before Twitter goes out of business”… lol

2023-05-09 23:52:36

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#[4] has mentioned that the Mastodon bridge works (more or less).

2023-05-09 23:41:43

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1) The term “hate speech” has nothing to do with whether it’s criminal. Hate is hate, whether it’s illegal or not.
2) The UN’s broad definition is based on them (collectively) seeing hate in a very broad range of situations. The fact that my example meets their definition bolsters the point I was making.
3) The fact that you’d choose to moderate it (presumably because it’s hateful) is exactly the point I was making.
As far as “protocol-level” vs “platform-level”… Protocol-level censorship is impossible on Nostr. There’s no point in discussing it. It’s a red herring.
“Platform-level” stuff is more complicated. There are very specific use cases that are being built on Nostr that are clearly “platforms” (e.g. the creator solution Mazin is building). Then there’s “kind 1” which I think is better called a “common area” shared by many platforms.
The protocol needs a way to let everyone experience the common areas without fear or harassment. Which in practical terms means letting their “community guardians” label things that are problems for their community as problems (like content matching their definition of “hate speech”).
Saying that labeling things as “hate speech” is problematic makes the problem worse, not better. We need to acknowledge the problem and address it.

2023-05-09 20:51:56

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Can you explain why big blocks are beneficial to large entities?

2023-05-09 19:20:50

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Imagine that Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, TikTok, were all just different interfaces on the same feed. And that no corporation controlled what could go on the feed. And it was all done with proper encryption. That's pretty much Nostr.

2023-05-09 14:54:00

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That is cool. I can totally see using that!

2023-05-09 13:35:41

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I think you put the words in your own mouth…
You say "The term 'hate speech' is hate speech". I give an example where my announcement of the first LGBTQ relay gets a reply of "kill all child groomers". It was a clear death threat - perhaps not aimed specifically at me, but aimed at people _like_ me. I label that "hate speech" and you push back saying…
"Is that a political statement or a personal threat? The former is protected, the latter is criminal. "Hate speech" as a category is a way of criminalizing speech based on its political content."
So you just labeled a death threat as a "political statement". Basically you're condoning, or at least excusing/facilitating, violence and murder.
Sorry, but…
"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing."
Or to look at it another way - you make it clear that you're a Christian. I was brought up in an evangelical/fundamentalist Christian home. I went to a Baptist school for many years, church three times a week… There was even a period when Jerry Falwell was my pastor. I understand Christianity well. (I'm now a Deist.)
So "what would Jesus do" in this situation? If you look only at his words and his life - he relentlessly stood up for the powerless and the disadvantaged. He accepted people for who they were and simply asked them to be better. The only time in his life he was ever violent was when people had corrupted religion. When it came to civil society he advocated getting along with others - going as far as simply accepting the authority of a violent/abusive government (e.g. "pay unto Caesar…", and allowing himself to be crucified).
I'm sorry, but the Jesus I studied as a child would never see what I posted as anything but hate speech. He preached the exact opposite of that - "Do unto others…"
I think what you're missing is that intolerance of intolerance is a double negative. The outcome of being intolerant of intolerance is tolerance, not more intolerance. That's just how double negatives work - both in language and in math. Saying "The term 'hate speech' is hate speech" is wrong because you're saying intolerance of intolerance (e.g. calling hate what it is - hate) is just like other forms of intolerance. It's not.
But seriously - if you're gonna label yourself a Christian - at least try to be Christ-like… Jesus didn't/wouldn't call death threats "political statements". While he might tell someone to "turn the other cheek" when faced with a death threat (as he did), he wouldn't condone/excuse/facilitate the person issuing the death threat.

2023-05-09 01:39:19

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You seriously are OK with death threats on Nostr? And here I though you seemed like a decent human being…
There was NOTHING civil about how that person expressed themselves.
I’m also guessing you’ve never been responsible for an online community.

2023-05-09 01:04:28

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Potentially dumb question… Why can’t you undo likes and reposts?

2023-05-09 01:02:55

Trying to buy 2 years of filter.nostr.wine but keep getting messages from WoS that the transaction can’t be completed. #frustrating!
#[1]

2023-05-09 00:40:14

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If that’s true, then please give me the correct term for this…
https://assets.s3xstatic.com/resources/social-media/nostr-hate-speech-640.jpg

2023-05-08 23:29:35

Hate groups _will_ come to Nostr. It’s kinda a perfect platform for them. So we need to be prepared…
https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2023/05/proud-boys-seditious-conspiracy-sentencing-verdict.html
“…it’s really important to remember that only somewhere between 7 and 15 percent of all the violent terrorist attacks come from the far right. The vast majority of violence that we see, including on Jan. 6, is not tied to anybody who’s a member of a group.”
That’s important because hate is somewhat universal. This is why communities that adopt Nostr need to be able to have safe experiences. That doesn’t mean they should be ghettoized and confined to their own relays. It means they need to be able to explore the “common areas” of Nostr and encounter a minimum of hate in the process.
The proposed NIP-69 is part of the solution. So is the proposed NIP-97. Both of those will let people choose their own experiences.
But the “guardians” of those communities - the people who have the fortitude to face the hate - need the tools to find and report the problem so that sympathetic relays can remove the content. That’s something NIP-69 can do that NIP-97 can’t.
We can’t stop the hate. But we can manage it. If we don’t manage it, Nostr will become a very dark place. I would hate to see that happen.

2023-05-08 22:15:12

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What did you miss? Well, for starters Fiatjaf called Bluesky a scam…
https://fiatjaf.com/ab1127fb.html

2023-05-08 14:34:24

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Feel free to grab the one on my site (it's embedded in the HTML - otherwise I'd give you a direct URL)… https://s3x.social/

2023-05-08 03:19:05

Complete newb question… why is it good to plug in a mining rig on a day when the fees exceed the reward? Seems counterintuitive to me…

2023-05-08 01:20:42

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Just got done listening to it and really liked it. Love that he too is LGBTQ “family”. I think we understand these issues in more personal ways than other folks.

2023-05-08 00:15:52

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BTW… Having read a bit of the TrustNet docs… NIP-68 & 69 mirror it in many ways - only you can’t give a trust weight to the other person/account. That was somewhat intentional because it adds a layer of complexity which has limited value in an environment like Nostr. And TrustNet seems to focus more on P2P where there’s a limited (rather than enormous) number of people who could be trusted. When you have a huge number of people who you can trust I don’t see the value in partial trusts. Just pick the ones you _really_ trust.
One area where I’m thinking we could mirror TrustNet more is the Trust Area idea. So you only trust someone’s content moderation labels in a particular area of moderation. I think that’s too complex for end users but could be implemented by folks like relays who have their own formulas.

2023-05-07 23:30:04

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“Good enough is good enough.”
I heard that phrase a year or two ago and honestly it changed my life. It’s a “glass half full” way of looking at the world.
Don’t worry about the world. Worry about your place in it. And just shoot for “good enough”, not perfection.

2023-05-07 23:24:34

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I’m fine with the app dropping connections to the relays when it’s not in the foreground. (In fact I think that’s probably how it should work - or at least limit connections to them). But what I’ve noticed with Damus and other apps (I’m running betas for Damus, Nostur & Nos) is that when the apps go from background to foreground they don’t reconnect to the relays. To me that’s the biggest problem. I wait a few seconds, then kill the app and restart it and everything is great.

2023-05-07 23:12:39

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Two First Amendment lawyers I can strongly recommend are (in no particular order)…
Corey Silverstein
https://adult.law
Larry Walters
https://firstamendment.com
Both are easy to talk to and I believe the first consultation is free. (Or maybe they charge $1 to make it official).
Paying a little bit now for advice and an airtight TOS could save you a bundle down the road (not to mention the headaches). But one advantage you have over their other clients is you don’t have to deal with Visa & Mastercard.
I know another lawyer who I’d recommend as well, but I think he’s mostly a litigator. Corey & Larry are probably better for the contractual stuff.
That reminds me - it might be a good idea to join the Free Speech Coalition. https://www.freespeechcoalition.com They are the group that fights legal battles in the courts for the porn industry. Joining shows you’re serious about doing things right and in the past there have been times when being a member gives you additional legal coverage since while they’re fighting it out they often get court orders that exempt their members until the case is over.
There’s also the ASACP - which is specifically aimed at combatting CSAM. But my opinion of them is pretty low. (They refused to give input on content moderation for Nostr).

2023-05-07 18:43:01

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Have you consulted a lawyer? Running a legal creator site is easier said than done. Adult content makes it 10x more complicated. Since you’re literally hosting the content and controlling access to it, you’ll be liable. If you need recommendations for good First Amendment lawyers with exactly this kind of experience, I can give some names.

2023-05-07 11:46:42

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Use DNS over HTTPS (DoH) and only connect to relays that have HSTS enabled (prevents anyone from proxying your connection).

2023-05-07 00:54:03

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Sadly it’s not. But I’m hoping for the same fate as Clubhouse… Lots of anticipation followed by “eh… whatever…” When Bluesky gets to that point Nostr will hopefully have figured out its onboarding issues.

2023-05-07 00:27:32

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Is “adult content” (porn) welcome?

2023-05-07 00:25:27

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Thing is, unless we have a workable solution to content moderation, that will be the experience on Nostr as well. I’ve already gotten a death threat here. It’s why #[4] & I are trying to get a censorship resistant version of content moderation approved (NIPs 68 & 69). Everyone here is so “don’t censor anything”… Until they encounter truly dark content. Some of us just experience it more than others.
https://github.com/nostr-protocol/nips/pull/457

2023-05-07 00:06:47

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To clarify… he had to click to view HIS OWN images!!

2023-05-07 00:05:50

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A colleague/mentor of mine posted some porn on Bluesky and it was immediately flagged and required you to click to view. So yeah, not really a platform I care a lot about.

2023-05-06 01:34:54

One complication I just realized…
Right now a pornstar can give his platform(s) OAuth authorization to do automated posts to his Twitter account and revoke that right any time he likes.
But in the world of Nostr he’s unlikely to have the technical ability to issue delegated keys. It’s just too complicated and involves repeatedly having to issue keys.
What’s the solution other than the pornstar giving over his private key and just trusting the platform to keep it safe and not abuse it?

2023-05-05 23:39:42

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Right. People lists are well defined, but not really being put to good use.
In Nos I’d suggest you put them in the same drop-down as “extended network”. That’s basically a drop down that filters the scope of what’s presented.
But IMHO they should also be listed on the person’s profile page (provided there are publicly listed people on the list). When a list is presented the user should have the option of “list members” and “view as feed”.
One thing I don’t think is defined is following or subscribing to someone else’s people feed.

2023-05-05 23:32:30

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We are the government. We voted for it. What it does, it does in our name.
I have issues with that title but “we” isn’t one of them.

2023-05-05 23:23:33

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Actually, that made me think… Just as we use nostr:<eventID> we should be able to use nostr:<NIP-05>…
That would make it clear in situations like a business card which is which since they both look the same.

2023-05-05 22:36:43

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Not sure the type is big enough. Definitely print out a sample to check (and don't make people squint.)

2023-05-05 19:13:32

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#[2] had said “takes a minute”. I didn’t know whether he meant a literal 60 seconds or he meant “takes a brief moment”. If it’s the latter it’s no big deal.
I’d still love to see benchmarks though.

2023-05-05 18:59:46

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When you basically pay so your name isn’t visible - the name of some privacy company is visible instead. They’re supposed to forward emails to you, etc.

2023-05-05 18:42:40

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If you own a lot of domains and want to cut the cost…
- Become a “reseller” to get lowest prices - even if you don’t actually resell. I use ResellerClub.com
- Don’t pay for private registration. Instead put in “webmaster” for your name and then use a PO Box or some other legit address to avoid doxing yourself.

2023-05-05 18:32:26

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Are there benchmarks for the time it takes to do PoW?
I ask because it sounds like you’re saying that the same level of difficulty would be a negligible delay for a bot on a fast server, but take an unacceptably long time for a human using a web browser.
In that case bots will have an advantage over many real users.

2023-05-05 12:43:47

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Generally agree, definitely like the way you’re thinking. Two thoughts though…
Having an LN paywall on the relay recreates the problem I was trying to avoid… I’m not sure it’s legal to require payment to report content problems. e.g. a copyright holder shouldn’t have to pay someone who’s violating their copyright. But PoW isn’t payment, which is why that might work.
But then there the problem that PoW is really slow in browsers (see screenshot below). It can’t take a full minute for browser-based users but be instantaneous for bots on servers. That makes no sense. https://nostr.build/i/930e65377c143eb44b71316760713a3f267c005144b39a280eeb922c40aa3e4f.jpg

2023-05-05 11:26:04

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How do you do rebills with Lightning? It’s a critical question for more than relays.
When I brought up the topic of Lightning for porn sites the site owners’ response was “but we’d lose rebills and rebills are the bulk of our income”…

2023-05-05 01:34:27

Potentially dumb question… Is the Lightning network basically proof-of-stake?

2023-05-05 00:53:15

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Here’s more on Nostr Kids…
https://www.boppow.com/coming-soon-01-2
But #[4] & I are working on content moderation that, in the long run should make things a lot safer for kids.

2023-05-05 00:33:20

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A better comparison is the key to your house. Passwords typically need a username as well. Keys don’t. “Private key” isn’t very sexy. But every nsec starts with nsec, so not too hard to remember.