We only grow when we sit with our discomfort and learn from it 🌱
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Last Notes npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ for whomever needs it* npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Good morning, denizens of the multiverse. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Tag yourself, I’m slutty they/them npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ One common complaint about queer comedies I’ve seen is “it’s unrealistic for everyone in a friend group to be queer!!!” npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ My new cuddle buddy is aroace and I’m a hypersexual hopeless romantic and we have decided this makes for a good basis for a queer comedy series. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Is this a thing that has happened in the past? npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ If you’re not already familiar, I recommend learning about DARVO ("deny, attack, and reverse victim & offender"), a common tactic of psychological abusers. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Thinking about how Docs with purple laces flags you as gay/queer in punk/skinhead culture and into needle play in Leather culture (fortunately this works for me in either context). npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Girls only want one thing and it’s disgusting. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ “Why were we taught to fear witches instead of those that burned them at the stake?” npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Is your girl stacked? npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Pretty annoyed at my former self for rolling her eyes at things like “journaling,” “affirmations,” “mindfulness,” and “positive self-talk.” npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ How do you create purpose and meaning for yourself and your life? npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ I needed this. Maybe you do too. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Yeah, actually. While the support groups are “just show up,” this social requires pre-registering by emailing someone first, so I can reach out them. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ There’s a queer billiards social at the queer community center tonight I could maybe go to but I feel like I spent my spoons going to the fail support group there last night npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Home. Gonna play more No Man’s Sky. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Go to the queer community center to be social and find community they said. It will be fun, they said. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Yeah we’re leaving. Waste of time. 🙃 npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Well this meeting started 15 minutes ago, there are only two of us here, and neither of us are the facilitator. 🙃 npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Made to the disability support group at local queer community center. It’s my first time here, ever. 💜 npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ I tried to post pics and it didn’t work. Instance issue? npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ I think a lot of hate towards people being their authentic selves and living intentionally is the haters not having the courage to do the same for themselves. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Frog friend! npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ finding your people helps you realize there was never anything wrong with you npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Harry Potter tattoos have a higher regret rate than gender affirming surgeries. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ It’s never too late to transition. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ I am, please pass along! npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ the scary witch in the woods is just a queer and neurodivergent woman trying to live her best life, leave her alone npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ So many “villains” in stories are just marginalized people who are sick of being treated like shit npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ I’m a very visual person, so find myself on Pinterest a lot, secondary to Masto, and I’d love an ad and tracking free version of it. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Pretty bad brain morning. Will you share with me a way I have positively impacted you in some way? 💜 npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Thank you! I’ve never considered Ruby before, but it jumped out at me more than I expected. Added to my list! npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Yeah, I need a fae femme name, perhaps that starts with T, but I don’t want to limit myself. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ If I choose a new middle name that evokes the doll and starts with T, I can use Jade T. Pixel, use JT for short again, and keep Jade as armor. This time first + middle initials instead of first + last initials. 🤔 npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ From college onward, I went by the nickname JT, which I actually still kind of vibe with, and blogged and kink’d under the name J.T. Revner. JT is my birth name initials. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ I asked that question about names both because I’m finally going to file for a name change on Friday but also have been weighing the idea of making some changes. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ you’re doing great bitch keep it up npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ > We’re we here fuck we’re shit queer up npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ It’s been an interesting 18 months for sure. Excited for the next 18! npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ No, it’s not sarcastic. I’m so used to invasive questions about my transition that being able to share that I’m recovering and simply being wished well, without her asking for details, was a positive interaction. Most of my family are very nosy and don’t respect boundaries. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ My aunt texted me to see how I’m doing and I told her I’m recovering from surgery and she did NOT ask me what kind of surgery I got and, wow, how refreshing. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Thank you! npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Today is the day! npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ “My child is just fine.” npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ - If you’re not sure, keep your fucking mouth shut and listen npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Just in case no one told you: npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ If you think trans people get upset when we’re misgendered, try accidentally misgendering a cis person’s dog or baby. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ I learned empathy skill for my father, first, because soothing his pain means safety for me. And as I got to the world, I had to adapt this skill to new people, new interactions, and new intersections. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Because I wasn’t able to safely express my pain in childhood and was always managing my father’s emotions, I turned my autistic pattern recognition skill to human social interactions, but particularly pain and suffering. I developed a skill of empathy to some extent because expressing my compassion for those in pain was a way to express my pain. npub1aaqxny0zralgnt4v075fnqrmhq6v5ygntl4ujwrr63dkh8ddptts7l2jaa jade ember ⚧️ Punk is whatever makes you happy that irritates those used to having control.
