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Last Notes npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We know what we want in our lives, but many of us struggle to allow it into our lives. This is often because of the unhealed wounds we are carrying. It's the biggest thing I see holding most people back. As we heal these wounds, it makes everything better in our lives. https://blossom.primal.net/3c03e0bb626c6ab2ab5993fbd992e119bdc6b4035fa4bd1b9c98150a6c0a8c60.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Until we work on healing the wounds in ourselves, we will remain finding the same people we've always found. When we begin healing these wounds, we also begin finding more of the people we've wanted in our lives. It's not easy, but it's absolutely worth it and it's something every single person can do!! https://blossom.primal.net/3c3d945e94b2b0d7f54122d31279f6d206734cb612d41452f044979508707538.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Too many people are stuck in their life and it seems like all they see and happens in their life is bad things from bad people. This isn't a coincidence. It's also something we get to change if we really want a better life and better relationships. It's ok no matter where you are, but we don't want to stay stuck there. As always, be kind to yourself along your journey. https://blossom.primal.net/fc8567da906a1b561301059bc0eff3a79b35548d44c30c29251af511f972c361.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller You can work with me and you don't even need to listen to me sing.🤣 We don't have to face it or do the work or get help, but we'll have to deal with it until we do. I realize it's very individual for everyone and not everyone is ready to do the work or get help and that's ok. Be kind to yourself no matter where you are in life. https://blossom.primal.net/5eb37cea5ad4f32437032abb8465be2108a433e76e6070e3e14297f7c604a820.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller There's a lot of complexity and nuance in dealing with and healing from abusive relationships. This is much of what I'll be talking about when I present at the Energy Healing Conference on June 20th at 11am. Come join us on June 19th and 20th at the Davis Conference Center in Layton, UT. It's going to be epic! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Our minds are always trying to protect us and that's their job. It doesn't mean everything actually is a disaster though, even when it feels like it. Working through the way we feel makes everything so much easier, even when there's actually a disaster we need to work through. https://blossom.primal.net/624722413ec2b5463a6955f3464a9083e5890bbde900ad08d7ffbf0a355810fd.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller What do you do when the reset doesn't work? npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We are all becoming someone new throughout our lives, hopefully. Especially if we are growing, healing and breaking generational cycles. This is hard work and it takes time. It's also something we've never experienced before and don't have an example to look to for our own lives. Be extra kind to yourself through this process. It makes the journey so much better and we end up making more progress too! https://blossom.primal.net/756185857ba3e5b78965f304802029f88dc2011322a212f4adaee3ebecb5ee15.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists never do anything wrong and all their behavior is perfect or they're doing the best they can. According to them at least. We know this is a complete lie to keep their illusion alive. We must watch the behavior of other people, not just their words. They will show us who they really are over time. https://blossom.primal.net/fb5bd2ac05611b8da94b7c6dbc1af3d5be6796fbd1166df5ab76b81f906a3314.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Most of us don't actually reach out for help or begin doing the work until we reach the crisis. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with us for that. It's simply the journey we are on. The good news is that you can decide at any time to begin doing the work and reaching out for support and help. https://blossom.primal.net/6729a4dc095b486c39a8dcfbb3e7759536835a02fb5a07c13d98e9518eb8f7a5.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We're exhausted because of the emotions and also have trouble sleeping because of unprocessed emotions. This is a cycle too many people are in. It's not easy to get out of it either. It requires facing and processing the emotions, which will allow us to rest and continue releasing and healing. https://blossom.primal.net/70ebbf191c4eb9844acc3d1b5185de7a2dbae760444dc821be00659632fa9953.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We never see it until we do. It's only looking back that we can put the pieces together to make some sense of it. The good news is that we did figure it out or are figuring it out. Being kind to ourselves through the process is essential. It allows us to release the emotions and the past and move forward in our lives. https://blossom.primal.net/45dbeed3ae16ee854cfc1c1d3349ec03c6d4cb21db741c316a8b0bc25cae4cdd.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists will do everything they can to control the narrative of the story of your life. They will gaslight, manipulate and straight up lie to keep this control. Don't allow them to influence your thoughts. You know what actually happened in your life and your relationship. You don't have to believe their illusions. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Couples counseling is never a good idea if you are in an abusive relationship. It's a trap. They will collect more information to use against you and try to use the therapist to further abuse you. It's always better to get therapy for yourself by yourself. https://blossom.primal.net/2444f6a43fb2f7f04526cbbd78458da134117eda5860385659015ef10739e0eb.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists will act like they simply can't comprehend being kind or decent to another person, or at least their target. If you are in a relationship where you need to try to explain this. This is not a healthy relationship. If it hasn't changed, it probably won't. You must choose yourself regardless of what they do! https://blossom.primal.net/5fcedfdbab5292611a87417b257c8ab67f8177efd477d90b2bf0c893adb4885d.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller The exhaustion so many people get stuck in is the emotional exhaustion. It's much heavier and harder to recover from than physical exhaustion. Whether it's stress, overwhelm, or the lingering affects of toxic relationships. It takes more than a "good night's sleep" to recover from. It often takes allowing our nervous system to settle down a bit, so we can rest. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists will forever blame us for everything we did and didn't do. They'll also blame us for everything we didn't put up with from them and especially ever speaking up. That's just what they do and how they avoid and project everything they do onto us. It's not your fault not matter what they say! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Most often when we are judging or shaming someone else it's a reflection about something in ourselves. It's different to observe and disagree with something than to throw shame and judgement at someone else. Take the time to reflect on why we are doing this to someone else and if it reflects how we feel about ourselves even in small ways. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many of us find ourselves in a relationship with a narcissist and then are in the struggle of how to get out. Unraveling how all of this happened is part of the healing process. It’s a tough cycle to break, and while the abuse is never okay, there is hope for healing. Once we hit that rock bottom and realize what’s happening, we can start making new decisions. Getting out, if you can, is essential. https://blossom.primal.net/4f003b02004ce575fdcffcd807ef0cdc16596a9cfc63e0bd718f4b36ff97e303.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We often find ourselves justifying manipulation or abuse because we’ve been programmed to tolerate it. Growing up around dysfunction can give us a high tolerance for toxic behavior, but that doesn't make it okay. It’s time to question if your relationships are truly healthy and whether the other person is actually willing to change. You deserve better than just "dealing with it." https://blossom.primal.net/47e11d3747146080029d60e07118eef5d836be2688e2541838d00ae9f693c3cc.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many of us feel completely spent after going through an abusive relationship. It takes a tremendous amount of strength to go through it. This same strength is still inside of you and it is more than enough to heal yourself from what you went through! Take the time, do the work. You are worth it! https://blossom.primal.net/78f938a3230ee08b17311c20d3e77f10935b50222c363228e6131816fc98f09f.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller When we are able to realize and embrace that everything in life happens for us, it allows the journey to be much easier. We all go through things, but often we have resistance and judgement about these things. This keeps us stuck. It doesn't mean bad things are ok, but we can make meaning from them. https://blossom.primal.net/77fd7fee241e19048473a8234b39ea9ef6b1a513d354fb8d7c4ba1e4b23804bd.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Moving through the stages of becoming an entrepreneur is not for the faint of heart. The cycles and heartbreak we go through to move through these stages are not easy. It takes a level of fortitude many of us have never experienced until we're face with it. Getting support through this is life changing! https://blossom.primal.net/7bd45ea34cb8062d99b8205d75576929e49cf27e29a3dd5c951810eff6394865.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's through our lived experience and connection with others that we are able to integrate the things we learn. This is another reason it's hard to heal without having good people and connection around us. It's also why coaching and therapy is so life altering. We get to learn how that feels with other people. https://blossom.primal.net/ff13e6096d7154c8cad7504013abb7001580baa89d2321e0bda64ab5086fa0b0.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller All of the anger and bitterness we hold towards them hurts us. It keeps our attention focused on them and everything they did. Allow the emotions and process them, but then bring your focus back to you. What do you want for your life and for yourself? This is the path to healing and moving forward with your life. https://blossom.primal.net/7d8b4ba9590144fe6bd28aa03b122dbf392a7fa19daa7c042de2b77e08e63848.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I realize this isn't an easy thing to do and it's much more of a process than it ever is an event the happens. It's possible to begin looking at everything in our lives as an opportunity to learn and grow. This releases much of the resistance and allows to truly move forward toward the life we want. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's disturbing, the manipulation tactics narcissists use to form a puzzle that distorts your perception of reality. It leaves you perpetually questioning what's true. Regaining trust in yourself and your intuition is not an easy process and it takes time. Allow yourself all the time you need. https://blossom.primal.net/c7dc2ddaa5148d393fe6ec3e5ac80481bb0d5aa2427229fd4c59158992364687.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Healing from narcissists and bad habits isn't just possible, it's something anyone can do if they're willing to do the work. It's better to let go of toxic relationships first, then we can work on the other stuff. We can all heal and move forward with a life we love. You don't have to do it alone! https://blossom.primal.net/a51402a2d6c2492c0839e00c3699d4b09919369fbff6674fee97e4bae15a9f66.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's not easy for people to point out red flags in our relationships. It's also often not easy for us to receive this from them either. These are some of the most important conversations that we all need to have though. It's something that needs to be normalized to have healthy relationships. https://blossom.primal.net/9a5a2b22f942326e2d7ec532cd255f0ca84387825ec5fe0315e4edd18891e8e7.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We often spend so much time hating the toxic people in our lives that it doesn't leave much time for us to love ourselves. Learning to focus on and love ourselves is the path towards healing. We can't learn to love ourselves while still holding onto hate. Give yourself grace along the way. It's not easy, but you are worth it! https://blossom.primal.net/7e6242712ca1925dd4b7ae363d10dafc00de1f7a987f60874e9258ce0400d8dc.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Love is transactional to narcissists, they use it to buy compliance and loyalty. Your affections are spent in their pursuit of control and earned through submission. Real love is never transactional! We don't have to settle for what they give or decide. Choose yourself and your life and release them from your life! https://blossom.primal.net/763649fd0f1ff1a1788927229ddc0bc295dcc196bdb0a46abc517815995bf4a7.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Getting to where we allow ourselves to feel the anger is essential. It's very hard to really move forward with our lives while the anger is still suppressed inside us. We get to feel it and then process and release it. This is all part of moving forward in our lives. Suppressing emotions will always keep us stuck. We must feel in order to heal. https://blossom.primal.net/5ae2e62cdaac77262f6daa79f5b8f618704b30f9dbaccc65e8a38b23cb9e25fb.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We don't want to accept we are in an abusive relationship, or that someone is unwilling to change themselves or the way they treat us. Accepting this is often the first step in being able to make changes in our lives that help us move forward. We must bring the focus and attention back to ourselves. Until we do this, we will continue to be stuck. Hoping and waiting for things to change. Things only change when we accept how they are and actively choose to make changes. https://blossom.primal.net/75d32f0d624e3f6ca3ae9f980be7103ef260dd564286143251e24ee089339cb1.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists weave lies, deception and confusion in levels that seem impossible unless you've experienced it yourself. It's all for control and power. We don't have to participate though. We can opt out of this nightmare and find people who are willing and ready to support us in doing so. https://blossom.primal.net/e9f605f692b1ac2693fc0a8a4981db751de764d4e2aae6275ddb8f9bb5bc22b8.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Peace is not something most of us automatically accept after toxic relationships. It’s something we have to work on accepting and embracing. Little by little we create more peace and are able to accept more peace. It’s a process and a practice, not an event that happens. Do the work so you can embrace the peace you deserve! https://blossom.primal.net/83cdcb120cb501c37fb247d662f6462c1ef36b680d084ae4db62e20d2a3ee723.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Learning to trust our intuition again or for the first time is not easy to do. We often know what to do, but we are busy and distracted which doesn’t give us time and space to allow our intuition to guide us. Take the time and space to learn to allow the answers to surface and process the emotions. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller If they can't find reasons to isolate you from everyone in your life. They will make things up. They can't allow you to have a relationship with anyone that may allow you to see through the illusion they have created. They will stop at nothing. Doing the work to heal and keep supportive people in our lives is essential! https://blossom.primal.net/ce45668bcb61e7df4f9e91b159c819f20c07024515fd72c3877e1f178d45a229.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Peace and calm often feels unsafe after living in chaos and abuse. We get conditioned that peace is simply the calm before the storm. This becomes normal for us. Healing work helps us to let go of the chaos and begin embracing peace. We don’t just heal to feel better, but to let the good in too! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive relationships end up holding us back literally from becoming ourselves. It was never safe for us to truly be ourselves, so we end up stuck in a version of us that it's safe to be. Breaking free from this and exploring who we want to become is not easy, but it's absolutely worth it! We all deserve to become who we truly are! https://blossom.primal.net/b883c3aef68fa5a55dcdae516dda3f47f02a4c3fd863bebf8abb0cbb5919475d.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists thrive on secrecy and fear. Breaking your silence and sharing your experiences is a powerful step toward disempowering their hold on you. Find people you can safely talk to. They are out there. Every step towards breaking the silence is a step towards freedom and breaking these chains. https://blossom.primal.net/211ec2bc6a914b5adeb32100dab516f362ae47da60124b195f75a5d0bb6a150f.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists are simply incapable of change. Often, everything we do to forgive or give them grace is seen as permission to continue the abuse and manipulation. Even when we set boundaries, they will push or break them. Often, leaving is the only boundary we can actually hold. Do the work to heal for you! https://blossom.primal.net/9aa9b973534cd4cf94ce81649598773481965f2d19a8d90cb7b74ff1c8e44203.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller You can't have a healthy relationship with a narcissist. You can learn better ways of coping with the situation and be healthier in yourself, but there is no way for the relationship to ever be healthy. Leave if you can, but at least set up boundaries to protect yourself. Coping is probably the best it gets. https://blossom.primal.net/36ea10909dfc7d7ffbc8b565d564879a947417e468f77ac1fede861c889a2d28.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Any type of conversation, counseling or support is a trap that narcissists will try to lure you into. They will then use those people to further abuse you and paint you as the bad guy. It's almost always a bad idea to do these things with a narcissist. Seek out support for yourself by yourself. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists are in every single different profession unfortunately. We get to spot and avoid them just like we do in every other area of our lives. The hard part is they have learned to say all the right things in some professions. Of course this is used against us as usual. It's simply another thing to be aware of and when we find one, run the other way. https://blossom.primal.net/44e683544be803bebdd5c52fdc162b615d2244e1c19705c8935adea0462ade32.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Toxic people will talk in generalities and circles around any issues that they are confronted with or questioned about. They will also be super specific when talking about other people's struggles. It's another double standard which reinforces the illusion they live in. We don't have to play their games or live in their illusions though. https://blossom.primal.net/75a6f7403b735489a4bb080f84d196eb980a658d01baca18fce2110f0f626047.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists and their abuse doesn’t make sense to us, because they don’t behave like us. We can’t understand why they do what they do because we wouldn’t do it to someone else. The biggest thing is understanding that they are the way they are, even if we don’t understand it. Focus on your life! https://blossom.primal.net/e7b89cfcdb3ea0586f718fc514b96ecb4e99d24b094eda3e8e8ee569894bf652.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Trusting ourselves is hard enough after toxic relationships. Trusting everyone else is even harder. Good, genuine people actually expect that trust builds as the relationship does. We don’t owe trust to anyone for any reason. We all get to do the work to earn the trust. If that's not ok, it may be a red flag! https://blossom.primal.net/20ed79e964d8bea286305fdfbe6e5c949e975aa16dd24f51a6365b9f613dcee3.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I'm sorry you have been crossed so many times. It sucks there are toxic people out there we have to watch out for. I hope you doing the work to heal and hold boundaries to only let the good ones in as and when they have earned the trust. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I don't think it's a problem to be that way. You have the awareness, which is the most important thing. From there we can learn to build and hold boundaries. I'm also very trusting in the beginning, but I also have better boundaries now. This allows for connection and also keeps us safe. Good job for being aware that you do things this way. The world needs more good people who are still willing to open up to the world and others. We now get to work on the boundaries to only let good, healthy people in. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Enough time being gaslit in our lives and it may be months or years later and we still question ourselves. Learning to trust our own thoughts again is a process that takes time. It requires time and consistent work to heal. Be kind and patient with yourself. You deserve the same compassion you offer everyone else! https://blossom.primal.net/2e43115568d9d7f2efd7e13d4987d3e4089d07abe469e15e625695d82cc11df5.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Enough time being gaslit in our lives and it may be months or years later and we still question ourselves. Learning to trust our own thoughts again is a process that takes time. It requires time and consistent work to heal. Be kind and patient with yourself. You deserve the same compassion you offer everyone else! https://blossom.primal.net/9f460bd6a312922137e355e937ad39e438f53e2a9a805a7464e5d01f5d0fb276.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists will share things with you to get you to open up about everything in your life. They remember everything and will begin using it against you in and after the relationship. Share things slowly in new relationships. They don't need to know everything now. If trust is earned, then share more. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller If there is a legal battle for divorce with a narcissist, it won't be easy. A good lawyer is essential. It's also just as essential to have good support for ourselves. This helps us to stay as regulated emotionally as we can be. This makes it less miserable to get through. https://blossom.primal.net/d32ad8289e69909db13243bbc0a67ca1553efc83401131937c82af82cf86dcb6.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Some days are hard. Sometimes it makes sense and others not. It's essential for us to be kind to ourselves. It doesn't always make sense why we're having a hard day. Kindness and compassion for ourselves makes every day go better. We can't beat ourselves into having a good day. Be kind to you! https://blossom.primal.net/09bccb09d48b539ca456d9ea7a6e346a21af91f78346035974b5483dee3f7614.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists use some truth to sell all their lies about us. They use our "bad" habits against us even if we're working on these things. Nothing is good enough for them and they use everything they can against us. This is their problem and nothing to do with us. Don't believe their lies even if they try to reinforce it with some truth. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So glad that you are finding the calm and peace. It's so important! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller The calm feels wrong. Especially after we’ve gone through chaos. It takes time and work to settle into peace and calm. Doing the work to embrace the peace is essential. Without this, we will push peace away from us. It’s not easy, but it is simple. It's also something every single person can do. https://blossom.primal.net/04f62a915ae1759905bc857a7033fd58d63fef91fb5d4fb52d087321a9b742c3.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We often feel like we shouldn't feel bad or be miserable, because they were toxic. This just isn't how it works. It's probably going to feel terrible because we lost someone we really loved, even if they were fake. Be kind with yourself and allow yourself to go through all the emotions that come up. https://blossom.primal.net/e961ec3f4864cf0c251e5f1b058348eb27cf819e20010ab0e03362ed175a8210.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists always use at least a tiny bit of truth in their lies. This allows them to point to the truth in an attempt to reinforce their lies. Just because part of their story is true, does not make the entire thing the TRUTH. Always separate the truth from the story they tell. We don't have to believe their lies or their truth! https://blossom.primal.net/9f6c77068f2402be2537a01a3ca10f4741b7f6b623f83d6bc18a1b085dcc9b8c.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I AM NOT YOUR SUPPLY! This would be an awesome shirt. Also a good reminder for every one of us. We are not anyone else's supply or punching bag, physically or emotionally. If anyone chooses to treat us this way, we don't actually have to allow them space in our lives. Choose yourself and your peace! https://blossom.primal.net/c9982f98a99be264ecf5c9d20f819f79ee450b67b74e1b6f0c8d633056a9dd53.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists will be vicious, and even more so when we can no longer or choose not to give to them anymore. It doesn't mean we need to give them more. After all they're vicious anyway. What we actually need to do is start giving to ourselves. We need this, especially to deal with their bad behavior. https://blossom.primal.net/78e1f6e4f60581511da9c217c112b81cc3325cab3ab909d4c3c2ffa30ebeeaa3.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists don't think anything they do is wrong. They live in an illusion that they are perfect and everyone else is the problem. It's a false illusion, but they still reject everything that doesn't reinforce it to them. Let them live in their illusion and focus on your life. Do the work to heal and move forward with your life! https://blossom.primal.net/02999571de0228f093216d12abdeb76e4f0e51c4cecd4a2dc371436786052e5a.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller They're in our midst especially if we have narcissists in our lives. They aren't necessarily bad people or toxic, but they end up amplifying the chaos in our lives. Even if they're not bad, they may not be good for you. Limiting interactions allows you more peace in your life. Hold those boundaries! https://blossom.primal.net/39f84464a950fde33f4ef8fce69d6ac132cc31d8ec7cd9546e82400845a8fed4.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller They feel entitled to always getting more and there's never enough of that. They won't like it, but we must start giving to ourselves. First a little and slowly building. This will give begin giving us the strength and capacity we need to finally get out of this toxic cycle. Do the work and choose yourself! https://blossom.primal.net/05556362d253472d5c4020c528027f8d9a6ca97cc723b53f26aed3f943805f96.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We don't need anyone in our lives that views us as a resource, or supply. We all go through our own journey and that's ok. Do the work to heal and only allow good, caring people in your life! And always be kind to yourself along the way! ♥️ npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists think we betrayed them. When we're no longer willing to be supply for them. It's not actually betrayal of course, we're finally just choosing ourselves. We're no longer willing to be owned by them. They'll be angry, but we get our lives back and that's a win for us! Choose yourself! https://blossom.primal.net/00beae9ec74a7c3bcfd79e9fb8e56ebf82054bd437510fcf7f24c4ed8581c065.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists program us and everyone else to think we're the problem and they're innocent. Of course this isn't true. Even if we have caused problems in the relationship, it still doesn't make us "the problem". We get to own our part of this, but we have no business owning theirs! We're never the only problem! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We can't save or change the toxic people in our lives. We all must work to do this for ourselves. No one can want it enough for someone else to change. Just as we are all very much who we are, so are they. The good news is we can all heal and do better for ourselves in our own lives. Focus on you and what you want in your life and let them do whatever they're going to, preferably somewhere else. https://blossom.primal.net/d510edca28a04f9d3af0f15629ccda5dafe7f51b8af864dc586b27cb6fe50c17.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Reactive abuse is a regular tactic they use to shame and blame you for their behavior. Like everything else, it's usually subtle and unseen by anyone else. This leads us to question ourselves. You didn't imagine it or make it up. Just because no one else saw it, doesn't mean it didn't happen! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists expect us to behave in the way that they want us to, no matter how they behave. It's always a double standard. They expect everything from us including our reactions and fights when they want them. The only way to win this sick game with them is to not play it. Choose yourself and your life! https://blossom.primal.net/3044d91880a1a46784efe28b51fb42c5a8a08ea2b78fbc301d733943d09688c2.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller When we release the shame and judgement, we simply have experiences. Not good or bad, although many we don't want to repeat. The resistance to feeling these emotions is often what hurts and holds us back. Take the time, do the work and learn to allow yourself to process and release these emotions. Be sure to be kind to you along the way! https://blossom.primal.net/3f6372374af0f21a18576a7dc51cc16b6292b0fc57f8b1e2447cdfa1f5c6097f.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller None of us are failures! We simply haven't figured out how to succeed at the things we want to do, or what's holding us back. Most things often take many more tries than we would like or it seems it "should". The attempt and the process is much more important. This is how we continually move forward in our lives! https://blossom.primal.net/b4cffdb3391fd4c2b3ae90a392a81431fe7b525bc6e20a35c6e809cfb2946c5d.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists only really care about power and control. It's how they ensure they will get supply. There is nothing you can ever give them that will be enough. They will always push for more. You don't ever need to give more than you have no matter what they tell you! Focus on you, your life and healing! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's always good news if and when we can see any of our dysfunctions. We all have them in one way or another. We can't change anything we're unaware of. Allow yourself to be grateful for the awareness. Then we can allow ourselves to change what we want to when we're ready to. https://blossom.primal.net/695ba207d1d17c0d0a97eb8a29629d2643255fa0c087ea75fc01224123c04603.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller The attempt at the things we want to do is the most important thing. We may not know if it was good or not until long after. The attempt also allows us to get better at doing everything. We will never know unless and until we try. Give yourself the credit for all the things you try no matter what and always be kind to you along the way! https://blossom.primal.net/023f3d44d8b7499bd14761fb762377021f167f8fb7c2d68373c7357a32d42ab7.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller This may be one of the thoughts we have or even say when we begin spotting toxic people and seeing them for who they really are. I don't necessarily recommend actually saying this to them. It just causes drama we don't need in our lives, but sometimes it good to get it out of our system. Keep yourself safe if you do this though. https://blossom.primal.net/45b7fc0d4026155e8cf3b180d8fcba392cfe5d31fcbb44ce8c3caa5864532d23.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists live in an illusion that they try to project on everyone to hide who they really are. They don't want anything or anyone to shatter this illusion. The more we watch their behavior, the more it shows who they really are. We don't have to play their games or live in their illusion. Choose yourself and protect your peace! https://blossom.primal.net/c5a9382b607f197ca62a6a8f9c06a93670c6a34cf6c49bed727b447445b2a7c3.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's not logical someone would take joy in hurting others. Unfortunately narcissists enjoy watching us suffer. It's not right or ok, but it's true with most of them. You do not need people like this in your life and you don't have to participate. Find people who celebrate you, not your suffering. https://blossom.primal.net/e133845f9f2f6881df548d77abe9b431f781bbe1d347ba599af84c6403c24544.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Accountability and looking in the mirror at ourselves often only really hurts because of the shame and judgement we feel. This not only comes from society, but we often perpetuate this on ourselves. Without shame and judgement everything is simply experiences we can learn and grow from. https://blossom.primal.net/ac078ad3521e011b71d6500fa5f68a2669b19b7093f7be43a08870ead70c253b.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Toxic people project everything they do onto everyone else. Amidst the chaos and confusion they create it's sometimes hard to see that they are doing this. Once we see it, it's hard not to see. Until then, go easy on yourself for not spotting it sooner. We only see and understand things when we do and we can't force it any sooner. https://blossom.primal.net/f714f992b870ff1907098ccf86eb8caa712f192224d94c8dc403325d8d4e40b5.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many of us have so much shame that is holding us back in our lives. Learning to allow it to surface and then to release it is life altering. It allows us to move forward from things we didn't realize we were stuck in. It also allows new levels of peace and love in ourselves that we all deserve! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Subtle emotional abuse and manipulation is not easy to understand even when we see it in the beginning. It takes time to see what's actually happening. The important thing is we did figure it out or are figuring it out. The most important thing is to be kind to ourselves through the process. This allows us the clarity to move forward with our lives. https://blossom.primal.net/5d66381c2df50741061f08eafdf7d8217e90cd59251a5132e12d59c4f7116554.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists don't usually give an actual apology. It's always something like, "I'm sorry you feel that way" or something similar. The only possible exception is if it will make them look good to other people. If it doesn't seem sincere, it's probably not. Focus on you and what you need and give it to yourself. https://blossom.primal.net/fb1c5cf303f94e056321d40e6b55358e107d06b83a6e158372fbdd26663f1064.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Cutting people out of our lives is never easy. It's even harder the longer they've been in our lives. I think it's much more of a practice and a process than anything we ever get perfect. Give yourself the credit for continuing to learn better boundaries and hold them. https://blossom.primal.net/007e60be56414aa33d87ed526d4adc677f195af2e6a01afe07968409c0e46754.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We all want the easy route. I get it. I don't want to do the work either. The reality is that we don't get through things without doing the work. It's essential to find and release the resistance to why we don't want to do the work. Then we can move forward into the life we truly want to build and have. https://blossom.primal.net/1c0c755a5b8b1f59689aaf8dbe6d75f529c6b03673e36d6819ad146bdec75444.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller There's so much shame and judgement and negativity in the world already. We don't need to add any more to it or keep anyone that's negative in our lives. It doesn't mean we necessarily need to cut them off. We can choose to spend more time with positive, supportive people though. Most of all allow time and kindness for yourself! https://blossom.primal.net/45eb12c67ba48ef51c460aa99be12b47035431db2526e3e3adbcd0b845a4534b.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller They train and program us into isolation. Once we're there, in many ways it becomes more and more difficult to really know how bad our lives are. This is what they want. They can then do or say anything they want without us hearing that it's not ok. None of this is ok or healthy! Find support from people who care. They're out there! https://blossom.primal.net/05cee93f6ed7e1f1b146f3bddd314c6e0264deb0f217d294d173b370442cbcf9.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Choosing ourselves is one of the hardest things for most people to do. When we decide to let go of others it's even harder, especially if they won't let go and let us grow. Their resistance to us moving forward causes many of their own issues I think. Resistance in ourselves never works out well. https://blossom.primal.net/6f4b105d0e6b9221a8174282d3f8acc15f68145ec887380ea0bad48917f394fc.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Even if they were to or are treating us better, it doesn't change the way they treated us in the relationship. We don't have to forgive or allow anyone back into our lives that has abused us no matter what anyone else says. The most important thing is for us to heal, love ourselves and move forward with our lives. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It’s not just delivering the message or communicating. It’s how do I do this without adding anymore shame and judgement to what I’m saying. That’s one of the hardest things to do and it’s one of the absolute most important things we could ever do. No one needs any more shame or judgement in their lives. https://blossom.primal.net/4909de78004e6510bebc2233eb85814cafe6fe46d36f8f1f0184cee0795c214e.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It’s heartbreaking to have to make the choice to cut anyone out of our lives, especially if we love them. Choosing ourselves, our peace and our health makes that choice a little less hard. It’s still not easy. I continue to work on myself and heal and my hope is the same for everyone, so that no one ever has to make that choice about us. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller After abuse, we don't trust anyone!! This is helpful I think in the beginning while we heal. After that though, it just keeps everyone out including healthy people we may want in our lives. This is why doing the work to heal is so important. It's the only way to truly be free. Take the time and do the work! https://blossom.primal.net/c0978b5a533933a356dcd4e3cbfa779de4685a5db3527eb44e0b4977387150fe.png npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We all deserve love, compassion and kindness from our partners. If this isn’t something we’re receiving and they aren’t actively actually working on giving you those things. It’s probably time to think about what you actually want and if you want to stay in that kind of relationship. https://blossom.primal.net/f1ff22acc37e5c6dd012e1f4858b509aae1eb082fb9577ed93a341cefaf54fc5.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists rob you of your peace, but actually sneak in to steal all the control in your life. They don’t actually care about anything other than control. If they have control over you, they can get supply from you. We don’t have to respond or allow them to control us though. Take the time and do the work to heal and move forward with your life! https://blossom.primal.net/a7c8c29110a44ea5ca2b15dc26b105470bed242ebc4e5a1e6782b22b49959257.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists will try to hoover you back into the relationship and then lock you into it. They don’t just want to suck you back in, they want to trap you so they can continue to use and abuse you. The unfortunate thing is that we don’t truly see it until we do. Be kind with yourself no matter what happens or what you go through! https://blossom.primal.net/4582974e9ea6c0f1e65e3c117fe01a358e69bd37792224f88162b15ea3fd6705.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller The psychological prison of narcissistic abuse is very subtle and it often takes years or decades to figure out we've been trapped. Awareness is the first step in freeing yourself from this prison. 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We can move out whether we shatter their illusion or not. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists want to ruin everything, but they often use our words and language against us. They will gaslight us into believing that we are saying words or phrases wrong, just to mess with and confuse us. It has nothing to do with this and everything to do with control. What are the words or phrases your ex used against you? npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I'm sorry. I do not ever want anyone to think anything I talk about on my videos is calling them out, unless I clearly say that. I also don't post anything specific without getting permission first. It's never my intention to bring any additional shame, judgement or grief to anyone's life. While this video is a bit light hearted, please also realize I take all of this seriously. I love you all and thank you for being here!!❤️
