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Last Notes npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We do change in and after abusive relationships. In a way that anyone would that has gone through this. We lash out or shut down and struggle with trust. We also begin seeing through the mask. We didn't change to hide abusing someone, only to hide what the abuse did to us. https://blossom.primal.net/9be3f6eca6f115a84d60578e11a82e9114993a154c1d61b74220488d97adde08.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I'll be speaking and have a booth at the Energy Healing Conference in Pocatello, ID on October 3rd. Come by and say hi and check out all the wonderful things happening there. I'll be speaking at 1pm that day and I'd love to have you there! I also have free tickets, so reach out for one. https://blossom.primal.net/c40bf87db3ee89b238edfa33624a1cd09bcd022564d04dcc96992785dca69e41.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Many of us over explain everything and it's because we were trained and programmed to do this. We also don't have to. Just like we learned to do this, we can learn to not do this too. https://blossom.primal.net/2410378dc501ce46b1e9458c0d7acf594617d43b150fe0a6662d6cb703d24b80.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller This is so true! It's magic when it happens. All the good feels. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Most of the way there, or almost done usually means still a lot of work to go. 🤣 Lots of hours into this project, but it's been cool to see it coming together. Lots of problem solving along the way, which is also super fun. After you get it figured out anyway.🤷‍♂️ npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive people don't see anyone else as their own person. They only view people for what they can get from them. We also don't have to participate in their illusion or games. We get to choose what we want to do in our lives. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Rats are after cheese or food and we all know this. They also don't try to hide it either. Abusive people try to hide the fact they are after power and control and winning. Doing the work for ourselves is essential because it allows us to see this before we're stuck in a toxic relationship. https://blossom.primal.net/95875bd9d7401bdc79ff2054ccd69874f10cb740204694b3d1bb46c905a63688.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Children are often forgotten in the process of parents going through high conflict divorces and abusive partners. It's important for everyone to do the healing work, even more for anyone with kids. We are sometimes the only person who can model what a healthy person looks like. I know this isn't easy. Simply keep moving forward, one step at a time. https://blossom.primal.net/011d3bc05b99d443f3e1a8aa366c77b18c6c35db1bc3fdfe786351aca8ac0e6e.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I don't always feed the trolls, although it's definitely entertaining sometimes. I know it comes with the territory. I also know I'd rather put energy into the people who need it and deserve it. https://blossom.primal.net/99adcbc6464bf5425aaf717448eb37736f244e5adb788987c3a2c62a8bf8d95d.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Haters are gonna hate and they show up everywhere unfortunately. I respond because I understand some people are struggling and that's why they lash out. I also respond to show how you can respond, even to hate, in a kind respectful way. I also don't tolerate it and will block them. The important thing to remember is that it will affect our emotions and that's ok. We simply need to make sure we take the time to work through them. https://blossom.primal.net/fbff6cfcdb3a2b101ae724536ae55dac8b03f9a9ce7545494dde42fe29569ba8.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Don't use terms like narcissist or gaslighting in court or other places you are trying to get help from. They're overused and often misused terms. Many people struggle with believing our stories, or understanding what we went through. Instead give specific examples of what happened in plain language or using specific terms and examples like coercive control. This will help more people understand what actually happened and they'll be more likely to listen. https://blossom.primal.net/7d70fda69e742cfa1986cca6bc62a56ed6528efe7348ca2a0ea12397376ffd2f.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists simply want to fight and to control our lives. If that means using the court and their children, they'll use all of it without care for any damage it causes. Yet another reason most people don't fight for much else other than survival and the right to raise their kids. https://blossom.primal.net/236479aacaaf19d26becf617827de9202154a3ad6e1240500864ae56c2e1bd94.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive people won't ever give anything up including the power and control over us. These are all things we must take for ourselves. It's not easy, but it's worth it and it's the only way we get our lives back. https://blossom.primal.net/875f246438a6cd2b7f6d53e4a21a992242bac706cd1aa5e1de64f3285c89a660.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Many organizations of all kinds want us to fight and argue with each other and buy into their belief systems. This keeps us buying their products and it shuts down conversations about everything. The connection, community and conversation is one of the most important things in our lives. The more of this we have, the less of everything else we actually need. https://blossom.primal.net/73938cc62e76a7c132d72d98208664be2b89bd2819cf958ed9432ca11f1b8fde.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive relationships in any form leave marks far beyond any physical ones we ever see. They also hold us back in more ways than most of us recognize. It's essential to get the support and do the work to heal and release those wounds. This is what I do. Help you let go of what you've gone through so you can step into a life you truly love!❤️ npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's not about working or trying harder, it's always about releasing the things holding us back. There are also many layers to this. Becoming aware of it is the first step. We can't change anything we're unaware of. Releasing the things holding us back is always easier than pushing harder, especially when we don't actually need to. https://blossom.primal.net/997439c0168196026e024705b565597b18d34c5ce42bf6554283961bd74cdbcf.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many people think they've done the work, and many of them have. The reality is there is always more work to do. If we are not where we want to be in our lives and relationships, there is still more work to do. It doesn't mean we're broken or there's something wrong, it simply means there are still things we can work through, if or when we want to. https://blossom.primal.net/85c96255681aa67e49c03cee1bd5ce5aff80b90002b356433cff596762c9ef5d.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive people don't want to let us go. Keeping ourselves safe is essential. Only communicating when we absolutely have to is best and through text or email, rather than phone calls. No is a complete sentence and we don't owe anyone an explanation. https://blossom.primal.net/5806bfe2290b714f49fb0d21001025fcdd24c67dc71bc30d55952949ae65eb3f.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Most people I think are doing ok on the outside. I also know that in a deeper conversation many of them are struggling with finding or being in healthy relationships, or really loving the work they do. All of these things are affected by our emotional health and capacity. Working on this is life altering in the best way! https://blossom.primal.net/e29a70f5ec479a2853a93a569263f4318c925aa582196e64182fced1800ee369.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We're afraid of the shame and judgement from others even after we've removed the abusive person from our lives. Awareness is the way out of this. The key is to be extremely kind and compassionate with ourselves as we gain this awareness. This is the way forward in your life! https://blossom.primal.net/3068b8db8307e09021f96f53b604f5404732ecafb9ab6c4dd021e745e7cfb8b8.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We all have coping mechanisms whether we want to admit to them or not. Laughing it off is a regular coping mechanism for many people I think and it's a good one. I also think we can all be kind no matter the situation we're in to ourselves and everyone else. https://blossom.primal.net/90a603a95f0379f55189cf3bcfc123cad3599f3e6a9071bea2436837d1651908.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We know what we want in our lives, but many of us struggle to allow it into our lives. This is often because of the unhealed wounds we are carrying. It's the biggest thing I see holding most people back. As we heal these wounds, it makes everything better in our lives. https://blossom.primal.net/3c03e0bb626c6ab2ab5993fbd992e119bdc6b4035fa4bd1b9c98150a6c0a8c60.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I got to talk with a client I haven't talked to in a long time. I was incredibly grateful to hear how well they are doing now. Many of us think this work is about working through all the hard times and the struggles, and part of it is. The point, though, is to work through and release those things to allow us to really live our lives. This is the point and the gift of this work. Living our lives without carrying so much of what has weighed us down for too long. https://blossom.primal.net/4fea92d8ff7c9e5d5f29e4fe00968e5548ac9fc2596910839a6f3e24b31e267f.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It seems absolutely crazy what people go through in abusive relationships, except it's often true. What we actually go through is often worse than what we initially believe ourselves. It doesn't mean it didn't happen. We can all use a little more kindness and compassion from everyone including ourselves. You know what you experienced. Good caring people will believe you and support you in healing and moving forward with your life! https://blossom.primal.net/96ad5c01710a3e862cdb59a6cb603f723573364803229db23f0256826cfecaa8.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We all need a reminder once in a while of how amazing we are. Also that kindness is one of the most important things we all deserve, especially from ourselves. Much love to all!❤️ https://blossom.primal.net/c14bc19bc745911122418320b3e03fd0b6ec345c95c12a09198f4a74eddb151c.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It wasn't just that we weren't allowed to do things in abusive relationships. It was also that we could do them, but it would cause a fight or other drama. Most of us held back from doing things we wanted to so we didn't make our lives worse. https://blossom.primal.net/191ad58b3635ddf42e870681938a2e2f8909ff31e59ae5419e158877f2c03c41.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It takes a different amount of time and a different process for everyone on their healing journey. Comparing or judging ourselves or others is not helpful and almost always holds us back from the life we want. https://blossom.primal.net/4b6c6d9b15f814b4fa1410da566a9ba44d68ed96c6d3761a779dfbc25731bcfd.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Being kind to ourselves does not mean we don't have boundaries. That's one of the differences between being nice and being kind. Being kind includes saying no to ourselves or anyone else. https://blossom.primal.net/7b76d0b459dd142dda634d468ac6a8d3c117eec5981dd54f552b7ef9eca722de.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Shoutout to Gib at Blubird Pizzaria in Pocatello, ID. They always make amazing stuff! This one was one of the hottest things I've ever gotten and I couldn't finish it in one sitting. That's hot AF!🥵 Love the food and the people are amazing too! Go check them out if you haven't yet! https://blossom.primal.net/822abf505d1bc35011063fdb069dbcfc441ea8fea175f3513ef6b229bb095421.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Kindness literally unlocks everything in our lives. It allows us to move forward and makes everything easier. The lack of this holds us back in every single area of our lives. We can't beat ourselves into the life we truly want, even if it works in the short term. The only way we get it and keep it is through being kind. https://blossom.primal.net/d3031c8b83651ba8364e8f997758d939f12d479df9dba6319aabcccf827ea11b.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Sometimes the very thing we use for self care can also be the thing we use to avoid our emotions. This is especially true when we have heavy uncomfortable feelings. Ask yourself whether you are doing what you need for self care or using this to avoid or distract yourself from your emotions. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's not easy to sit and do nothing. We were trained and programmed this wasn't ok and definitely wasn't safe. Allowing ourselves to do this requires working through the emotions behind it and being kind to ourselves through the process. https://blossom.primal.net/7ee2e324ec99939379a31478478c95d0d084438ffb0858b9c37e68418408db65.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller There are so many little things that we don't usually think about or talk about that are part of the healing process. Decorating our own place and being able to sing in our own space are great examples of these things. The big things are important, but all the little things are also important. https://blossom.primal.net/8bc6a0c28d3d267d1f62f70a89fdb927d90f337955098146ef2be3eecdb1a4ac.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Doing things for ourselves to help us feel more safe and at peace is a good thing no matter what anyone else says about it. It still sucks that we need to do this. It's better than not feeling safe though. https://blossom.primal.net/5f540192c9b4a6a525e777ec742bcc85f224f38222be780eb9e155a2af3f1841.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Until we work on healing the wounds in ourselves, we will remain finding the same people we've always found. When we begin healing these wounds, we also begin finding more of the people we've wanted in our lives. It's not easy, but it's absolutely worth it and it's something every single person can do!! https://blossom.primal.net/3c3d945e94b2b0d7f54122d31279f6d206734cb612d41452f044979508707538.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Too many people are stuck in their life and it seems like all they see and happens in their life is bad things from bad people. This isn't a coincidence. It's also something we get to change if we really want a better life and better relationships. It's ok no matter where you are, but we don't want to stay stuck there. As always, be kind to yourself along your journey. https://blossom.primal.net/fc8567da906a1b561301059bc0eff3a79b35548d44c30c29251af511f972c361.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller You can work with me and you don't even need to listen to me sing.🤣 We don't have to face it or do the work or get help, but we'll have to deal with it until we do. I realize it's very individual for everyone and not everyone is ready to do the work or get help and that's ok. Be kind to yourself no matter where you are in life. https://blossom.primal.net/5eb37cea5ad4f32437032abb8465be2108a433e76e6070e3e14297f7c604a820.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Happy Father's Day to all the amazing dads out there. Thank you for being an amazing example for everyone! Thank you to all those who fill the role of a Father as well. You are all amazing and we need you in this world! Much love to all!❤️ https://blossom.primal.net/9703fa24964b4e672281cd88db73b3dd48d6ac832cd401ab9b05bb5b115fad1f.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller There's a lot of complexity and nuance in dealing with and healing from abusive relationships. This is much of what I'll be talking about when I present at the Energy Healing Conference on June 20th at 11am. Come join us on June 19th and 20th at the Davis Conference Center in Layton, UT. It's going to be epic! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So excited! I'm going to be live tomorrow at 11am MT on the Show Up 2 Win podcast. He is doing 30 days of live interviews for men's mental health month! So grateful to have this opportunity to talk about something that is so important! Come join us live! The link to the channel is here. https://youtube.com/@showup2win24?si=vYYppQSn0pfO3HQ3 https://blossom.primal.net/829d8bbe3ac5dc04a4a556c549486b964a1d766a075c83d55a49b8518faedd81.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Awareness is essential and it's the first thing we need. We also don't actually have to do something, simply because we are aware of it though. We still get to choose what we want to do in our lives. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many of us have never experienced what it feels like to actually feel safe and work through our emotions. This is one of the most important parts of getting help from someone else. We learn what it feels like to feel safe and seen and process emotions with them, so we can take that feeling with us when we leave there. https://blossom.primal.net/c75a569ab47ebda2c33e1f8fe590ceac9dda04a403e1b1673ab25d14c2602e6b.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Our minds are always trying to protect us and that's their job. It doesn't mean everything actually is a disaster though, even when it feels like it. Working through the way we feel makes everything so much easier, even when there's actually a disaster we need to work through. https://blossom.primal.net/624722413ec2b5463a6955f3464a9083e5890bbde900ad08d7ffbf0a355810fd.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller What do you do when the reset doesn't work? npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Ever feel like everything is just too much? That’s not the real problem. The real struggle is thinking you shouldn’t feel that way. If you’ve survived an abusive relationship, those old patterns of shutting down can still haunt you even after you’re out. Getting support and processing your emotions releases a lot of the stress and gives you the tools to move forward in your life. https://blossom.primal.net/2f546c301af187a1c2b9d7a6b4b4947416bd26d4ec3fbd3c545cd967b988337d.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We are all becoming someone new throughout our lives, hopefully. Especially if we are growing, healing and breaking generational cycles. This is hard work and it takes time. It's also something we've never experienced before and don't have an example to look to for our own lives. Be extra kind to yourself through this process. It makes the journey so much better and we end up making more progress too! https://blossom.primal.net/756185857ba3e5b78965f304802029f88dc2011322a212f4adaee3ebecb5ee15.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists never do anything wrong and all their behavior is perfect or they're doing the best they can. According to them at least. We know this is a complete lie to keep their illusion alive. We must watch the behavior of other people, not just their words. They will show us who they really are over time. https://blossom.primal.net/fb5bd2ac05611b8da94b7c6dbc1af3d5be6796fbd1166df5ab76b81f906a3314.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Most of us don't actually reach out for help or begin doing the work until we reach the crisis. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with us for that. It's simply the journey we are on. The good news is that you can decide at any time to begin doing the work and reaching out for support and help. https://blossom.primal.net/6729a4dc095b486c39a8dcfbb3e7759536835a02fb5a07c13d98e9518eb8f7a5.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We're exhausted because of the emotions and also have trouble sleeping because of unprocessed emotions. This is a cycle too many people are in. It's not easy to get out of it either. It requires facing and processing the emotions, which will allow us to rest and continue releasing and healing. https://blossom.primal.net/70ebbf191c4eb9844acc3d1b5185de7a2dbae760444dc821be00659632fa9953.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We never see it until we do. It's only looking back that we can put the pieces together to make some sense of it. The good news is that we did figure it out or are figuring it out. Being kind to ourselves through the process is essential. It allows us to release the emotions and the past and move forward in our lives. https://blossom.primal.net/45dbeed3ae16ee854cfc1c1d3349ec03c6d4cb21db741c316a8b0bc25cae4cdd.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists will do everything they can to control the narrative of the story of your life. They will gaslight, manipulate and straight up lie to keep this control. Don't allow them to influence your thoughts. You know what actually happened in your life and your relationship. You don't have to believe their illusions. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Closure means you see through them and leave. They thrive on keeping you confused and emotionally hooked. The best closure is walking away for good. It's not easy, but it's easier than continuing to live in or conform to their abuse and illusion they want you to live in! We get to choose ourselves! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Couples counseling is never a good idea if you are in an abusive relationship. It's a trap. They will collect more information to use against you and try to use the therapist to further abuse you. It's always better to get therapy for yourself by yourself. https://blossom.primal.net/2444f6a43fb2f7f04526cbbd78458da134117eda5860385659015ef10739e0eb.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists will act like they simply can't comprehend being kind or decent to another person, or at least their target. If you are in a relationship where you need to try to explain this. This is not a healthy relationship. If it hasn't changed, it probably won't. You must choose yourself regardless of what they do! https://blossom.primal.net/5fcedfdbab5292611a87417b257c8ab67f8177efd477d90b2bf0c893adb4885d.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller The exhaustion so many people get stuck in is the emotional exhaustion. It's much heavier and harder to recover from than physical exhaustion. Whether it's stress, overwhelm, or the lingering affects of toxic relationships. It takes more than a "good night's sleep" to recover from. It often takes allowing our nervous system to settle down a bit, so we can rest. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists will forever blame us for everything we did and didn't do. They'll also blame us for everything we didn't put up with from them and especially ever speaking up. That's just what they do and how they avoid and project everything they do onto us. It's not your fault not matter what they say! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Most often when we are judging or shaming someone else it's a reflection about something in ourselves. It's different to observe and disagree with something than to throw shame and judgement at someone else. Take the time to reflect on why we are doing this to someone else and if it reflects how we feel about ourselves even in small ways. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many of us find ourselves in a relationship with a narcissist and then are in the struggle of how to get out. Unraveling how all of this happened is part of the healing process. It’s a tough cycle to break, and while the abuse is never okay, there is hope for healing. Once we hit that rock bottom and realize what’s happening, we can start making new decisions. Getting out, if you can, is essential. https://blossom.primal.net/4f003b02004ce575fdcffcd807ef0cdc16596a9cfc63e0bd718f4b36ff97e303.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We often find ourselves justifying manipulation or abuse because we’ve been programmed to tolerate it. Growing up around dysfunction can give us a high tolerance for toxic behavior, but that doesn't make it okay. It’s time to question if your relationships are truly healthy and whether the other person is actually willing to change. You deserve better than just "dealing with it." https://blossom.primal.net/47e11d3747146080029d60e07118eef5d836be2688e2541838d00ae9f693c3cc.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many of us feel completely spent after going through an abusive relationship. It takes a tremendous amount of strength to go through it. This same strength is still inside of you and it is more than enough to heal yourself from what you went through! Take the time, do the work. You are worth it! https://blossom.primal.net/78f938a3230ee08b17311c20d3e77f10935b50222c363228e6131816fc98f09f.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller When we are able to realize and embrace that everything in life happens for us, it allows the journey to be much easier. We all go through things, but often we have resistance and judgement about these things. This keeps us stuck. It doesn't mean bad things are ok, but we can make meaning from them. https://blossom.primal.net/77fd7fee241e19048473a8234b39ea9ef6b1a513d354fb8d7c4ba1e4b23804bd.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Moving through the stages of becoming an entrepreneur is not for the faint of heart. The cycles and heartbreak we go through to move through these stages are not easy. It takes a level of fortitude many of us have never experienced until we're face with it. Getting support through this is life changing! https://blossom.primal.net/7bd45ea34cb8062d99b8205d75576929e49cf27e29a3dd5c951810eff6394865.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's through our lived experience and connection with others that we are able to integrate the things we learn. This is another reason it's hard to heal without having good people and connection around us. It's also why coaching and therapy is so life altering. We get to learn how that feels with other people. https://blossom.primal.net/ff13e6096d7154c8cad7504013abb7001580baa89d2321e0bda64ab5086fa0b0.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Your children will inherit your unhealed wounds, whether you realize it or not. But there's a bright side, they’ll also inherit your healing. Every bit of work you do to resolve your trauma and gain awareness helps change their lives too. Break the cycle and pass down a legacy of healing and resilience. https://blossom.primal.net/89d071a084394e578e5bb303acc0ee1d898dcdc099f59b9a3c172a237e26ca20.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller All of the anger and bitterness we hold towards them hurts us. It keeps our attention focused on them and everything they did. Allow the emotions and process them, but then bring your focus back to you. What do you want for your life and for yourself? This is the path to healing and moving forward with your life. https://blossom.primal.net/7d8b4ba9590144fe6bd28aa03b122dbf392a7fa19daa7c042de2b77e08e63848.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I realize this isn't an easy thing to do and it's much more of a process than it ever is an event the happens. It's possible to begin looking at everything in our lives as an opportunity to learn and grow. This releases much of the resistance and allows to truly move forward toward the life we want. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's disturbing, the manipulation tactics narcissists use to form a puzzle that distorts your perception of reality. It leaves you perpetually questioning what's true. Regaining trust in yourself and your intuition is not an easy process and it takes time. Allow yourself all the time you need. https://blossom.primal.net/c7dc2ddaa5148d393fe6ec3e5ac80481bb0d5aa2427229fd4c59158992364687.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Healing from narcissists and bad habits isn't just possible, it's something anyone can do if they're willing to do the work. It's better to let go of toxic relationships first, then we can work on the other stuff. We can all heal and move forward with a life we love. You don't have to do it alone! https://blossom.primal.net/a51402a2d6c2492c0839e00c3699d4b09919369fbff6674fee97e4bae15a9f66.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's okay to feel whatever you’re feeling. We’re often our own harshest critics, but your emotions aren't "wrong." We could all use more compassion and kindness, especially toward ourselves and our feelings. Let's normalize this in society! What's one emotion you've been judging yourself for lately? https://blossom.primal.net/7811b1ebc5f37841501526ea8c59042b11cf00b125c4c70d31e5313c8bac9fec.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Healing isn't just about feeling better. It's about building, living and embracing a life and relationships you love. We heal so we can release the traumas and the triggers so they don't affect us or the people in our lives or hurt anyone. It allows us to fully embrace all the good things in our lives! https://blossom.primal.net/3cc3c989790705674cebe0259598319b0d6885ff3ba88c59937cfe85c64baceb.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's not easy for people to point out red flags in our relationships. It's also often not easy for us to receive this from them either. These are some of the most important conversations that we all need to have though. It's something that needs to be normalized to have healthy relationships. https://blossom.primal.net/9a5a2b22f942326e2d7ec532cd255f0ca84387825ec5fe0315e4edd18891e8e7.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We often spend so much time hating the toxic people in our lives that it doesn't leave much time for us to love ourselves. Learning to focus on and love ourselves is the path towards healing. We can't learn to love ourselves while still holding onto hate. Give yourself grace along the way. It's not easy, but you are worth it! https://blossom.primal.net/7e6242712ca1925dd4b7ae363d10dafc00de1f7a987f60874e9258ce0400d8dc.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Love is transactional to narcissists, they use it to buy compliance and loyalty. Your affections are spent in their pursuit of control and earned through submission. Real love is never transactional! We don't have to settle for what they give or decide. Choose yourself and your life and release them from your life! https://blossom.primal.net/763649fd0f1ff1a1788927229ddc0bc295dcc196bdb0a46abc517815995bf4a7.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Getting to where we allow ourselves to feel the anger is essential. It's very hard to really move forward with our lives while the anger is still suppressed inside us. We get to feel it and then process and release it. This is all part of moving forward in our lives. Suppressing emotions will always keep us stuck. We must feel in order to heal. https://blossom.primal.net/5ae2e62cdaac77262f6daa79f5b8f618704b30f9dbaccc65e8a38b23cb9e25fb.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We don't want to accept we are in an abusive relationship, or that someone is unwilling to change themselves or the way they treat us. Accepting this is often the first step in being able to make changes in our lives that help us move forward. We must bring the focus and attention back to ourselves. Until we do this, we will continue to be stuck. Hoping and waiting for things to change. Things only change when we accept how they are and actively choose to make changes. https://blossom.primal.net/75d32f0d624e3f6ca3ae9f980be7103ef260dd564286143251e24ee089339cb1.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Processing our thoughts and emotions is never easy, although it's relatively simple. We often avoid doing it because we're not sure how. We also avoid it because it's uncomfortable and it takes time and energy. The reality is we have to deal with them either way. Processing simply allows us to let them go and move forward with our lives. https://blossom.primal.net/7eace494536df2017617b43e9efbe1158992599e4fbea87c0c43cffb4dbdd2e1.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We often feel like there is more we could or should have done. Often, this is simply not true. We are often doing everything we can in the moment we are in with the skills we have. Allowing yourself grace and compassion for doing everything you could do is one of the steps in allowing yourself to forgive yourself. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller There will never be a right time to start doing the healing work. We simply must make the decision to begin and do the work. Find the support in whatever way works for you. We are going to deal with the emotions either way even if we don’t do the work to heal. Rarely do they work through on their own. https://blossom.primal.net/55e6d4735c0ad6c7016843dbd1887ef39ddff9629dc88d54eb0ada3bcdc150ba.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists weave lies, deception and confusion in levels that seem impossible unless you've experienced it yourself. It's all for control and power. We don't have to participate though. We can opt out of this nightmare and find people who are willing and ready to support us in doing so. https://blossom.primal.net/e9f605f692b1ac2693fc0a8a4981db751de764d4e2aae6275ddb8f9bb5bc22b8.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Too many times we rerun what we've done and said and question everything we did. We couldn't have made things better because we were not the only issue in the relationship. They were just trying to get us to believe we were the only problem. You can't have a healthy relationship with a toxic person! https://blossom.primal.net/23e90a7c013f1a4d74f8396bc0d17f1f6e5a34ab4571998dbf0c6c2592f704e0.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's probably always an emotional rollercoaster. New levels of discomfort as we grow and settle into more peace in our lives. It feels like everything's gone wrong, but it's usually a sign everything is going right. We simply need to remember in those moments, nothing's actually wrong and to be kind to ourselves. https://blossom.primal.net/443c99f160c63050bb153dde8339f2b67724810c4c9956dfbce9014dbe416479.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller When we're tired, sick or just not feeling well, it seems even more like everything has gone wrong. Or worse, like we're going backwards in our healing. This is the time to give ourselves extra grace and compassion. Our minds don't work as well when our body's are not working well and that's ok. Allow yourself time and kindness to work through it. https://blossom.primal.net/b96c7670fecc8e8a921fddd6e74fad6e5b04bd8a3a41a661454e032f392199de.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists literally do not care about us and view us as completely replaceable. They only want us when they need us for something. When they don’t need us, they’re literally irritated by our presence and existence. We don’t have to settle for what they give. We all deserve better! https://blossom.primal.net/e4e3bf7f6339db100c72ca4ca09930ea79f5d3aa3dc2bf4c6df5cd8f807aafb1.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists will absolutely try to destroy you no matter what you do in the relationship or if you leave. There is no way for you to win in these relationships, only survive. Getting out of these relationships isn't easy, but staying is even harder. Ultimately we must make this choice ourselves. No matter what you decide, be kind to you! https://blossom.primal.net/3a80c5bcf43cf581dac421ca5e9358b972a0f7948b3ac9e38ebe0dc12ddd9460.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Peace is not something most of us automatically accept after toxic relationships. It’s something we have to work on accepting and embracing. Little by little we create more peace and are able to accept more peace. It’s a process and a practice, not an event that happens. Do the work so you can embrace the peace you deserve! https://blossom.primal.net/83cdcb120cb501c37fb247d662f6462c1ef36b680d084ae4db62e20d2a3ee723.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Learning to trust our intuition again or for the first time is not easy to do. We often know what to do, but we are busy and distracted which doesn’t give us time and space to allow our intuition to guide us. Take the time and space to learn to allow the answers to surface and process the emotions. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller If they can't find reasons to isolate you from everyone in your life. They will make things up. They can't allow you to have a relationship with anyone that may allow you to see through the illusion they have created. They will stop at nothing. Doing the work to heal and keep supportive people in our lives is essential! https://blossom.primal.net/ce45668bcb61e7df4f9e91b159c819f20c07024515fd72c3877e1f178d45a229.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Peace and calm often feels unsafe after living in chaos and abuse. We get conditioned that peace is simply the calm before the storm. This becomes normal for us. Healing work helps us to let go of the chaos and begin embracing peace. We don’t just heal to feel better, but to let the good in too! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive relationships end up holding us back literally from becoming ourselves. It was never safe for us to truly be ourselves, so we end up stuck in a version of us that it's safe to be. Breaking free from this and exploring who we want to become is not easy, but it's absolutely worth it! We all deserve to become who we truly are! https://blossom.primal.net/b883c3aef68fa5a55dcdae516dda3f47f02a4c3fd863bebf8abb0cbb5919475d.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists thrive on secrecy and fear. Breaking your silence and sharing your experiences is a powerful step toward disempowering their hold on you. Find people you can safely talk to. They are out there. Every step towards breaking the silence is a step towards freedom and breaking these chains. https://blossom.primal.net/211ec2bc6a914b5adeb32100dab516f362ae47da60124b195f75a5d0bb6a150f.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists are simply incapable of change. Often, everything we do to forgive or give them grace is seen as permission to continue the abuse and manipulation. Even when we set boundaries, they will push or break them. Often, leaving is the only boundary we can actually hold. Do the work to heal for you! https://blossom.primal.net/9aa9b973534cd4cf94ce81649598773481965f2d19a8d90cb7b74ff1c8e44203.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller You can't have a healthy relationship with a narcissist. You can learn better ways of coping with the situation and be healthier in yourself, but there is no way for the relationship to ever be healthy. Leave if you can, but at least set up boundaries to protect yourself. Coping is probably the best it gets. https://blossom.primal.net/36ea10909dfc7d7ffbc8b565d564879a947417e468f77ac1fede861c889a2d28.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Any type of conversation, counseling or support is a trap that narcissists will try to lure you into. They will then use those people to further abuse you and paint you as the bad guy. It's almost always a bad idea to do these things with a narcissist. Seek out support for yourself by yourself. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists are in every single different profession unfortunately. We get to spot and avoid them just like we do in every other area of our lives. The hard part is they have learned to say all the right things in some professions. Of course this is used against us as usual. It's simply another thing to be aware of and when we find one, run the other way. https://blossom.primal.net/44e683544be803bebdd5c52fdc162b615d2244e1c19705c8935adea0462ade32.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Toxic people will talk in generalities and circles around any issues that they are confronted with or questioned about. They will also be super specific when talking about other people's struggles. It's another double standard which reinforces the illusion they live in. We don't have to play their games or live in their illusions though. https://blossom.primal.net/75a6f7403b735489a4bb080f84d196eb980a658d01baca18fce2110f0f626047.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists and their abuse doesn’t make sense to us, because they don’t behave like us. We can’t understand why they do what they do because we wouldn’t do it to someone else. The biggest thing is understanding that they are the way they are, even if we don’t understand it. Focus on your life! https://blossom.primal.net/e7b89cfcdb3ea0586f718fc514b96ecb4e99d24b094eda3e8e8ee569894bf652.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Trusting ourselves is hard enough after toxic relationships. Trusting everyone else is even harder. Good, genuine people actually expect that trust builds as the relationship does. We don’t owe trust to anyone for any reason. We all get to do the work to earn the trust. If that's not ok, it may be a red flag! https://blossom.primal.net/20ed79e964d8bea286305fdfbe6e5c949e975aa16dd24f51a6365b9f613dcee3.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I'm sorry you have been crossed so many times. It sucks there are toxic people out there we have to watch out for. I hope you doing the work to heal and hold boundaries to only let the good ones in as and when they have earned the trust. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I don't think it's a problem to be that way. You have the awareness, which is the most important thing. From there we can learn to build and hold boundaries. I'm also very trusting in the beginning, but I also have better boundaries now. This allows for connection and also keeps us safe. Good job for being aware that you do things this way. The world needs more good people who are still willing to open up to the world and others. We now get to work on the boundaries to only let good, healthy people in. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Enough time being gaslit in our lives and it may be months or years later and we still question ourselves. Learning to trust our own thoughts again is a process that takes time. It requires time and consistent work to heal. Be kind and patient with yourself. You deserve the same compassion you offer everyone else! https://blossom.primal.net/2e43115568d9d7f2efd7e13d4987d3e4089d07abe469e15e625695d82cc11df5.mp4
