Sasha :verifiedtransbian:

Senior Management Squirrel. Worked @ Overleaf, looking for a new job. No GenAI ferrets over here. New name (actually 4: Sasha Victoria Charlotte Elisabeth), same great person! Pronouns: she/her/Dr. Serious about remote teams. Least useful doctor (theoretical chemistry) in my family. A beautiful mess in a trenchcoat. I scare (some) men.
From Aachen, Germany. Vain Little Shit.
Neurodivergent (AuDHD). People are my special interest. Trans Femme. Single (widowed).
Selectively pan. Don't you ever call me 'hey guys' 😡 #AuDHD #odd 💊 01-06-2022 🏳‍⚧🌈🎓

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2026-08-10 16:21:57 GMT

Classic situation:
- I start the upgrade process on a linux machine
- I shave my legs while watching
- connection timeout, tmux messes up
- while sitting at my desk in underwear the doorbell rings
- it's the neighbour asking for a package DHL dropped here for him
- I sneak into the bathroom WHICH HAS ITS DOOR RIGHT OPPOSITE OF THE ENTRANCE DOOR, to get into a bathrobe
- I open the door and hand over the parcel as if nothing happened
:blobcatjoy:
PS: I solved the tmux messup by killing the tmux and directly connecting to the screen session.

2026-08-04 10:36:21 GMT

Preppy look featuring my belly and a new top :blobcatgiggle:
Can't wear a bra under this top, because …
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2026-07-21 07:53:57 GMT

While cleaning up an external hard disk to use it for backup, I found PDF with an interview with the founder of my first company (as a permanently employed person).
And the headline is: "Permanent growth never was my goal"
And some more quotes:
"Our company values are not written on a wall. If you write them down they dissipate. I very strongly believe that values can only be propagated implicitly."
"Only when you stay independent you can develop a company culture that makes investors frown, but is loved by the young people working here and by our customers."
Adrian … I miss you.

2026-06-30 19:17:36 GMT

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@nprofile…l83p You miserable little man. If you wouldn't be so disgusting with your imbecile reply guy attitude I would feel sad for you.
Look at your miserable timeline. Slide in other people's conversations like like you are entitled to be heard. Nobody is listening to you in real life. So you try to play the strong guy online.

2026-06-30 19:04:15 GMT

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@nprofile…l83p Please continue if you aim for an instant block

2026-06-30 17:42:39 GMT

As a demisexual person I wonder how attraction feels for an allosexual person :blobcatthinkingeyes:

2026-06-30 11:48:03 GMT

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@nprofile…0lv9 "Klaus-Günther! Sag schon! Links oder rechts?"
"Ich … Moment …"
"Links oder rechts, Klaus-Günther??"
:blobcatgiggle:

2026-06-30 11:43:11 GMT

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@nprofile…0lv9 Die Dinger waren die Hölle! :blobcatgiggle:

2026-06-29 19:33:35 GMT

Claude native development.

2026-06-29 19:30:59 GMT

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@nprofile…a4ar @nprofile…m0su And yet he also was a fervent nationalist and inventor of a lot of chemical weapons.
Like most early 20th century chemists he is a very ambiguous figure.

2026-05-19 13:44:07 GMT

I rarely wear these Koi shoes, but I think they fit perfectly here :blobcat_coy:
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2026-05-18 08:35:14 GMT

Passing was never the price of dignity :blobhaj_heart_trans:
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2026-05-03 11:42:28 GMT

Two smart devices for sewing. Not required, but fun to work with.
First the needle safe. The bottom is magnetic.
https://anarres.family/system/media_attachments/files/116/510/460/647/119/035/original/06bc22310575b8bf.mp4

2026-04-25 07:58:41 GMT

Voelkel, auch so eine Firma, die ganz tief in der rechten anthroposophischen Schwurbelecke steht.

2026-04-24 19:26:23 GMT

Music and art in general is built on the shoulders of queer people.

2026-04-24 07:55:45 GMT

My interest in attending a config as a listener (instead of speaker) is *very* low.
It's like an awkward form of dysphoria. Because my expectations and self-image differ completely from what I would be doing.
I rarely go to conferences for the talks. I go there to meet people. I can listen to the talks in videos, if I want to.
And apart from meeting people I love to be on a stage. I confess, in part because I love the attention. But mostly because of the Q&A. It's my favorite part of any talk. So conferences without a Q&A also are less interesting to me.

2026-04-23 18:18:20 GMT

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2026-04-18 20:08:04 GMT

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@nprofile…v9vp Maybe we had bad luck with the area we walked through or there are areas that are different in general.
But rarely have I seen so much poverty and decay. And dirt.

2026-04-18 20:00:55 GMT

We've been to Verviers, BE, today. For half an hour, then we fled.
It's one of the most depressing cities I've ever seen. It's the Zauberberg (The Magic Mountain) of cities.

2026-03-09 17:08:23 GMT

Some people I know recently have run into an "identity problem".
Like "I don't know if I'm really a woman, I don't feel it like I did."
My hypothesis is that people get used to being a woman. There are not so many spikes of euphoria anymore. They still enjoy their life, but it feels like the "sparkles" are fewer.
My approach to this is: get out of the house. Interact with people, especially other women. For me this never will fade.

2026-02-28 10:03:11 GMT

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@nprofile…a4ar Nail salon is my hair stylist. It's a safe space to relax and enjoy.
And I too like the way it looks.

2026-02-28 09:45:37 GMT

Success! Before and after pictures of my nails :blobcateyes:
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2026-02-19 08:26:50 GMT

Euphemism of the month: "we folded back the milestone for one month," meaning: the delivery date is now one month earlier without reducing the deliverables.

2026-01-31 12:22:49 GMT

75 year old German comedian (Hugo Egon Balder) touring with a solo program. And in an interview he says, that all the good jokes go on someone’s expense, mostly minorities. And that you can’t say what you want anymore. But that he doesn’t care because of his age and tells them anyway.
What is it with these old farts always complaining and then doing whatever they want anyway? Maybe your type of humor just went out of fashion and you can’t accept that? Have you ever seen an old vaudeville recording and had pity with how these people tried to be funny? That’s you now.
Yes, your audience laughs about your jokes. Because they are part of your generation that’s (hopefully) going to be extinct soon.

2026-01-27 03:41:21 GMT

I should go to bed again. It's 4:40am over here.

2025-11-08 13:09:04 GMT

Watson and Crick used unpublished x-ray data from Rosalind Franklin and never gave her credit for it. They both were absolute noobs in x-ray structure analysis (I discovered this myself for some time, it IS hard).
Franklin was world-renowned for the quality of her x-rays. One of her coworkers who didn't like her stole the newest data and handed it over to Watson and Crick.
Using other scientists unpublished data without their consent is one of the worst things in science.
Later in his life, Watson said some incredibly stupid and racist things I won't repeat here. He did so several times. It was severe enough for Cold Harbor National Laboratory to dismiss him from all duties and cut all ties with him.

2025-10-19 15:00:57 GMT

The Romans had a cool thing for people like JK Rowling. It's called damnatio memoriae. And it means that a person's name was erased from official documents and art (like sculptures and relief) and nobody should mention them ever again.

2025-09-05 13:05:00 GMT

Neurotypical people probably don't get the stress traveling can put on a neurodivergent person. It starts with booking trains or flights. I literally need to have open browser tabs for each and every part of the journey. If I need connecting trains/flights I need to SEE it in front of me and see that I have enough time in between.
Then when I travel I check the train platform, coach and seat every five minutes, because I forget coach and seat. And I'm afraid I don't get a change of platform early enough.
When I'm on a train and it has whatever small delay I will check every 10 minutes if I will catch the next train.
If something changes unexpectedly, I fall into some sort of anxious paralysis. It takes MASSIVE amounts of energy to actually act in some way to mitigate the change.
If something doesn't work out, like wrong ticket (happens very rarely, see above), an automatic passport scan doesn't work or something like that I'm literally close to a meltdown. [1/2]

2025-08-20 22:00:25 GMT

"If you're dressed like this people will stare at you. You will stick out!"
Well, honey bunny, you're onto something big. Actually this is exactly why I'm dressed like this.
For all of my life I stuck out. For a long time involuntarily so. Now I do so consciously. And it's not a trauma response or something like this. It's finally me being me. I'm wired like this. It doesn't cost energy, it gives me energy.

2025-08-19 21:18:04 GMT

Ah! This is so hard :blobcatpensive:
https://anarres.family/system/media_attachments/files/115/057/510/628/174/456/original/389b7e362c920958.jpeg

2025-08-18 18:19:39 GMT

OH: "I didn't ask to be born this way."
I didn't ask for it, but I couldn't imagine any way to exist and live that would be more fulfilling, give me more self-love and understanding of myself and others.

2025-08-14 21:01:47 GMT

In October I will be at the Unicorns in Tech Summit in Berlin. And this time we even have a booth! And our head of culture and inclusion (DEIB) and the leader of the pride ERG will be there too.
What a gay week :blobcat_coy:

2025-08-13 12:08:51 GMT

A belated good morning, you wonderful people and beings! :squirrellove:

2025-08-09 22:43:19 GMT

One reason why I find a tattoo on the back of my hand so intriguing is that I can't hide it.
I don't want to, but if it's let's say on my upper arm, chances are it's covered by clothes. This thought makes me feel uncomfortable.
That's probably also why I like neckpiece tattoos.

2025-07-29 18:12:02 GMT

And by the way, generalizing labels is not consensual.
Like "bi and pan are the same."
Maybe for some people, but for some others they are not.
Don't call me bisexual.

2025-07-28 20:33:18 GMT

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@nprofile…plfp :blobcatgiggle:
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2025-07-28 09:13:30 GMT

Yesterday I did so many chores that there were none left for dressing up. But today I did!
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2025-07-25 09:14:27 GMT

I have a question for my followers living in Germany. Why do I write in English? I have no idea :blobcat_coy:
Do you know of any tech job fairs focussing (or having a special track/event) on people from a different cultural backgrounds, minorities or immigrants?
Background: we try to diversify our engagement (and recruiting) and would like to participate.
We are already quite well positioned, but there’s always room for improvement. And while a lot of companies retract from diversity and inclusion, we double down on them.

2025-07-22 20:31:47 GMT

I come to think that keeping my ability to not be an "adult" is part of what helped me survive.
In part it's due to my ADHD that I have this tendency to not take myself serious and to not let anyone else make me feel like I have to get a grip on adulting and being serious.
There are some adages in German around things like "now that you are of age Y, the serious/dire part of life starts!"
That's total bullshit. I never really "adulted" and I feel very disconnected from people who did.
This doesn't mean that I avoid responsibility or accountability.

2025-07-20 17:33:51 GMT

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@nprofile…r5de In March I went to Amsterdam by car. And I was surprised by the amount of Teslas around the city.
On the highways they drove like nobody else was on the streets. It's surprising.

2025-07-20 15:22:37 GMT

Today I saw for the first time a Swasticar in front of me with this "I bought this car before Elon got mad".
And thought: That's a lie. You preferred to not listen, when we told you that he is a sociopath, drug addict, misogynist, transphobe and proud nazi. There were reports about the terrible work conditions in his companies. And about the technical deficiencies of his products.
By the time I was working for a German EV manufacturer, jokes about the problems with Teslas were paramount.
And yet, here you are, pretending you had been lied to. Coward.

2025-07-10 11:25:39 GMT

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2025-07-08 12:44:41 GMT

How NOT to do recruiting:
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2025-07-06 11:48:43 GMT

What really pisses me off a bit is that the media representation of trans women is overwhelmingly straight. Not only in main stream media, also in specifically LGBTQIA+ contexts.
It's always a trans woman being attracted to a man.
This isn't reality. Only 20% of trans women are straight. There are more lesbian and bi/pan folks than straight people.
But I guess this alludes to the hetero normative mindset of society in general. It makes "a bit of queerness" more digestible. Even for members of the community itself.

2025-06-29 20:19:07 GMT

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@nprofile…8wcz Snagtights?

2025-06-28 07:50:32 GMT

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@nprofile…sr9k @nprofile…q43j Many years ago I was leading a project for a customer where we rebuilt the whole online app (voting app for annual general meetings). And the project manager on the customer side called and complained that the new site *does not look at all* like the old one. We had a conference call with the engineers, because I had no idea what the problem was. Again she heavily complained without giving any details.
Then a Russian colleague leaned over to the phone and very slowly said: "Please press Ctrl-0."
And she made a surprised sound: "Ha! Now they look the same!"
We tried to explain that she had manually zoomed the one window, but not the other one. And her answer was: "Fine, fine. Please make sure this doesn't happen when I'm presenting at a customer!" :ablobcatsweatsip:

2025-06-27 15:29:39 GMT

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@nprofile…7nxw I also try to switch laptops as rarely as possible. And I never copy over the old installation. And colleagues are like „but it’s easy to mirror your old setup on the new machine!“
Yes, I know. I do not want all the old shit on my new machine. I use the switch as sort of an ekpyrosis.

2025-06-27 12:02:15 GMT

Well, hello there :blobcat_coy:
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2025-06-15 08:38:44 GMT

"We should have segregated toilets. Gender neutral ones and a different one for people who never learned to sit down when peeing." :blobcatjoy:

2025-06-15 06:39:55 GMT

Good morning, my precious friends and family :squirrellove:

2025-06-14 19:45:45 GMT

A US and a British Youtuber testing British biscuits. And they dunk them in tea.
Why? :blobcat_googly_blushy:
Why do you dunk perfectly crisp biscuits in tea to make them a mushy disaster?!?

2025-06-12 23:22:33 GMT

If you don't show a pride flag/logo on your company accounts this year although you did last year and justify it with "business reasons", you are losing the trust of your employees and crush their psychological safety.
This is inexcusable from a personal perspective AND from a business perspective.
And yes, I have a personal reason to say that. And I'm royally pissed.

2025-06-09 17:00:42 GMT

I never was in a closet. I was in some kind of darkness or fog.
I wasn't like the others, but I didn't understand anything.
I still don't understand everything about every topic. But I learned to notice when that happens and I learned that dealing with ambiguity and uncertainty is one of my major strengths.
I'm #AuDHD, nothing in my mind is simple, easy or unambiguous. But I don't want it to be any other way.

2025-06-07 21:26:10 GMT

Every time I see a video by one of the 'famous' trans creators telling people to "dress appropriately for their age", "stop wearing all pink outfits or tigh-high socks" because that's cringe, I think: shut the fuck up. If you want to dress like a tramp in oversized baggy designer shit with unhemmed edgings or look like you're selling insurances, that's fine.
But don't take away the fun of experimenting and discovering from people. All fashion is cringe if viewed with the senile eye of a misanthrope.
Fashion is about enclothed cognition. That's the idea that the way people experience the world and themselves is dependent on what they wear. You need to WEAR something to find out if it's for you or not. Don't let anyone tell you what style you should have.
That's also why I highly despise style consultants and personal shopping assistants. Try to tell me what I should wear and I'll tear you in tiny pieces.

2025-06-07 17:59:44 GMT

You know what's really magic? You walk in a pride parade and all along the way people and groups from the spectators split off and queue in with the protest march. And people along the way in their windows are cheering.
Times often feel dark and sad, but we are not alone! :blobhaj_flag_progress_intersex_right:

2025-06-07 05:40:00 GMT

Me: Oh no, I don't have too many nails polish colors.
Also me:
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2025-06-03 16:19:55 GMT

There's no contradiction between being pan and being a lesbian.
I'm attracted to femininity. But I can make any set of "private parts work." :blobcateyes:

2025-06-01 10:12:46 GMT

Happy pride month.
And remember, pride is a demonstration, that might look like a party :intersexpride_heart:
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2025-05-31 13:12:11 GMT

"To understand who is in control, observe who you are not allowed to criticize." (Voltaire)

2025-05-27 21:48:51 GMT

I think I never showed my under bed illumination. It's RGB and voice controlled :blobcat_coy:
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2025-05-25 11:21:41 GMT

This is so … it hurts … a bit, in a good way :blobcat_coy:
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2025-04-27 20:34:16 GMT

I need a safeword.
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2025-04-23 13:28:52 GMT

We (Overleaf) are looking for a Principal Product Manager! You will be working pretty close with me (I tend to see this as a plus 😅) #FediHire #FediJobs
https://digitalscience.pinpointhq.com/en/postings/d4576f8a-f575-4ecd-988a-3b4754b594d5

2025-04-20 19:34:05 GMT

I really like the 2016 remake of Ghostbusters. All women team and a very goofy and brilliant Kate McKinnon.
Had to look her up to find my gaydar confirmed. She's lesbian :blobcat_coy:

2025-04-16 06:56:39 GMT

This is for the people who feel relieved when autistic people mask (so probably not my followers :blobcatgiggle:)
Have you ever been around an autistic person when they don't mask? When they let go of all the baggage of self-control and just are themselves?
This beauty, all the flowering and greatness! The colors (this probably is a synesthesia thing)!
And surprise! They don't mutate to some human shaped cthulu, they are just a bit different. So please give them space to breathe :squirrellove:

2025-04-15 13:39:18 GMT

Hey 👋 We (Overleaf) are looking for a Senior Data Analyst. I don't know if this is a plus or a no-go, but you would be working indirectly with me. We very much appreciate applications from women and members of the LGBTQIA+ community. And we are already (in several dimensions) a pretty diverse team!
https://digitalscience.pinpointhq.com/en/postings/6f636ff2-ddc5-442b-864e-4da9c4751043
#FediHire #fediJobs

2025-04-13 10:06:47 GMT

In a surprising turn of events I will go to the final event of the schrit_tmacher festival. It's the world's most prestigious and important festival for modern dance and I absolutely love it, although I don't go very often.
The venue for this last event is a former steel factory. I've been there years ago and it's a very impressive location.
Now for the real dilemma: what to wear? 😩
https://schrittmacherfestival.de/programm/phoenix-dance-theatre-gb-belonging/2025-04-13/

2025-04-05 21:34:46 GMT

"The word of the day is 'ambitchuous', the desire to become a better bitch."
Oh, I love this :blobcat_coy:

2025-04-04 16:45:56 GMT

Could we just stop telling neurodivergent people what is "wrong" with them and instead just listen to them?
It's enough that "medical professionals" do that. I don't need peers to tell me that I am or am not AuDHD.

2025-04-03 17:48:25 GMT

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@nprofile…8wcz This would be part of the story. But there also are other perspectives.

2025-04-03 17:43:12 GMT

"The state of transgender people in IT" would be an interesting conference talk.
At least I would find it interesting. And I normally write talks for myself.

2025-04-03 10:16:29 GMT

"Shasa" thinks this is funny because it's true :blobcatgiggle:
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2025-03-29 08:21:15 GMT

Just today I saw an Instagram post by a science communicator where she masked the word "heck" as "h*ck".
I can't tell you how much I despise this whole algo speak shit. This is distorting communication patterns.
Symbolizing a dick with a 🍆 is somewhat funny, or a butt with a 🍑. But in some way or the other typing "sh*t" instead of shit and other patterns like this will go into mainstream communication habits. It's the world adapting the prudish US american standards of pseudo morale.
Glad that we don't have general censorship patterns like this in the Fediverse. Yes, we (hopefully) put CWs on a lot of stuff. But we do so because we care for the people reading our stuff, not to not upset shareholders or credit card companies.

2025-03-20 17:09:18 GMT

Fun thing about me and my appearance:
To some people I look very dominant, authoritarian and arrogant.
But I'm absolutely not.
But if someone triggers my ODD or tries to provoke me, I switch gears and I am exactly the way I look.
Five minutes later I feel sorry about it. Not always and only to a certain extent. That depends on the trigger :blobcat_coy:

2025-03-16 19:26:55 GMT

I don't have a fashion style. I have a way to express myself with clothes.
But I refuse to call it a style. This also is the reason why I react so intensely to people who criticize my outfits or suggest a change. I don't want to be rude or come over as if I'm pissed, but it's very personal. It goes down to my core.
Two things I still need to get better at:
- If I have a problem accepting feedback, I should not ask. Otherwise I deliberately hurt people. Which I absolutely don't want to do.
- I need to be patient with other people experimenting with fashion. I had nearly 40 fucking years to get experienced with fashion.

2025-03-15 19:06:21 GMT

Quite some time ago I read a text written by a crossdresser. And they described very vividly how they fell into a deep depressive episode every time they put off their feminine clothes and saw "the real person behind" it.
And reading this hurt so much, it's incredible. And I thought baby cakes, I might have a different perspective for you …
And I talked about it to my gender therapist and she said: "Of all the people who fight with the the realisation of maybe being trans, the 'former crossdressers' suffer by far the most."
So let me say this from a long experience of not getting my shit together: doing drag or not, crossdressing or not, if you're fighting to be yourself, be kind to yourself. We gender rebels are one of the most wonderful group of people that exist. :squirrellove:

2025-03-14 08:19:36 GMT

When a US American asks a group of people why the Europeans "are so invested in war", especially endangering all the beautiful historic buildings "by this Ukraine thing".
Then I know I found a MAGA shithead.

2025-03-13 17:57:49 GMT

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Eine gute Freundin von mir sucht nach einem WG-Zimmer in Augsburg.
🏠 Ein Zimmer ab sofort
📍 Lage: möglichst zentral oder gut angebunden
💛 Eine entspannte, freundliche WG mit trans- und ND-positiver Atmosphäre
Falls ihr ein freies Zimmer habt oder jemanden kennt, meldet euch gerne!

2025-03-10 22:23:57 GMT

A Swiss colleague introducing himself in a meeting: "I live in Switzerland. Beautiful landscape. And the flag is a big plus." :blobcatjoy:

2025-03-03 17:58:44 GMT

Hilarious when someone accuses the journalists reporting on the "Oscar's most beautiful outfits" of misandry for not including any men.
I mean … I know what a black tie attire looks like. I don't need to see twenty dudes in a smoking :blobcatjoy:

2025-03-01 20:55:35 GMT

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@nprofile…7dzf Might not have been his exact words. But he leaned heavily on promising revenge for the "disgrace of the Versailles treaty" and "resurrecting Germany as a great nation".

2025-02-26 19:50:04 GMT

Thinking about writing a blog post that can be misunderstood very easily as being nonbinary-phobic.
Which to me as a nonbinary person sounds weird, but we all know there are transphobic trans people.
:blobcatpensive:

2025-02-26 17:53:23 GMT

We have two unwritten rules here:
1.
2.

2025-02-26 15:33:49 GMT

I assume a lot of people struggle with the Hilbert space of ffmpeg parameters and options. So this website might help a bit: https://amiaopensource.github.io/ffmprovisr/

2025-02-23 21:58:36 GMT

Being called out has never hurt so much. You have no idea :blobcatpensive:
"Check in on your queer friends with ADHD/ AuDHD right now cuz their Justice Sensitivity combined with their Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria means that they are both acutely aware of how f*cked up things are *and* also feel personally responsible for fixing it *while* dealing with the helplessness inherent in the reality that individual action is not gonna do it this time. This means that their brains/bodies are going into overdrive and also that they are feeling guilty for any kind of self-care or joy in their lives because their brain weasels are telling them that resting or being happy while others cannot/are not is selfish. It's an exhausting state and we're not OK."

2025-02-22 09:40:36 GMT

So Hunter Schafer got a new passport and it has the gender marker 'male'.
This is so fucked up. The rise of the German nazis to power was only possible because so many people in the civil administration who didn't see themselves as nazis "just did their job."
If you watch a documentary about the Nürnberg processes, nearly every culprit said "I'm not a nazi. I was ordered to do these things. It was just my job."
That's exactly what is happening in the US currently. All these people who just do the job the Trump administration tells them to do are exactly the same. They are nazis too.
It's an old well known rule: if you go to bed with a nazi, you're a nazi.

2025-02-17 23:24:40 GMT

"Performing is just learning your personality has a much larger range than you thought it did."
This probably is the best way to summa why I dress up every day.
And here's the current personality facet :blobcatgiggle:
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2025-02-14 20:21:56 GMT

I was pretty much shocked when last year at the Unicorns In Tech Summit an insider explained the business model of dating apps and how they use machine learning to avoid giving you a perfect match.

2025-02-12 21:55:17 GMT

If you want a tip whom to follow on Mastodon:
Follow gentle people. Follow people whose posts make you feel good and/or safe.
That's it.

2025-01-12 18:06:45 GMT

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@nprofile…vvjp It's harder than you think! No cheating & no using Google. Every answer must start with the first letter of your name:
Name: Sasha
Animal: Siamese cat
Boy's name: Sasha
Girl's name: Sasha (I'm very fond of my gender neutral first first name, obviously :blobcat_coy:)
Color: Scarlet
Something you wear: Scarf
Drink: Sparkling wine
Food: Scones
Something in the bathroom: Shower gel
Place: Seaside
Reason to be late for school: Slipped on a banana peel
Something you shout out: Shite!
Put a blank copy in your comments so your friends can play too!

2025-01-04 19:11:06 GMT

"EDC" … holy fucking … stop using abbreviations nobody outside the US knows :blobcatpensive:

2024-12-26 08:43:36 GMT

Sometimes people tell me: "You're so considerate when acting or speaking as a manager."
Apart from the fact that this might not be true (I try to be humble), the explanation is rather simple but I can't tell often, because you shouldn't talk bad about your previous managers (The explanation of why is simple, but not the topic here).
But for today I will be blunt:
A lot of the things I do or avoid doing are something I learned from my previous managers. Sometimes by good example, but way more often by bad examples.
And if you are sort of hypersensitive for interpersonal vibes, being at the receiving end of a manager's actions you experience first hand, often painfully, how a certain action or something they say feels. And if it feels bad, you will memorize this and never do or say something like that yourself.
I don't say that these managers were bad people. They have never been taught, what people management is. They often were good engineers and were promoted to a managerial role, which is fine if that's what they wanted.
But they never learned about psychology, sociology, communication theory, neurodivergence or DEIB.
Some of us pick this up while progressing, some don't. And some of us laser focus on people management, because it's one of their special interests 👉👈🥹

2024-11-12 08:30:32 GMT

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2024-11-01 11:14:29 GMT

Didn't realize today is a public holiday in my state. So I dolled up coincidentally. Although … 'doll' might not exactly hit it.
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2024-11-01 07:51:37 GMT

Good morning, my precious beings ☕🌻

2024-10-30 23:02:54 GMT

If you think neck tie knots can not be a fetish, you should listen to me rambling for half an hour about genuine¹ and phony knots and how that's related to group theory and symmetry operations.
And why my favorite knot is a 'real' Windsor, a four center knot.
¹) a genuine knot is one that falls apart without leaving a slope or knot, when you pull out the short, thin ends of the tie. There are 144 genuine knots, but most are too complex to be useful.

2024-10-21 15:47:46 GMT

If anyone ever has tried to write a PHP extension in Rust?
I didn't have a look if it would be possible without the cpp macros or by migrating them to to Rust. So it's just a silly idea while waiting for my MacBook to finish the update :ABlobCatBounceFast:

2024-10-21 07:56:22 GMT

I’m a very happy squirrel this morning. For job reasons :blobcat_coy:
We had a (fair) challenge and I was just myself and explained how I see team management.
Being yourself wins. Always. And if it temporarily does not, they’re the wrong people.

2024-10-15 15:31:15 GMT

"Ah, that'll do."
-- Mediocrates, lesser known Greek philosopher

2024-09-09 19:01:42 GMT

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