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Last Notes npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/92766855862c7e550e65fd676647e0a2b85b6934f7e85c1b9f77235f946b05ac.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I love bold, raw people and I think I understand why. Iām not witty, my face betrays what Iām thinking, lying gives me overwhelming anxiety, I donāt often read between the lines well. All of this creates some difficulty in relation with others who expect a layer of pretense over all their interactions. I can figure out the pretense. I can be good at picking up on what others are feeling. I've studied people. Iāve studied psychology. I can read people. But I donāt respect it. Itās exhausting. Itās wasteful. I donāt want to live with a layer of pretense draped over me. Itās heavy. It slows me down. I want to be free of the pretense, but doing that is a bit like being a dare devil. You canāt just wear your heart on your sleeve, you have to rip it out of your chest, throw it on the ground and pray no one steps on it. You have to be willing to watch the expression on peopleās faces fall when your words hit like a dagger to the gut. But if you want to be free there just isnāt any other way to be. Bold raw people stomp on my heart and yell at me when my words cut them. But their boldness and rawness gives me license to be the same. It gives me license to just be and saves me from the slow smothering death of pretense. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/10132f46576a8ac17c2fb0a699aac666b48746f669ce42c1ee017c9f59c74024.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/68bfd449cbb3a73cf3775a6a450d8acd0370b2533fee6851e51d81ed39bf11c3.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I think this one has lived in my subconscious a long time. I love boots, leather pants, all black outfits, eyeliner, arm tattoos, and driving convertibles through the desert! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://youtu.be/u9WgtlgGAgs?list=RD7vqXCuMvocc npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/643f111d917de4baf9ea6427b255243a6909a65e037f5a755abd69519942e720.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/4cb8cf2025aa29a3eab0756981401ffd539ce2f1a9a9d6da0b20e29dfee62068.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose My ongoing series of selfies where I try to convince my nervous system that airplane bathrooms are glamorous fun places and not hideous death traps. https://blossom.primal.net/af9b0d0c259e9c99a68b44ca098c033c1b0e5f4df5ff2ae605d4eea25781d855.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Of course npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/5d45f347cb1dc98be8b181fb8857178bbe5b7428a37a92dc1cb93c91a8721580.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I'm very optimistic. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose We donāt have a knowledge issue in our world anymore. We have all the worldās knowledge at our finger tips. So now itās all perspective and maturity issues. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I told Claude that Star Trek was my favorite Sci-Fi universe and it responded with... "A post-scarcity federation with no money feels like an interesting pick for someone who spends her days on payments infrastructure" š You wouldn't understand Claude, you wouldn't understand! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose wish you could what? and why can't you? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose My Facebook page as been so over run with execution blood lust and rape apologist bots that it's become nearly unusable. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose āA person who views the world the same at 50 as they did at 20 has wasted 30 years of their life.ā - Muhammad Ali npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose When people fail to add nuance to their statements/memes sometimes that is just laziness or ignorance, but more often I think it's intention. They want to make the subtle implications. Example, when someone makes a meme about Israel and American politicians but says "jews" instead of Netanyahu. Sometimes I want to add that nuance for them, and other times I'm like nah, they meant that. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose so ...its okay for a woman to consider a man dangerous by default and keep her distance from him to avoid SA? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose depends who started it and if they were at the same level of intoxication. and having not been there I can't say. But someone who's too intoxicated to consent is probably also too intoxicated to text the group chat about the "free pussy" upstairs. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose not quite sure what you mean. But no one can consent to anything when they are heavily intoxicated, male or female. they can't consent to sex, they can't consent to givng you their new iphone, nada. If you encounter a heavily intoxicated person you help them to bed. You give them a sandwich and a cup of tea, you absolutely do not try to have sex with them, you do not try to talk them into giving you their wallet, etc.. male or female. they are too altered. help them, don't try to take from them. It's just basic human decency. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/d420e2064b0963bb475c4fd26af84f2414e17bd7f046e77547e08b5429871af6.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/0184b12f7b72c5ecc2a62e94d3f5edfc7746807b95025f5f78184adf986de480.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I didn't make this meme but I'm guessing it was inspired by the Cornell 7 story and the 57 men in that group chat that didn't object to those texts. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose But shouldn't we be trying to move closer to a world where this could happen and your daughter would be just fine? We aren't there now, but we should be. Even if we assume that one out of 10 people would commit rape, in a busy room, if 9 out of ten people would stop a rape, then your daughter would be totally fine. We have such a big cultural issue with excusing rape and looking the other way when it happens. That is very fixable and we need to fix it like yesterday. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose someone who feels that the world is a safe place for them. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://youtu.be/TdrL3QxjyVw npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose And just cuz I think Itās hilarious, Iām showing you a glamorous photo of me while I tell you a very unglamorous story. Iāve had a bit of a cold and yesterday I sneezed so hard I peed myself. Like I had to go change my pants. Cuz you know life is all about balance. Dancing in a former palace in Portugal and peeing yourself while sitting on your bed scrolling Instagram. āÆļøāļøāļøš https://blossom.primal.net/8b4302eb927f3dcabddede2d7cb442ed37306691d8cfcabc74e1645ad31bd2f6.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose The internet is overrun with bots, bots designed to trigger fears, cause anger, and sway public opinion. If you are on here passionately posting away about the latest political hot topic, you have been taken in by this scam. These bot farms intentionally create division, between men and women, between trans and cis, between Christian and Muslim, on and on. Donāt get suckered. Do better. https://blossom.primal.net/baffcf3b2077076733a01487d5bb1c9d468a3303cb0876c75a322d055c3f0db9.mp4 npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose The bot farms seem to really be out and about swarming posts about this Cornell 7 case. Why? What do you suppose the bot farmers are up to? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/40cd5f307be177a372e3ef522c6d5af847d9038e727fe37d28de35e750a806cd.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/615fb092ac5db7e7a71635a9cf1bf60fd8034af0f1b7f5fcdb844ef8ac4b2057.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Why I love dive bars: I went out the other day to a dive bar in Chicago. I sat at the bar with the friend that I was there with, but it happened that there was another dude sitting a few seats away. He was very friendly. He chimed in on the conversation. He was very likely a bit autistic and told me all about the sports he likes. At some point in the evening he bought me a drink. We debated what to put on the jukebox and sang and danced along to Destiny's Child and N sync. When it came my time to go I said good night and thanked him for the drink. He said "thanks for your existence" and gave me a hug. And here is the thing, I think he meant that. I don't think he was trying to get laid, or trying to close a business deal, or trying to be in the right place at the right time to climb up some social status hierarchy. I think he was just genuinely happy to have shared a slice of life with another creature. How often do you encounter a person who tells you "thanks for your existence" and means it?? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Iāve read a lot of things on Economics, I have a whole degree in Economics! But the below are the ones that I think about the most. Which econ books/writings are your favorites and why? Basic Economics by Thomas Sowell ā I love this book for itās ability to explain topics in such a simple and easy to digest fashion. The Mystery of Banking by Murray Rothbard ā taught me more monetary theory than my whole university degree. The Use of Knowledge in Society by Friedrich Hayek ā Far too dense to share with normies, but it does such an amazing job of explaining that prices are how we crowd source info on the needs and wants of a society. Why Nations Fail by Daron Acemoglu and James A. Robinson ā I think about this book nearly everyday. There are so many theories out there as to what makes a country āgreatā and this book destroyed my ability to take nearly any of them seriously. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose O it's complex. But ya know most predators were themselves victims. Assault can leave someone pretty messed up and if you manage that trauma by leaning into anger(misplaced anger) and by trying to prove it won't happen again by dominating before you can be dominated... then you become a predator. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Men are perfectly capable of being both horny and respectful. Rape is not caused by testosterone. Rape is caused by poor moral values. Rape happens when there is horniness mixed with the concept that itās appropriate to dominate/denigrate/control others. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/4cbabd5e185c99f3384f1eaecc896ffe7ff65a6d80d11dc9a736aab5efebb6ff.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose If you are someone who has ever asked yourself āif they were assaulted why did they act like everything was fine?ā, or āwhy didnāt they report it sooner/at all?ā or āIf they were being abused why didnāt they just leave?ā If you ponder these things, if you genuinely want the answers, I have them for you! The answers can be found in two books⦠Trauma and Recovery by Dr Judith Herman Virginia Roberts Giuffreās memoir Nobodyās Girls And Iād highly recommend reading them in that order. I need to warn you, these are tough reads. They contain stories of the worst of humanity, they are graphic. If you want to understand how the human mind manages trauma, those books are where the knowledge lies. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose But you can't teach people to be decent, can you? If you have to explain to someone why coercing someone into sex is a bad thing to do, then really you just need to stay away from that person. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Consent is very easy to understand when you think about assault/rape like theft. You have a shiny new iPhone. You are hanging out with friends and one of them asks you to give them your new phone. You decline. This friend then waits for you to get nearly black out drunk and then asks you again and when you are busy rambling on about it they take your iPhone. Theft. You are alone with a friend in their car. they ask for your iPhone. You say no. They are twice your size. they push you into the corner, doors locked, and ask you for your iPhone another 15 times in a row. You know you aren't leaving that car with your iPhone, you stop struggling and let them take the iPhone so that you can just leave the car. Theft. Do you get it? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/a7a512c109b8c88d523d6f696c6446ba3ebf0dc4e04bd16996e489040be50244.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/4192681e21950737cbf3aa9d9c043150b48f30d3229d07c43020e5c9d206e0c3.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Rape isn't a man vs woman issue, it's a cultural issue. Y'all would be shocked at the number of men I know who have also been assaulted. This issue comes from our zerosum hierarchical mindset. Rape is never about sex, it is always about power. For as long as we have a desperate need to be "above" overs, rape culture will continue. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I posted the story of me being roofied and a lot of you were really sweet and said lovely things š«¶ But the point I want to make here is that this story isnāt an aberration, this is the norm in our world. If you were at all surprised by my story then I want you to know that I have many more stories and I am one of the lucky ones. There is the time a gray haired man tried to hire me for āa dateā when I was 12 yrs old. The numerous times men followed me down the street or sat across from me on public transit masturbating. The too many to count incidences of groping. That one time a young man followed me into my apartment building and attacked me in the elevator. Etc, etc. And here is the really terrifying part, my stories are nothing compared to the stories of nearly all the women that I know. At least I was never assaulted by my family members. Iāve never been drugged and trafficked to my partners friends. I was never assaulted by a doctor I was in the care of. Iāve never been trapped in an abusive relationship. Iāve never been beaten by the person who is supposed to love and care for me. I am one of the lucky ones. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/58b52e72f5280b527237d59ca0feb6579089c2d71c6c95b3c2c0f7e282b81c21.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose When I was in my early 20ās I went out drinking one night, by myself, a not infrequent occurrence⦠I was lonely. One evening there was some dude sitting next to me at the bar. We talked for hours. In hind sight I can see that I talked for hours and he humored me. I was lonely, that felt amazing. I wasnāt really that into him but we had a lot of fun and wound up going back to his place to sleep off all the drinks we had. We messed around a bit, but nothing much. We had only just met each other. In the morning he walked me to the train station. There were no issues. We kept in touch via telephone. One time he called me and invited me to come with him and his friends out to Arizona! I didnāt have money for a vacation. He insisted that he would cover it, the flights were cheap and he already had the room booked. I was very clear with him that I barely knew him and I didnāt know if I wanted to have sex with him. I told him very clearly that I didnāt want that to be the expectation. He said that was just fine, he wanted to get to know me, it would be fun. So I agreed to go. I was lonely. As soon as I got there and he picked me up I knew it wasnāt going to work out. When I was sober he was just crass and uninteresting. But I was there, it was only the weekend and so I decided to lean in and give it a try. We went skinny dipping in the hotel pool. That was fun. The second night we went out for drinks with his friends. He brought me my second glass of wine. I began to drink it and was in a great mood, was chatting with everyone and went outside to smoke a cigarette with new bar friends. As I was standing outside smoking I started to feel really weird. Like the alcohol hit me way too hard. I had only just started my second drink. I went back in and told him that I was feeling funny. āItās probably just the heat. Drink your wine!ā was his response. I did drink more of the wine. Before I even got to the bottom of that glass of wine I started to feel like my body was just shutting down. Itās a terrifying sensation. I told him I felt horrible, he suggested we head back to the hotel. I remember trying like hell to stay awake in the taxi. I remember trying to walk through the hotel lobby. I donāt remember much else. I woke up the next morning in the hotel room clothed, but not wearing the same clothes as I was the night before. I genuinely have no idea what happened to me that night. Your guess is as good as mine. The though of course crossed my mind that he may have drugged and raped me. But I immediately pushed that thought away. Itās such a horrific idea to hold, the idea that someone could really do that to you. I asked him what happened last night and he said āyou werenāt feeling well. It was probably heat stroke. It gets people all the time out here.ā I donāt have a problem with heat. I love heat. I live on a tropical island! It was absolutely fucking not heat stroke. But I chose to just believe that story. My whole life Iād been breathing in the victim blaming culture. The shame of what might have happened was far too intense to look directly at. Of course it would have been all my fault. If thatās what happened then itās just proof of what a stupid slut I am. Why was I there if I did want him to fuck me? I should have chosen better. Of course itās on me to always choose right. If he had rapped me that would be evidence of what poor choices I make. Evidence of how stupid and worthless I am. I chose to believe that nothing happened. I took a shower and tried not to vomit. I told no one. My period was a month late. I spent that month living with a cloud of shame hovering over me. Itās not a story I like to think about. I can think of him now only as a grotesque monster. Indeed he wasnāt a good looking dude at all, but it wasn't his face that made him monstrous. I canāt even remember his name. I donāt want to remember. But these experiences get trapped in our bodies. When we swallow them down they fester and poison us. We need to speak about these things. We need to tell the story as it was. We need shame to change sides. I donāt know exactly what happened to me that night, but I do know that I was drugged and that the person who drugged me is the person who owns the shame of that evening. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I saw a post asking how the Cornell 7 story might have played out differently if the 7 had been black men. And well that's an uncomfortable thought experiment. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose hmm, not sure what you mean. Anger should be a part of your life. Experimenting and updating your knowledge and perspective should be a part of your life. Always. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/d23aacc69f9e20fa94a7a425ed52cd0f2db67e3fffa3b741533730e438f66ea9.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/a4cb8589c28ff3256e02ce93bb05f5bc82770211d2c3d3282cd15bb0c2699a67.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Also, I'm stealing this line "stuck to the same rock as you" npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Sometimes it's important to set standards for the people watching. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Sometimes I genuinely am socially clueless and completely miss the context. Sometimes I play dumb and ask people clarifying questions just to put them on the spot when they've said something gross. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I posted about exclusion panic yesterday and a few people tried to tell me that it only applies to women. I think that is dangerously wrong, and ironic. Our current cultural concept of being a āreal manā is one of the best examples of the effectiveness of exclusion panic. We train boys from a young age to act invincible⦠show no weakness! This is a horrific thing to do to them. It makes them blind to themselves, cuts them off from community, cripples their humanity. But very often they absorb it, accept it. Why? Because if they donāt they will be excluded, ridiculed. They kill off parts of themselves because the exclusion panic is too great. Too effective. The concept of the "manly man" is dependent on exclusion panic to survive and perpetuate. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Here is what is monumentally stupid about gender wars: We are interdependent, anything that is bad for half of humanity is bad for all of humanity. Letās say that we find some flaw in humanity that only applies to men or women. Well, if itās a problem for half of humanity, itās a problem for all of humanity. The only reasonable response is to help improve the situation for the betterment of all of us. Should we find a flaw in one half of humanity and we try to use that to belittle, degrade, or diminish half of humanity, we are harming humanity as a whole. Do ya see that? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose This is so, so simple y'all. Men need women. Women need men. Anything that is bad for half of humanity is bad for all of humanity. The end. Gender wars are an utter fucking waste of time. An obvious rage bait divide and conquer. Please stop falling for it. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Humans are a social species. A profound terror of not fitting in is built into us as a survival instinct. The more you deny it, the more susceptible you are to it. To manage it, learn to notice your exclusion panic and make conscious choices about it. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I really highly recommend studying human sexuality for the very, very selfish reason that it will dramatically improve your enjoyment of your love life. And cuz Iām such a thoughtful person, Iāll tell you my best ever tip for having a better love life⦠Context. I know, that sounds super unsexy, but please trust me, itās the sexiest thing ever! For pretty much everyone, but generally even more so for women, context sets the bounds of your ability to enjoy an encounter. Also generally for women, safety is a primary concern. Even if they are currently in a safe and healthy relationship, quite likely the hypervigilance necessary in previous times in their life is still with them. Parasympathetic nervous system activation is necessary for arousal. Translation, if you canāt relax, if you donāt feel safe, youāll never have an orgasm. This is of course a complex topic, exceptions apply, but thatās a good TLDR to remember. For me personally, to have an enjoyable experience, I have to feel safe, heard, understood, respected. If those elements are not in place, then my guards(hypervigulance) will stay with me. My guards will only take the night off if Iām convinced that Iām actually connecting with my partner. If Iām convinced that Iām actually being seen. So for me that pretty much always means a lot of conversation. A good date night for me nearly always starts with a long conversation while sharing a bottle of wine. Creating a relaxing conversation. Chiseled abs, fancy moves, a great playlist, none of that moves the needle for me. Itās all about the conversation. But you need to know what your context is. Iām really very boringly a pretty standard issue woman. And my trauma and complexities are also pretty standard issue. So if you are woman, my context is likely to work well for you too. Or maybe not. You gotta experiment and figure out what it is for you. But the best thing I ever did for my love life was to stop having sex outside a context that works well for me. Just donāt do it. Ever. It will just build resentment. But then do really focus on creating a context that works for you and your partner! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I would guess that this post is contrary to your understanding of the United States and so bothers you. But I will explain. It's commentary on the concept of illegal immigration. There is a common narrative in our politics that says that "illegal" immigrants, or sometimes immigrants at all, don't belong here and are a detriment to the country. This meme points out what things would be like if there never were immigrants here. It points out the hypocrisy of how we discuss these things. Now of course this is a big discussion. When is immigration okay or not. Who gets to decide. How immigrants change a place. When have a people have lived in a place long enough that that is now their home. How immigrants have or should integrate themselves into the existing culture, etc. It's a lot! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose a few reasons... 1. I don't have that kind of time/energy 2. Adam and Eve are ideas and not real people. 3. That wouldn't be relevant to the point that this meme is making. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/5d4d1059fcf0476845ba887a2beeaff180ed95abf9c96d00a1718cb0b9550c0d.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose āEveryone wants to live at the expense of the state. They forget that the state lives at the expense of everyone.ā ā Frederic Bastiat There is some truth to this, but it is built on a misunderstanding of humanity. Humans are communal creatures. We want, and need, to live with the support of our community. So where is the line between āat the expense ofā and āwith the support ofā? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Just your periodic reminder that ādismantling the patriarchyā does not mean hating on men. It means working towards a more humane world that doesnāt subjugate women and doesnāt treat men like ATMās, robots, or cannon fodder. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose You can spot the ideologically possessed by how they handle nuance. ...they can't. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/2c1a52cea44f7aa95e7c98e93078b8e0c1838a523f47307bad2b709655799977.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/983e1e58ace179189320354d7a513021763ffcb837006e75f8bdd39ca34b4131.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose not sure what ya mean npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/dfaacb077f16ab3b8d06efa0734a75c2a485e81adf11c69eb8d8f900f5d29e27.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Y'all ever tried to parallel park in one of those fancy half automated cars? I was driving a friends fancy car in the city the other day and had to parallel park and the thing wouldn't stop beeping at me. It's like 'you are very close to something in the front right side!'... 'and now you are very close to something in the back left side!!!' ...'OMG OMG now you are very close to two things!! VERY CLOSE! VERY CLOSE!' And I'm like bro shut up! How does such a smart car not know how parallel parking works?!?! Very annoying, but pretty funny. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I've spent too much time on LinkedIn... I'm now going to refer to myself as a dynamic leader š
...a dynamic leader who will now collaborate with key stakeholders while being an international keynote speaker. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/35335108dfc8e0088110e409f03e9619a9091a545fb6f3c2ffde889a9b718cfa.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Mostly Facebook, but yes sometimes on nostr. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose So many cowardly misogynists in my comments lately. If I post anything supporting women not being abused in the world they will show up to try to find some flaw in what I said. If I post anything critical of patriarchy they will find some reason to lay into me and accusing me of being hateful. And when I finally just ask them if they support patriarchy⦠poof, they disappear. Until the next post of course. Utter fucking cowards. Just come out and say you want the world to be a straight male dominated hierarchy! And yes I am certainly going to tell you to fuck off and block you. But geez dude, itās just social media. Have the courage of your convictions. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/03899e90770b31247b2134f7dd1bd509656ec3af04d000ba451939b0251abee9.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Don't edit your own videos if you want to hold on to your self esteem lol https://blossom.primal.net/ba61e991c7e27c590854667a2aea7f1b2f98c16b23c72c30531f70123c2d7ea8.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose O geez no, I don't have the energy for that! ...at least not right now. Ask me again in a few years! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/48f0ea820480799ba6f0719da5ecf5c1a8798371cdc4a8f301bea3f8c66a92f9.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I hear a lot that Islam is just a more inherently hateful religion than Christianity. But when I do some research on the Quran vs the Bible, I don't find clear evidence of that. The bible actually has a higher total number of patriarchal versus. And I remember all the wildly violent stories from the old testament... wow. So, if you are someone who holds this view, who thinks that Islam is inherently more hateful... not just that Islam is currently being practiced in more brutal ways around the world which is clearly the case, but if you think this is the result of something inherent to Islam, please provide me the evidence of that. I don't want your angry rant, I don't want your outrage. I want your evidence. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I don't think disciplined is the right word. More like understanding, or open. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose āTo blame feminism for the decline of the traditional family is to admit that the old ways relied on womenās oppression to sustain it.ā npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I have a general policy of calling people out when I hear them say ugly things. And nearly always those people will get angry at me for that and say all sorts of things such as āYouāre too sensitiveā or āI have free speechā and my favorite, āItās just a word!ā And yes, they are entirely correct. Itās just a word, and words donāt really matter, itās just a sound. But, intentions do matter. I donāt care about the word itself, I care about the intention. āBitchā is a good example. I will at times call a friend a ācrazy bitchā, but in a playful context where it is clear that my intention is joking or even complementary. That same friend may have just yesterday encountered some asshole at a bar that got mad at her when she wasnāt interested in him and called her a āfucking bitch!ā In that context itās clear that his intention was to insult her and to insult her specifically because she is a woman. And this friend is going to respond to these two situations very differently. Same word, very different intentions. Itās always all about the intention. The same word is a very different thing when used light heartedly vs when used as an insult. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose A threat to justice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose That which can be asserted without evidence can be dismissed without evidence. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/85699b03ec75e94f7206c211372565794ffa3210420a835f40986cde95bb0a7a.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/c71f54e0ae2d2c9112e0c96177f59aa482bf59a7a93ac0d97360b6c033ee3ae6.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I have the best friends. They send me shit like this. Pure internet gold. https://blossom.primal.net/f7c4d3d65fc6c8eec72b42688b29dda9bd21d1fe49bef81f5ac09f8b9e6b2f7e.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose ...are you one of the 5?!?!? lol npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Like this, this is rage bait. I'm sure someone out there actually thinks this, but probably 5 someone's. And ya gotta admit, this shit is hilarious! Love it! š https://blossom.primal.net/5cdebd96e128b787bdd2dc0a3bd57ef1da59201b167ae1a8f58afe85cef6c7f0.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/6dd2a0d319ee0996baca0dc7673e2377aa247729005a915f209fb5294460be39.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/41a9135ce106049b4905effa7a656778a6e5fc1b1a688247e70b7d22742242b7.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose So this phermonemaxing thing, this is a silly but good example of the online rage machine. I don't think anyone IRL is actually doing this. It's manufactured outrage. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/b1e792875fbdc4ce81f40985d626eccf0b96293280798069b083453f7dab00e4.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Well thank you for the excellent example. You are what I am talking about here. I hope you find freedom one day. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose everyone back in their box!!! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose you think repression is a good thing? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I got in trouble with Erik the other day. We were doing silly āwould you rather..ā types of questions and he asked me āIf you were going to have a thruple who would it be with?ā And I instantly answered the obviously correct answer... āJavier Bardem and Penelope Cruz!ā But apparently I misunderstood the question and he meant who would I invite to OUR thruple, ya know, with him⦠oopsie š¤£š¤£ Note: We were just joking. Please donāt DM me about thruples. ...can you imagine the logistics on that? Itās hard enough to be always compromising with one person nevermind two! No thanks. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Humans are incredibly variable and adaptive... but we evolve slowly. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose In some ways men are far more socially repressed than women are. ...they can't even paint their nails without massive social shame. Yikes. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Nah, claiming that you can evolving humans that quickly requires some evidence! What ya got? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose But I don't think that Dunbar's number can scale. We just have to come up with structures that meet with human instincts. ...at least for the next few thousand years as humans evolve very slllllooooooowly.