#ElbowsUp MTF transsexual, had surgery last millennium.
Somewhat fond of watching baseball.
I can’t think of what else to say. Read my posts if you want to learn more about me. If a trans/GNC person follows me, the first post that they see will probably be about baseball. If a baseball fan follows me, the first post that they see will probably be about something trans/GNC. If a trans/GNC baseball fan follows me, the first post that they see will probably be about shoes. Profile pic is a sketch-artist version of me with sunglasses on. The header pic was a top view of my recreational habitat in my previous life, The Crease: white ice at the top, the red crease line in the middle, and the blue crease ice at the bottom. Whenever I go skating at a rink, there is something comforting about a familiar perspective. Motto: Illegitimi non carborundum Hashtag: ElbowsUp Skates: Bauer
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Last Notes npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day I’ll buy that! : ) npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Isn’t that Greenland? npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Happy for both of you and wishes for successful thinging in the future! npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Thank you for scouting this. I have been a bit Bluesky-curious. 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What I do is tip a bit extra to acknowledge them letting me stay and not hassling me (or not making subtle noises that say “here’s your hat, what’s your hurry?”) Or if it is where you pay up front at the cashier, then (like others have posted) as long as there are spaces available, it’s okay to stay. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day For those of you scoring at home, Barnier lasted 9.6 Scaramuccis (2.2 Truss on the UK system). npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day ::hugs offered:: Hopefully the good memories can help. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day “How big is Donald Trump's mandate?” About as big as his hands. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day With a nod to the 1960’s theme, rather than a sit-in~|, I was thinking it should be called a ~~pee-in. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day I was hoping one or two might speak out. ::crickets:: At least we know the score, so there’s that. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day FWIW, there were two Terras, so somehow my brain immediately referred to you as “Boops”. As in, thinking to myself, “Boops posted something interesting.” So I was using it as a first name. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Happy #MartianNewYear for those who celebrate! #Astronomy npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day I was almost not going to read it because of the intro above the link. I am glad that I did read it. A lot of good points. Would recommend. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Only a cynic could say, “well, that’s a good start, CNN.” npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day If recent events in Canadian provincial politics are any consolation…<li>The transphobic New Brunswick Premier (analogous to a USA state governor) just lost an election (didn’t even win his own seat) </li><li>in British Columbia the transphobic party failed to win</li><li>in Saskatchewan, the transphobic party held on to power but they almost lost: going in to the election they had 48 seats (of 61) and got reduced to 34 seats. Apparently the mail-in ballots could have swung enough seats for the transphobes to lose (but, alas, didn’t)</li> There are some Canadian politicians who want to be like the Americans (My god, have they got no ambition?!) but there is also some institutional ballast (a less politicized judiciary and, I hate to say it, but a representative of the British Crown who oversees everything and can—when called on—act as the adult in the room). npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day The parallels with your ancestors I see as similar but not totally applicable for your scenario of a new job. They whitewashed, anglo-washed, and (speculating) maybe even a little christian-washed, all under some degree of duress. You have some discretion in outing yourself. I am only out at work to ownership (I outed myself in the interview: I was fortunate enough to already have a job and if my being TS was going to be a problem then they can find someone else) and two co-workers, after having known them for over a decade. We have lots of characteristics that we don’t broadcast. I might out myself to some others at work but if they don’t even know me enough to know which baseball team I like or my astrological sign, why would I bother outing myself to them? Your last sentence nailed it, IMO: “I may not immediately disclose that I am trans, but I will never, ever, claim to not be.” npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Apropos of nothing, Starmer has now been PM for a period of 2.7 Truss (12.5 Scaramuccis on the American System). npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day AYFKM?? Wouldn’t a pie chart have been sufficient? Wow. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Blimey! npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Mondrian Rules! npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day I hope that you have peace, whatever your feelings (or absence of) become. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day You have a point! npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day What Caroline said. Better to send a letter like that sooner rather than later. Not to put too fine a point on it but funerals can happen. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day I can just see the GQP strategy meeting: Anderson: “What say that I pose with kids who aren’t mine.” Strategist: “It’s an old trick… but it just might work! https://talkingpointsmemo.com/dc/quayle-jr-on-mailer-flap-you-re-right-those-aren-t-my-kids-they-re-my-nieces-video npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Best of luck! Interviewing so soon, they seem to be serious and not on a fission trip. (Sorry, I had to) npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day I was in Nevada and saw that their trail mix had no chocolate and no fruit. That’s just nuts! npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day As skibidi gyatt goes, so goes the nation. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day And athletes compete as individuals, not as representatives of countries. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day I’d make a correction to your post but I don’t know if the term is “even more glowup”, “glow upper”, or “glower up”. All I know is that the German word for it would probably have 30 letters. : ) npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day It’s always stings when that happens. : ( Three weeks ago something happened to me then I realized something that softened the blow. I don’t own a television, so I walked over to the nearby mediocre brew pub to watch the Preakness Stakes. The bar was more crowded than I expect, there are two seats on the end available and I take the end one to distance myself from the guy in the third seat. I ask the server to put the race on one of the screens. Guy in seat 3 says, “good, I want to see that. We made small talk. Interesting guy. He spills some stuff about his divorce. Then he gives me his business card. At my age I give less and less of a fuck about outing myself to strangers. So I did and offered to give the card back. He said that he knew when I walked in the door and to call. He dropped that sometimes he wants to become one, too. Between people who are questioning, closeted, or chasers, you never know how good someone’s T-dar is. It made the sting a bit less. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Wallaby advances to the semi finals against bear. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Perfect for an interview. Knock’em dead! Figuratively. At least until they make the hiring decision and you complete the paperwork. After that, all bets are off. npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day What if you settled for living in a tree with no internet access, far from both public transportation and amenities (I can’t recall there ever being a thoroughbred race track with a turf course nearby, let alone a baseball team and an opera house). npub1nqh699axfd7kyfzfrwmc7nw939wud34f30jgdpd24gmwrgff2luseax79n Ruth O’Day Please only take the survey if you are a non-guy or do not identify as a guy, even though you may be cosplaying one for the time being. As for the guys, please wait over there for a moment ::motions to a set of several The Chairs:: Please boost for visibility. The survey question: How do you feel about the use of the term “guys” for addressing a group that includes at least one non-guy?